Hey im not as experienced but the last time i spent the night at my girls house she gave me head and after that i fell asleep.. there we other people there (at her house not with us) so once i fell asleep she was hangin with them but i still felt bad. I mean i got mine and passed out, i didnt want it to be that way but i couldnt keep my eyes open usually im keepin her awake but not that night...

First of all I would like to comend you on caring. To many guys just do not care. I am going to give likes and dislikes...

1. Asuming you are going to have sex, Ok maybe it is a very save bet but dont let on to it
2. My husband once told me after sex to "shhhhh you are ruining my after glow" WOOOOW talk about ruining mine. He never said that agian
3. Selfish oral sex you know I give for an 1/2 or even an hour and he gives for 10 minutes no way (my husband would never but others in the past)
4. Silence, I like to know he is enjoying it. You do not have to sound like a porn star put a little hard breathing and a few moans are nice
5. Pathetic condom arguments
6. Hands pushing your head down, I can handle this just fine without his help. If he can do it better go for it. ( I know this was covered)
7. OK just because you are having a wild and nasty night at it you can still be passionate. (again covered I know)
8. Never ever tell her anything about past sex experience I dont mean lie about them happening I mean no details good or bad. Then she will start wandered what you are thinking about her.
9. Just sticky your finger in, we need a little warming up. If we are all ready at top horny levels ok go ahead but if things just got started and well the oven is not preheated do not just dive in gentle teasing touches at first teasing is gooood.

goods
1. as said above teasing
2. A compliment or to after words nothing deep not your the best either(comparing not good unless asked). Something along the lines of WOW will work.
3. Being treated like the hottest babe that ever crossed your path, I mean in bed
4. make sure she is finished before you finish

I think I covered it. There is alot more good but you ask about bad and I could go on forever on the good

[QUOTE=Quote (HngLkAMouse @ Dec. 21 2003,07:20)]Lucid; RE: Falling asleep...

As annoying as you may find it... it's unfair to ask your partner NOT to. It's biology, NOT a conscious decision. After a certain age, which varies person to person, the likelyhood of sleep after ejaculation increases.

During ejaculation, a myriad of hormones & endorphines get released to varying degrees... one of which is an extreme sleep-aid. I'm not sure if it's seratonin or what, but it's a CHEMICAL thing... NOT a reflection on the situation other than the fact that he enjoyed it... chemicals were released... he is now in a happy slumber.

Learn to work around it like I (we), or most people do. I make sure that MY orgasm is the last thing to happen. She has already been satisfied and she already KNOWS that 65%-75% of the time that it's "lights-out" for me after sex unless I get right out of bed and shower, then it negates the effect(s) of the shift in my physiology.

But to be annoyed with that is unfair... it's like someone being annoyed with you for being relaxed after a massage or full after a large meal... it is what it is. You might want to understand that it's NOT in his full control and is 100% normal to have that reaction.

I do not write this to oppose you or argue... just to help explain what's happening. It is a side-effect. Sometimes it's a welcomed one and other times, not so welcome.

Learn to accept it and welcome it.  [/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=Quote (sexykitty @ Sep. 15 2003,06:46)]One crappy thing about men (if you are a woman) is that they do get really tired after they cum (there are biological reasons).  My husband always pleases me first, that way when his turn is over, he can go to sleep and not feel guilty for not pleasing me enough.  It works out good.  Plus one crappy thing about women is that we take much longer to get warmed up, so if he pleases you first it works out for everyone.[/QUOTE]

Im not trying to argue either... but man, guys do alot of work when having sex... YES SO DO WOMEN!!

I know i feel bad if i fall asleep after sex with my g/f, i try my hardest to just lay on her, cuddle up, hug her, give her gentle kisses etc. eventually we both fall asleep.

