I am 21 year old male and have just joined this site. I have not yet have had the pleasure of having sex but hope it won't be long. I just don't know how to approach a girl and let them know that's what I want to do. Don't get me wrong I know most girls don't want to just have sex, and am not looking to do just that. I don't think I'm scared to do it, it just has not happened. I am shy for one thing which is, I believe, one of the main reasons in not yet having sex. Not to even mention never having dated either.
Yes, that's a bummer. I have thought of asking some of my female friends if they would be willing to have sex with me but I am afraid of losing their friendship. For a long time I feared my penis was small and no one would date me for it. I have since found out it's not all that small but not super big. It is 7in.
In the past year sex has stayed on my mind a lot. Many times I start getting a little depressed or worried that I will never get to have sex. What can I do? Or how can I approach a friend about it?
If you want to go to a friend, choose a female friend who you have had lengthy discussions with, you should know if she has an attraction to you. And just tell her the problem. See what her response is, ask her if she ever had a friends with benefits relationship. Be certain though the one you speak to this about has an open mind when it comes to sex.
When I began college I had a male friend who was a good friend, I had no romantic interests in but was very attracted to him physically. We would catch a movie or dinner together if we were not dating someone exclusively, and both of us were attracted to each other, so we took it to a sexual relationship, had fun, enjoyed the other's company. It worked well. Still are friends today (25 years later), he is married so the sex part is off limits. After I divorced, I had a friend who I took up with sexually, he was much younger then I, we had no interest in a romantic/dating relationship, wanted different things for our lives, and remain FWB 7 years later. The only times we halted the sex part is when one was engaged to someone else but we would still meet for lunch or dinner--just no sex. He is a good enough friend, I can ask him anything as he does of me.
Gently explore the idea with one, but be upfront with what you do want, do not mislead her. Your size is good, don't even go there!
I have had specifically sexual relationships. One had a situation very similar to what yours' is. He had evidently learned what Sera is suggesting to you. We had been fairly good friends and he was generally aware of my sexual history. We talked about his situation and I led him to bed. After the newness wore off, he became a decent lover and within a few months was dating other women. It did not harm our friendship.
perhaps ask you female friends to help you find a girl and one of them might mention she is interested in you or going a bit erm... deeper with you