[QUOTE=Quote (lou @ April 26 2003,13:35)]Hey everybody, my name is lou and I'm 18.  O.k., here I go.  I have gone down on my girlfriend one time and I can't tell if she liked it or not because she can be kind of shy when it comes to talking about that kind of thing.  She doesn't think it's gross for a guy to go down but she thinks it's gross for a girl to go down.  I can't figure why she's like that.  I love her to death but my all time biggest fantasy is for her to go down on me and I need to figure out a way to show her that it's not gross.  Any comments would be very much appreciated.[/QUOTE]
If you have a great relationship with her, just as her maturly. I'm sure she will tell you.

sorry to hear about ur problem. yea and usually its the other way around its just expected for girls to give oral but guys can be more hesitant. like your g/f i am also shy and was really nervous the first time i went down on my b/f. i didn't think it was gross but i just didn't want to do something wrong or whatever. i still dont let him cum in my mouth though i have yet to become completely comfortable w/ that. several times he has cum a little and i just dont think i could handle a whole load. anyways... back to your problem. i guess first off you 2 could shower together just so everything is nice and fresh. maybe if you put something over your eyes so that she knows u are not watching her would make her more comfortable... thats how i was the first few times. now my b/f loves to watch me
also just tell her at first to just lick and suck on the tip, that she doesn't have to have your whole cock in her mouth. maybe she's like me... doesn't want you to cum in her mouth. is that the part she thinks is gross? or is it just BJs in general. just reassure her you wont cum in her mouth and just let her start out giving you a handjob then move on to maybe a little mouth and tongue action. otherwise i dont know what advice to give.. if she is #### bent on not ever giving you oral then you have 2 choices live w/out oral or find another g/f.

Have you asked her what specifically she finds gross about it? It's hard to argue with her objections without knowing what they are. Whatever her reasons, she may be more comfortable with it if you use a condom. That way, she won't have to worry about the taste or whatever else she considers gross about it. It's a good idea to use a condom (and a dental dam) for oral sex anyway, to avoid STDs.

I say this a lot but its important,communication in a relationship is very important, whether it be about sex or how long you sat on the toilet, whatever it is, it is very important to communicate with each other.
With that said, I used to be shy about doing it that could be why she doesnt want to do it because maybe she has never done it before and doesnt want to do it wrong. If that is the case then just tell her what you like and dislike so that way when she does do it she knows what she is doing.
Or maybe she really thinks its gross. The reason for that may be because when a girl goes pee she wipes and a guy doesnt, so maybe if you want her to do it, wash your penis after you go pee. That might make her not think its gross anymore.
You have to figure out which one it is, then you can resolve the problem. Good Luck.

Here's a bit of advice I would offer to anyone whose partner is a little reluctant to discuss matters of sex.

Bring her here! Let her see regular people having regular discussions about sex. She might then be more inclined to open up herself, hopefully to you or to others here.

Good luck!

well at first my gf wasnt very willing to becaue she thought shed be bad so take it in steps my gf was really good at handjob so i just told her to put her mouth over the head and foloow her hand with her head i hope you know what i mean.. but ne ways this way she was comfortable giving head she wouldnt swallow but i was fine with that.. it takes time just go in steps

All women are hesitant. Some of us get over that and some do not. You have three months experience. If it is the same in a year, she may be among that group who just plain will not. Some famous madam in one of her books stated that, "... married women willing to give blow jobs would put her out of business."

Now, if she wants to discuss it, get her here or send me email. If it is you , discussing will not help much.

I used to never want to do it and swore I wouldnt because number one, I thought it was gross and two, I thought I would be bad. After the first time I knew I was horrible but after that felt the urge to do it whenever I was being touched 'down there'... I think with time you learn how you like the feel and how he likes it done, it's just a matter of comfort and mastering a "skill" as I read on this site or the bettersex site... great lovers are made not born!

Lou-
me and my girlfriend "deflowered" each other about...6 months ago and we still havn't gone down on each other....its like we skipped all the steps and went straight to the sex. I think my gf is hesitant too but im just giving her time. little by little she seems to be touching me more so im hoping one of these days we will both go down on each other. its something i look forward to happening too.

SR

sometimes you can let nature do its thing, sometimes you can guide nature to satisfy your needs....

what you need is someone on the inside, a close girlfriend perhaps... what needs to happen is that your girl friend needs to hear about how "not sick" oral is, and how much pleasure they get out of knowing that they are giving so much pleasure, have so much control, etc... Not only that, the more you give the more you get...

Your girlfriend's "programming", or up bringing, has instilled a strange value within her, and you need her to realize for herself that she has it all wrong. If you bring it up directly, you will be clashing heads... you want her to do it, she doesn't... no good can come of it. As a result, she needs to hear about it from people that she admires in a sexual level.

You don't want to wait a long time for her to realize that giving can be as enjoyable as receiving, so speed up the process by introducing a catalyst. Make sure the 3rd party is trust worthy, and close enough that your girl would at least listen while she talked about it...

Good luck