[QUOTE=Quote (kricky @ Dec. 17 2003,09:14)]Ok, one thing I hate, is when I'm giving a guy oral and he puts his hand on the back of my head....it's ok if he's helping me, like getting a rhythm he likes, but the thing I hate more then anything is when I have his penis down my throat and he keeps my head there. It's like "ok...can't breathe, do you want to suffocate me?" Oh, and another thing....I hate it if the guy doesn't want to kiss you after you've swallowed. I'm not talking about the girl keeping the cum in her mouth and putting it in his mouth (I forget the term) but like 5 minutes...10 minutes after, and they still won't kiss you. I mean...It's their cum, you just did the favor of swallowing the sometimes foul stuff, and they don't want to touch you...gggrrr...pisses me off![/QUOTE]
Snowballing And as for me, I love running my fingers through my partners hair, I really like long hair its a turn on for me, and when shes giving me head Its one of my favorite things to do is run my fingers through her hair...also she likes when i rub her pussy with my toes.

only ever talk about an ex if u are saying how awful they were, and how lucky you are to have your current gf

my best mates bf talks about his ex in a kinda "she was/is cool" way and i find it really disturbing!!

my man isthe absolute greatest! theres no point "downgrading" the people you fall for, the feelings get stronger as they feel more right!!

Me personally I prefer hours of foreplay,if my woman is going to give me head I would like to be giving her tongue at the same time.Preferably in a 69 position,that way both are comfortable & can give each other pleasure.
I love giving a woman tongue,I love the taste,I love giving a woman pleasure.I get pleasure out of giving pleasure.Even after I have orgasmed I love to kiss,lick & cuddle until I am hard again,which only takes 20-30min.

I must say, my partner is about 70/30 on that topic. MOST of the time she is wide-awake right after and ready for more, and the other times, she's ready for a nap and is fast-asleep before ME... !!!

For the times when she's still awake, I just need 5-10 minutes to overcome the post-orgasm drowziness or get-up and get a drink, take a shower, anything to stop the slumber... having said that, she's usually too-tired to go round-2 even if she's awake.

(many reasons... too lengthy to go into)

Anyhow... yeah, lots of women are more mentally heightened post orgasm, whereas men generally grow deficient in that department post orgasm.

ZZZZzzzzz zzz zzz zz zz z z z z z z z ...

Oh i know its inevitable, but i still don't like it and i like when they try and stay awake, cause sometimes you please your man first, and if he is fallen asleep... you feel kinda shafted? but then accept it because you loved helping him. but. still it feels almost like a total Snub. And I don't know about any of you girls out there, but don't you find after your more awake? even if you are pleased your more awake, just wanting more and more.

jamie

Lucid; RE: Falling asleep...

As annoying as you may find it... it's unfair to ask your partner NOT to. It's biology, NOT a conscious decision. After a certain age, which varies person to person, the likelyhood of sleep after ejaculation increases.

During ejaculation, a myriad of hormones & endorphines get released to varying degrees... one of which is an extreme sleep-aid. I'm not sure if it's seratonin or what, but it's a CHEMICAL thing... NOT a reflection on the situation other than the fact that he enjoyed it... chemicals were released... he is now in a happy slumber.

Learn to work around it like I (we), or most people do. I make sure that MY orgasm is the last thing to happen. She has already been satisfied and she already KNOWS that 65%-75% of the time that it's "lights-out" for me after sex unless I get right out of bed and shower, then it negates the effect(s) of the shift in my physiology.

But to be annoyed with that is unfair... it's like someone being annoyed with you for being relaxed after a massage or full after a large meal... it is what it is. You might want to understand that it's NOT in his full control and is 100% normal to have that reaction.

I do not write this to oppose you or argue... just to help explain what's happening. It is a side-effect. Sometimes it's a welcomed one and other times, not so welcome.

Learn to accept it and welcome it.

I think mine is more of a thing that happens when you are not in it just to get your kicks. I hate it when the man, ignores you after wards. I like alot of skin to skin contact after wards and caressing each other. I am a softy.
Also speak up. I like to know what a man wants, needs, and feels.

i duno personally, after he has ate me out, i love.. to kiss him i duno its all over his face ,its weird, i like laughs almost suck it off LAUGHS< kinda gross.. but i love it.. so does he..
i duno, the worst th ing i guess, would be lack of respect... everything else we can deal with but if there is a lack of that.. then ther eis a real problem

Seriously!! I mean, it's YOUR body that your partner is tasting--he/she has to go through doing this and it's just pathetic to have such a closed mind to refuse to kiss afterward!

