i'm bored and i'm curious (mostly bored, but work with me here).
why is it that generally everyone always tells you to not date a guy or kiss a guy or whatever with a mustache or a beard or a goatee? they always say that it tickles or scratches and that you shouldn't even bother with it and should have them shave.
i myself have always been attracted to guys with goatees and my guy right now has a mustache (i've never been a beard girl. i don't like them. lol) and his mustache has never ever tickled or scratched me, whether he's kissing my lips or my neck or sucking wherever.
i've felt it a couple times when he was kissing my shoulder but it never tickled or scratched me.
so i wonder if the people who say this have just never tried it or is it because the guy they had didn't know what the hell keeping it neat was and didn't groom it or whatever and just let it do whatever it wanted to do?
or am i just odd and don't have a problem with it cause i find them sexy? lol.
To me, and i have a moustache and goatee, its all about grooming!
If a guy grows ANY type of facial hair and dosn't keep it groomed, to me it's a sign of being lazy and unkempt.
I have "been" with a few clean shaven guys, and can say my attraction is equal...as long as they are all well groomed.
5:00 shadow happens, so i usually just suffer through it if i'm being intimate with a guy who's facial hair grows quickly, but 9 times out of 10, it's not a big deal.
So, to summarize, clean shaven to full beard..it's ALL good IF they keep themselves groomed! Good lord, a beard and mustache trimmer costs 15 dollars!
i think a guy w/a goatee is mighty fine
(although i prefer for them to be trimmed & not having hair every which way lol).
my BC (bootycall) has 1--and on occassions--his 5 o'clock shadow just bugs the hell out of me. it feels like sandpaper.
my BF on the otherhand, prefers to be cleanshaven...(hes so anal about body hair..
) which is fine by me.
i wont even get started on the subject of oral sex & a guy w/a goatee...lol that just HURTS sometimes..
Well, my bf has a goatee and a mustache. And I never really had problem with that. Cuase usually, if a guy ahs a longer fashian hair then 5o'clock shadow, then it's softer and doesn't poke or tickle as much. I do really like it though then he keeps it trim though, but usually cause it makes it look neater and makes him look younger. And I like then he shaves the rest well, otherwise, that part can hbe annoying. It really depends on the person though, I suppose.
ANd I actually really like facial hair on my bf. SO you ain't the only one.
anyone else have any thoughts?
well, i could look on the bright side, as far as i know there aren't younger versions of me out there, male or female. if there were, i might fear for some people's sanity as well as my own. lol
and i remember that story. rings very true in a lot of cases.
it kinda goes with my siggy. everything isn't for everyone (obviously) but just cause it's not for you, doesn't me it's not for somebody else.
it's a quote i live by really...and i don't live by a lot of things. lol.
Far from being offended, I would be quite flattered to be the gay half of you. lol I think it just goes to show that whatever people's differences, there are as many- or more- things that make them similar. If only we could focus on those...oh, well...maybe someday. And about it not being healthy. (I'm stealing a quote here:) I've always enjoy talking to people who agree with me. While I accept that people who don't agree with me might not be complete idiots, I much prefer the company of those who do. Something to think about...
On topic: Your story reminds me of something I heard a motivational speaker say once. She said,
"I was making a roast last Sunday and I cut each end off- just like my mother showed me to do- and was preparing to discard them when I noticed that there was like a pound of meat that I was throwing away and wondered why. So I called my mother and asked 'Why do you cut the ends off your roast? What's the point?' And she said, 'That's how I learned it from your grandmother. Why don't you call and ask her?' So I called my grandmother and asked her why. She said, 'Well, dear, I don't know why you are doing it, but it wouldn't fit in my pan.' "
I've always thought that was a great story about just accepting things without questioning why. Or maybe trying and seeing for yourself.
oberon, are you the gay male half of me? (that's not meant to be offensive).
i swear, like the vast majority of what you say (or what i say) i (you) agree with to a large percent. lol.
i've already found the older female version of me and the (older) male version of me...so um, are you the gay male version? lol.
i don't think it's healthy for there to be so many versions of me. lol.
anyways... back on topic.
when i was younger, and i would like point out celebrities or whoever that i liked, they would like always have facial hair (mostly goatees. on rare ocassions a moustache) and my mom would always tell me that wouldn't be good cause it would scratch me.
and i recently started thinking about that again and realize that his moustache has never scratched me or anything like she said it would. so it just made me wonder if she had ever tried it or if it was just something she heard and just never wanted to try it. i've never seen my dad with facial hair and even before i was born, in all the pictures i see of him and my mom together, i've never seen him with facial hair, so it just makes me wonder...
I'm with you, thetease13!
I, myself, have had at various times a moustache, a beard, and at the moment am sporting a goatee. I like the way it looks on me, and to be honest I hate shaving (lol)! So even when I have just a moustache I think every little bit helps!
I also have what might be called a fetish for men with facial hair- okay maybe not a fetish, I mean, I don't HAVE to have it. But it sure is nice.
As far as problems go, I've had more trouble with guys who have a heavy five o'clock shadow. It's a lot rougher than a beard. And sometimes having them kiss you feels like your face (or whatever) has been sandpapered.
I've never encountered anyone who just HATED facial hair, but to each his/her own, I guess. I suppose if I fell in love with someone who just hated it, I'd shave it off. But my beard grows pretty fast, so I'd want to make sure it was LOVE. lol