Hi everyone. For some reason, my boyfriend can't orgasm with sex alone. He must finish manually or he simply can't orgasm. What can we do to help this problem? :confused:
Mon, 07/16/2007 - 22:39
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My Boyfriend Can't Get Off With Sex Alone... Help!
Here is a good place to begin reading:
http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/new_sex/21912-one_stop_shopping--begin_h...
Read through Doc's post's here as well. Also, you did not mention if you are both new as a couple & if this was ever an issue before (for him).
We're a new couple. That said, I'm not sure what to look at on the post you gave me.
I guess I should also say that him and I have never yet had sex with each other. I am pretty experienced in the sexual realm while he is not. Apparently this was a problem for him before when he was with a physically disabled girl. I am just wanting to tackle the problem before it comes up in the future.
If you never had sex together how do you know he can not orgasm through intercourse with you?
All new partners have to take time getting to know each other.
Read through Doc's post on "The gentle art of humping". Sorry, sent you lots of info.!
[QUOTE=sera300;186844]If you never had sex together how do you know he can not orgasm through intercourse with you?
All new partners have to take time getting to know each other.
Read through Doc's post on "The gentle art of humping". Sorry, sent you lots of info.![/QUOTE]
Its okay. I guess I am just assuming that if he had this problem in the past, he might also have this problem in the future.
I don't see the Gentle Art of Humping article in the post you linked me to. Could you perhaps give me a direct link to it? It'd be appreciated.
[quote=LadyBug02;186845]Its okay. I guess I am just assuming that if he had this problem in the past, he might also have this problem in the future.[/quote]
Not necessarily, much may depend on the relationship and the attraction of each other. Perhaps there were concerns in his mind with his other partner and it created a sexual barrier. Just wait and see.
[QUOTE=sera300;186847]Not necessarily, much may depend on the relationship and the attraction of each other. Perhaps there were concerns in his mind with his other partner and it created a sexual barrier. Just wait and see.[/QUOTE]
Okay will do. :)
[QUOTE=LadyBug02;186846]I don't see the Gentle Art of Humping article in the post you linked me to. Could you perhaps give me a direct link to it? It'd be appreciated.[/QUOTE]
This is item number four in the Index.
INTERCOURSE / ORGASMS / and the gentle art of Humping
Please read the opening section right at the top of the article.
Guys Specifically-
Point two is that it is not uncommon for the male of the species to have a difficult time climaxing when wearing a condom. Is this a problem for him?
If so, I recommend that the two of you practice Point one and not rolling a condom on until he is right on the brink of a climax, yet can still maintain control. Secondly, place some lubrication on the Glans of his penis ONLY in order for there to be some wiggle-room sufficient to transmit more friction.
The feeling or sensation of stroking inside a vagina when not wearing a condom is much different and is less intense than what he experiences by his hand or yours. Often, there is an adjustment period in which a guy has to adjust to the new and reduced stimulation. Being on the brink of an orgasm, first and foremost is the most ideal way to solve the problem.
As an aside to this, please read this article:
How Do I Get Him/Her to Orgasm From a Hand/Blow Job?
Give all this a try when you get to this stage in your relationship and then get back to us if he has not been able to correct the situation.
Thanks doc!
This problem also applies to me, so that was helpful for me to...
Cheers :)
I am pleased to learn that the two of you received the assistance you sought.
Just to add to the discussion is this link to a recent concern that is nearly the same.
Please read what I have to say at the end of the thread. My hope is that the two threads will contribute together to provide a more complete solution for those reading the discussion.
Have a break. A long break.
Have you tried doing yourself? I mean have tried to make a hand job or BJ for him?