I believe, before the nonsense began, that the question had to do with MS. Sexual dysfunction is a common side effect of MS. Your treating physician is the best place to get information. Some do respond to treatment and some do not. It all depends on the location of the lesions. If you have a following neurologist, that is the place to ask for help.

[QUOTE=Jillianslovetoy;270897]Wow lol that's why it's a free country dushy I'm allowed to say what I please about that lowlife person married for 35 years moves on in 2 that says something....and your not a man so u don't know lol about the whole lightswitch thing[/QUOTE]

Lol dushy...really clever. Did your 5 year old come up with that?

And Im not a man? Last time I check this thing between my legs is a dick. I don't understand why this person is a lowlife for managing to find love after 4 years. Maybe you need a remedial math class on top of an english course considering you cant properly subtract 2 from 6.

Here lets try it together.

6 years ago his wife died. 2 years ago he found love. 6 - 2 = ?

That's right! 4!

How about this. Pull your head out of your a$$. Grow up, and get rid of your judgemental, superiority complex or you will not last very long.

To big, there is a way to give neg rep...click the little scale icon, and hit disagree. That's how I did it.

[QUOTE=Ducy;270868]Oh and jillian I like how you assume that the OP is "getting to that age called 50". Sorry but just because you turn 50 doesn't make it turn off like a light switch.

And age doesn't make your erection abilities go down. I know plenty of men in their 50's who are having sex 5 to 6 times a week and have no issue getting it up.

How about you do a little more reading before you open your mouth again. Oh and sign up for a grammar class because not only is your post disrespectful, but it is total garbage. You can't believe the world "you live in". I can't believe the members this site allows nowadays.[/QUOTE]

Wow lol that's why it's a free country dushy I'm allowed to say what I please about that lowlife person married for 35 years moves on in 2 that says something....and your not a man so u don't know lol about the whole lightswitch thing

i wish they could give negative rep power to certain people here. people that call someone a lowlife for finally being able to move on after losing their spouse to cancer deserve that. enjoy your freedom to be a foolish nitwit, and i will enjoy my freedom to laugh and point at you.

to refary - how many days are good and bad? and what are your abilities on the good days? i have an uncle that recently was diagnosed with ms, so i see how debilitating it can be. on your bad days perhaps those are the days she will get on top of you and grind at a desirable pace and pressure for both of you. sadly ED is common with ms patients because of the natural mechanics of getting an erection. perhaps you should look up montel williams and ms. his quality of life seems to be on the better side most of the time. it had to be for him to do his tv show for so long while having ms. i know he is and advocate for using cannabis to deal with ms symptoms.

i hope the best, and that they find a cure for this autoimmune disease for both you and my uncle.

I'm so sorry for your loss and for having such a nasty decease, dear Refary. I am happy for you finding a wonderful lady to share your lives. But the lack of a fulfilling sexlife, isn't easy to deal with. I hope I can provide you with some thoughts that could help you.

Considering your wife; it sounds like to me she has some deeply imprinted issues about sex and even her own vagina being dirty. A strict upbringing being one of the possibilities. No matter how many times you tell her, she's not likely to believe you. Have you talked about sex together? Perhaps you could find out what is troubling her. What makes her believe she is dirty? Has something changed since you got married? And if you haven't yet: share with her what's important to you. Make it a calm conversation outside the bedroom, in which it remains clear you love eachother. If it gets or has gotten to a point you don't know how to handle this yourself; think and talk about getting a counselor to help you two.

I'm no medical professional, but by my knowledge; erectile dysfunction is common among patients with MS. Here is an article that explains. If you haven't brought this up with your doctor, please do. As the article suggests there are several things that may cause or contribute to your troubles:
[url=http://ms.about.com/od/signssymptoms/a/erectile_dys.htm]Erectile Dyfunction as a Symptom of Multiple Sclerosis

I wish you strength and all the best!

Wow u married a Vietnamese women after a 35 year relationship....wow, why didn't you just post does anyone think ms is effecting my tool and no it isn't, your getting to that age called 50 it's going to slow down and not work. I can't believe the world I live in

Negged...

OP ignore jillian. She is ignorant.

I do not personally think your MS is affecting your ability to get an erection. Unless you were in severe pain or some sort of circulatory/nervous system problem. Considering your sexual function was perfectly fine before I would say it has to do with several factors. You are married to a woman who has "tricked" you into marraige. Gave you tons of sex and once you said "I do" suddenly "she don't". The fact that she is keeping you from touching her is most likely killing your drive as well. And you also have probably fallen for the "I couldn't get it up once, what if it happens again?". It snowballs and you suddenly have ED. Our resident MD brandye will be back in a few weeks so she could give you a better answer. Other senior members should be able to offer some advice.

And I apologize about your wife. I know how hard it is to find someone you care about has cancer and I can only imagine how hard it is to lose them. My grandfather is suffering from stage four lung cancer. They're trying to help him and it seems to only be making it worse. I can't believe the selfish heartless pieces of trash post on this site and think they're high and mighty (with an awesome join date to post ratio)

Oh and jillian I like how you assume that the OP is "getting to that age called 50". Sorry but just because you turn 50 doesn't make it turn off like a light switch.

And age doesn't make your erection abilities go down. I know plenty of men in their 50's who are having sex 5 to 6 times a week and have no issue getting it up.

How about you do a little more reading before you open your mouth again. Oh and sign up for a grammar class because not only is your post disrespectful, but it is total garbage. You can't believe the world "you live in". I can't believe the members this site allows nowadays.

61 and enjoying sex on a regular basis (or capable of enjoying sex on a regular basis)

Proof that age does not always = erection abilities.