Male Superior for her firsttime. The first penetration being what it is. Make damn sure that she has an orgasm during the second penetration which should almost immediately follow the first.

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Dear EliasFiani,
I'd definitely recommend cowgirl! :)

Why? She can control exactly what you two are doing. For one thing; this could make her feel a little less nervous. Secondly, she will be able to put it inside her bit by bit, as far and as slowly as she'd like it to be. Thirdly, she will be able to change angles easily to see what's comfortable, instead of asking you to do so. Remember: she's going to feel something she's never felt before, so it may not even be so easy for her to give you directions when you're on top. Think about it like you having a little itch on your back. How hard is it to tell someone where and how hard to scratch? Exactly; not that easy... Not to mention she might be a little shy giving you directions. Perhaps even speechless and overwhelmed.

Now where do you come into play when she's on top? You can help her a little by angling her hips. You can caress her body easily because both your hands are free, further arousing and comforting her (something that's harder to do with you on top). You won't have to worry about you might hurt her; just lay back and enjoy! And when she's found the right angle, you could join her by thrusting. Just easy, easy, easy on this cowgirl, cowboy! ;)

O, and I'd advise an orgasm for her before all this even starts. She needs to be sooooo ready for you! For me; all this was a guarantee to a painfree and very pleasurable first time! One last note; if she doesn't succeed putting it in, it gets sore for her in a short while or you don't finish with a orgasm the first time; just don't worry and try again later :) Most important is that you both enjoy. Only then will she come back for more! ;)

(So I don't know what EEK tries to say by: "The first penetration being what it is." cause I do believe it really matters. And I would be careful about going for a second penetration. Her body will have to get comfortable with the movement inside her not to mention mentally, nothing strange about that. So, I'd say: only if she'd specifically ask you to go for a second time.)

Yes, give the girl control over what happens when she hasn't got a clue...that makes sense?

Yes, makes very much sense! Cause she's the one who exactly feels what is happening inside her. Impossible for him to feel it for her. Also: finding physical match is different between each couple, so there's not much advantage in him being more experienced either...

Dear EliasFiani, whatever you two choose to do, I guess best advice would be to ask her to listen to her (gut)feeling about the position she is most comfortable with. Perhaps even better: let her go with the flow while making out and progressing towards sex (just don't forget protection on the way ;)). This certainly did the trick for me! :)

By what i learnt from an ex girlfriend is to take it in stages and slowly, take it as far as she wants to go until shes ready to do it and isnt nervous, I can remember that we kissed and touched until a few times until she wanted to do it. I would have lube there as well to be used. When we first did it i was on top as she didnt know what to do at all. Over time we tried new things. some of sex positions didnt always work or too hard to do.

[quote]i m not saying that i m more experience, but it would help, right???
i think i m more nervous about it than she is, she s special to me, and i dnt want to ruin it[/quote]
Dear EliasFiani,
I'm sorry I thought you were more experienced. I guess it was because of the topic: 'my girl friend first time' lead to me assuming it wasn't your first time. So; is it? Let me just say this: if you are careful, caring and most of all:loving, you won't ruin anything. So please don't worry. Beautiful that she's so special to you! Especially cause you probably are more nervous than she is, I'd still recommend the cowgirl-position. You won't have to worry about getting it in right and not hurting her.

[quote]some of sex positions didnt always work or too hard to do.[/quote]
This is probably the reason why I won't recommend male superior. Cause you will have to search for a position, while she still has to accustom to the feeling. in my experience: missionary is all about getting my legs right and you have little freedom to move around as a girl (took a lot of trial and error and communication over different love-making-sessions; no honey, a little to the left, no the entrance is a little higher, ouch-stop!, please let me get my leg over your shoulder, etc and my bf was very experienced. ;)). It was really funny and it's very orgasmic to both of us now! But we were both happy we didn't do this for my first time. As mentioned: physical aligning is something every couple needs to experiment with. I just think that with a girl on top, almost any alignment is possible cause their is so much freedom to move, every depth with complete controll and all different angles: from all the way flat on het tummy towards your face, to with her back straight up, to leaning back completely :)

Any advice on this positioning aside: best way would still be to let her follow her instincts on what feels right. I was recommended missionary by different sources, but I just felt like cowgirl was my thing and it was! It was only afterwards I discovered people such as the doc recommend it on this site.

[quote]one thing i m sure of, we never got shy while "trying new stuff"... and i guess thats good?? i m not sure about the orgasm, she passed out twice before... i usually go for an orgasm but not all the way to the "squirting part", and she likes it, should that do the trick???[/quote]
Wow! She must be having really really good orgasms! Good for you! :) And it's great you don't get shy! I understand the concern about orgasms, cause you probably wouldn't want her to pass out, is that correct? Let me just put it this way: she just needs to feel very ready, slippery and wet. And maybe, for her that's an almost-not-squirting-orgasm. Just keep communicating and you'll do fine! O, and best to read the article the doc has referred you to.

Last note: remember: Relax and enjoy! A little exciting nerves is ok, but no more than that is really necessary :)

[quote] i felt stupid and silly, because i usually do it for satisfaction not for love... i guess thats why i m nervous!!! and it feels like it is my first time??[/quote] Well, all I can say is that's just a beautiful thing about love. I think you should regarded it as an addition and new dimension on sex.

[quote]i care too much about her not passing out because last time she did, it was for almost 8 hours... and she got me worried!!! [/quote] I would have been worried as well! Was she really unconscious for 8 hours?! Or something like fainting and getting back concious all dizzy, headaches or something like that? If I were her I would ask a doctor about the passing-out(!)

[quote]she insists on me being in top because " she trusts me "...[/quote]
She trusts you, that's a good thing! One of the firm basics of love and relationships. Though I wouldn't say it's got something to do with positioning (I did trust him with my life, but still preferred otherwise), but that doesn't matter; it's how she feels about it and she has a clear preference :)

[quote]we went all the way, but we never made love... and she enjoys it a lot she keep asking for more!!![/quote]
Could you be more specific about what 'all the way' means?

[quote]should i just go easy on her, and keep a good conatct??? [/quote]
Well, I guess you just hit the answer yourself :)

[quote]is there any possibility that she might faint because of the pain, because she is a bit sensitive in that area???[/quote]
There's a very good chance of her not experiencing any pain at all! Perhaps a little discomfort, amazement, etc. See a doctor about the fainting to find out what's causing it.

[quote]i guess she should go to a doc before we do it, right? i mean so we won't take any risks..[/quote]
That would be my advise, yes.