well, I don't really mind his hand there, but when he starts pushing my head down and keeping it there--especially when I'm deep throating--that's what ticks me off. I guess my thinking is that this is me giving the bj, doing it my way, and if you don't like it, then deal with it! Don't force my head do do something. There are plenty of other places to put your hands...I don't mind the hands on the head, especially if the hands are running through my hair. You can also touch her face, ears, neck (which are all a real turn-on to me) and any other place you can reach. Sorry if I'm complaining too much...hehehe, but I have had some not so pleasant experiences (especially with oral because I had a friend teach me and he didn't really care about me...so makes it totally un-romantic, and one time was watching a football game while I was doing it--though he said that was a joke--but anyway, it's just a matter of courtsey!)Hope I've cleared that up!

TOTALLY AGREE WITH KRICKY... I HATE the not kissing you after a blow job thing.. it's annoying.

Ok, one thing I hate, is when I'm giving a guy oral and he puts his hand on the back of my head....it's ok if he's helping me, like getting a rhythm he likes, but the thing I hate more then anything is when I have his penis down my throat and he keeps my head there. It's like "ok...can't breathe, do you want to suffocate me?" Oh, and another thing....I hate it if the guy doesn't want to kiss you after you've swallowed. I'm not talking about the girl keeping the cum in her mouth and putting it in his mouth (I forget the term) but like 5 minutes...10 minutes after, and they still won't kiss you. I mean...It's their cum, you just did the favor of swallowing the sometimes foul stuff, and they don't want to touch you...gggrrr...pisses me off!

LittleFury Posted on Dec. 16 2003,20:56Refuse for months to give oral sex. Fall asleep during sex. That could turn a girl off.

...........You know what I don't understand why so many men don't like to give oral sex to g/f or friend or w/e i mean me personally as a guy i love to give my female partner oral (well i guess it depends i only like it if shes shaved or like a line of hair and is clean becuse sometimes it smells musty but thats another topic lol ) but i mean guy's should like to do it if you do it right(if you can make them reach there climakes and orgasam and posabally ejackulate) that girl will think of you as an incredable man ......
.......And about the fallin asleep after it is becuse we are tired or if were not and do it another times after that we get what we call"blue balls" and they hurt like hell

~Jovy~

OH MY GOD!! that one is totally the ultamit, and DONT fall asleep right after either. lol drives me nuts, when bf falls asleep right after, and then you are WIDE awake, then...when you start to fall asleep, they wake up.. like wtf? and its too late, your on your way out. lol so don't fall asleep...well just like 5 mins after or 10.. least wait till 20 :P

Refuse for months to give oral sex. Fall asleep during sex. That could turn a girl off.

hehe wise, yea, no thank yous' just pleases :P lol i duno.. what really is anoying *thinks* oh.. when you are asked to do something... that isnt bad, or nothing like moan, or something and u don't... thats not nice but... hmm never mind that.. i duno just always do what you feel, and do what you feel is best for her too. OH a thing that is anoying, is not being.. "passonate" its like... some guys i know don't really touch you? its like straight to sex.. thats rude too... Girls Loveeee to be touched. ;) well i do :P

Jamie

Start out gentle, and get rougher only if the girl indicates that it's cool. Also, if a girl asks you to stop, stop.

Never EVER say thank you afterwards. Unless you paid her.

Oh, don't stop with fore play, just because YOU CUM. thats just Rude

well me personally, (and this is just me personally, some people love it) i do not like having, nor seeing, cum sprayed all over my face or body (or anyones face or body).
i've never had it done to me personally but i don't want it done. i think it's gross. but like i said, some people love to have that happen to them so whatever floats your boat.

The not kissing after oral thing is a real rude thing in guys eyes too.  When I give my gf oral she won't kiss me either until I brush my teeth or til the next morning, it really bugs me sometimes. I mean it's a huge turn on to kiss after doing something like that together, it makes you kinda feel whole.

It is not always the man who falls asleep. As far as i can remeber it was always my grilfriend who was to tired for round 2 (or 3 or 4 - doesn't really matter) and evetually was falling asleep ;)