I am 24 now and I have been having sex since I was 18. I have never had a problem with cumming until now. I have always been able to last as long as I wanted and then, cum when I was ready. Now, enter the new girl. We have been dating for about a year and for the first 6 months....I was fine. She loved it. Even complimented me on my stamina.
Well, I have hit a rutt and I see no end in sight. I feel my sensations start to multiply before I even begin intercourse with her. My mind has taken over, but in the wrong direction. My orgasms even suck now. I tell her to get me off once before we start, but she doesnt.
I went from lasting as long as I wanted tooooooooo a 2-pump chump. When I am drinking obviously the sex is out of control. I can go as long as I want.
I have read that I need to work on the PC muscle and things like that. But, I know that this is more mental then it is physical. Think about your grandma people say. Easier said then done.
Anyways, has anyone gone from champ to chump and gotten back to champ again. I need some SERIOUS advice here. Thanks.
There is evidence that Kegels can play a part in overcoming premature ejaculation.
http://www.askdocweb.com/Kegels4Men.html
http://guys.clitical.com/male-kegels.php
http://www.menshealth.co.uk/health/penis/premature/11/article.php
The squeeze technique that Rawbob described will also work
Kegleing will help if you're going to have anal sex performed on you....it won't help stop premature ejaculation.
Aside from masturbation the afternoon before you 2 play, there is one other way to help out.
WHen you're feeling theneed to cum, reach down and GENTLY but firmily squeeze your balls! This will help delay your orgasm. NOW, i mean gently..like a tube of toothpaste, not like squeezing juice from an orange.
Here's why..the testicles literally "pull up" just prior to ejaculation....if you can gently squeeze your scrotum (put your hand below the below teh base of your cock, between your balls) and squeeze..you will interrupt your orgasm.
Practice during masturbation....it works! Just a word of warning..if your balls have already pulled up close to your cock, if you try and FORCE them back down, you can damage your balls (nothing fatal, but painful).....so you have to be aware of your impending orgasm.
Or, if you just want to get the desensitizing cream, you can do that too..just remember, it DOES make the cock farily numb...and takes a while to wear off.
I think the PC muscles exercises, sometimes called Kegal exercises would help, I would do a search on the net for information.
I have heard from guys that they defiantly help stamina, obviously It would take a few weeks to notice any difference but would give you a long term solution on top of the short term solutions mentioned so far.
Okay, there are a couple of options. The first is to go ahead and orgasm quickly and save serious lovemaking for round two. You should be able to last longer the second time... and you get two orgasms...lol.
You can also try a desensitizing cream. You should be able to find one in almost any store that also sells condoms.
Hope this helps.