I have a slightly strange problem in that I don't struggle to orgasm, but struggle to more than once, even if I feel like I want to. I may even have one through vaginal stimulation alone, to be left feeling like I want a clitoral orgasm, but... no. It just won't happen. I feel like I can't get... "enough", I suppose. It will usually feel as good as ever, but go nowhere, and eventually just "shut off" so it doesn't feel half as good.
Just in case it helps, I have had a problem with masturbating strangely in the past. It's something I discovered very young, before I had any idea what I was doing, and therefore I was quite willing to tense up far too much to make it happen, and I've had to overcome this over the years... mainly because I actually felt too sensitive when properly aroused, etc. This is actually the only way I can manage multiples nowadays; by tensing up and using far too much pressure. It's something I've stopped doing for the sake of my sensitivity now, though.
I suppose I'm asking if anyone has any ideas of what I can do, except for working on my general sensitivity and resisting the urge to do anything but relax? It's not something that bothers me that much and I am enjoying my sex life, but to be left feeling somewhere between satisfied and worked up and being unable to do anything about it is slightly baffling.
Thank you.
Thu, 02/02/2012 - 18:03
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Multiple orgasms still eluding me (F/21).
Welcome to the board!
Much of the advice that would apply here is the same as learning to orgasm the first time, so I'd highly recommend going through the index as well.
Resorting to "forcing" the orgasm is quite common, especially among boys. Sex is one of the greatest pain maskers(and relievers) and it is very easy to rush to force one out using techniques that are likely to leave one tender, sore, and/or numb once the initial orgasm fades and this makes subsequent orgasms much more difficult.
Patience is key. Focus on enjoying every movement and all of the subtleties of how your body is responding. Common foreplay movements caressing all over the body don't need to stop once you're aroused enough to handle direct clitoral or penetrative stimulation. Take your time and go back to those, running hands all over and see how much better they feel now that you're closer to orgasm and even seek to find new spots that weren't sexual prior to being close to orgasm.
Remember to breathe, relax, and focus entirely on how good everything feels and how good you want to feel, not on reaching orgasm. You want to be as close as possible to orgasm with your body going crazy anticipating each movement before even touching your clitoris.