Thanks guys for any imput.
First of all, I am still a virgin, today I actualy just went to third for the first time with my girlfriend, it was my first time actually "going down there" on a girl, but thankfully my girlfriend put my hand where she liked it the best, and I took it from there and it was awesome.
Anyways, before I start on the sex thing, afterwards she gave me a handy, and well, I was definatly aroused but I just couldn't seem to bust. Is this normal? Its happened before with other girls and it may actually be a good thing when it comes to sex. I attribute it to me being nervous and me having my own 'routine" and being used to it, and not knowing how to react to something different. but their is nothing wrong with me right?
Now, onto sex. I am going to go in and be as confident as I can, she isnt a virgin, she knows I am. I am excited to do it, I just don't want it to be ackward or anything. The one problem I have, I am 17 but I am really Tall and skinny. I don't necessarrrily love the way I look with my shirt off. Like I am not like anorexic or anything, just naturally skinny and tall. Is it uncommon for couples to have sex with their clothes on? or is that totally absurd? Any tips on how i can handle this? I mean, if it came down to me growing a pair and just ripping off my shirt, so be it but I'd be more confident going into the day if I knew I DIDN'T HAVE to.
I am really excited guys,I know it will be awesome. Any input would be great.
As far as your lack of ability to climax, you are correct. It is mostly related to nerves, and the difference in sensation and physical stimulation. There is nothing wrong with you. Relax and enjoy the new sensations, also give her input as to what you enjoy (yes, we do like to her it), meaning harder, firmer, slower, faster, etc.
Most people get naked! Trust me, because you feel lanky it's not a big deal. The feel of skin to skin contact is a major turn on especially a man's chest against a woman's. You need to take your pants off, zippers are killers! If it's driving you up a wall leave your shirt on; however, it's much nicer with it off. She probably has similar feelings about her body too. There are part we all would prefer to hide, but that's what makes us unique.
Relax, have fun and enjoy yourself. Let the hesitancy go! And use appropriate birth control.
If you worry about how you look, do it in the dark or with just enough light to see by. To tell the truth, very few people look really good naked. I used to be self-conscious, because even though I'm a security officer and I have to work out, I can never seem to look like what's portrayed on TV. Some people have it, others don't. Your partner probably worries about the way she looks, too! Very few people believe they are perfect/super sexy, and those who do have either worked to get over their insecurities or are just egotistical.
Relax. Relax. Relax. Forget what those manufactured people you see on the tv and in the movies look like. They aren't real and the films are edited. Just get naked and go for it. You are perfectly normal for a male of 17 years.
get naked. get her naked. that way you will both beable to relax. just take your time with foreplay. my first time, the foreplay lasted nearly 2 and a half hours. o and make sure you use protection.
thank you all very much for the input. Looks like Mom is going to be home tomorrow so we might have to wait untill the weekend. But, you guys gave me a load of confidence. I am sure she feels the same way, if your gonna do it though, might as well make it be special right? You guys are the best, thanks again.
well let us know how it goes, but just relax bear in mind it won't be your best performance as it is the first and that's natural and get to it naked much nicer
oh boy guys, so it was saturday night, home alone. and we got right to it. foreplay, fingering, etc. After she was wet enough I was soon on top of her, and well, it was like 40 year old virgin jazz haha. I went to go grab a condom and me, after being an idiot and not practiing on putting one on, couldn't manage to do it, and she didn't know how to do it either.
Lol, so after multiple attempts in the bathroom, I came to the assumption that they were to small, so we ran to the store and bought large and I came home and was like"Oh man" haha, wayy to big. So I relaxed and went back to the old ones, figured out the technique and finally got it on.
So we started to do it, and after a few times of either the condom falling off or me popping out we finally got to it. Only problem was, just like the handjobs and head, I couldn't seem to cum.
I'm not going to freak out, thankfully she told me she climaxed so that made me feel good but I want to know what was wrong with me. I am going to attribute it to first time nerves, me having fear of the condom falling off, parents coming home, etc. It wasen't like I had a hard time keepiing it up or anything.
BTW, I am FINE when it comes to masterbation etc, so I know I can do it. Hopefully this week I can just relax...haha
If you're nervous just take a nap with her naked. It'll be fun, and you'll become more comfortable with both of your bodies on top of each other. You might not even fall asleep by the time you're both horny enough to have a great sexual experience.
hmm, taking a nap naked...good idea. Might have to give that one a try
any other tidbits on why i couldn't cum? I really hope its just nerves. Hopefully I can fix everything when I see her tomorow.
well being around one another naked as much as possible will get you both comfortable with one another and get that out of the way