[QUOTE=monkeymagic;259285][COLOR="blue">I've just started a relationship which was born from a sex date website.... We would both like to have a threesome, with a girl, although is there a risk that after a month its too soon? [/COLOR]

Yes!, although, looking at the bigger picture, there is a risk to the relationship at any time. My question for you is what are you looking for in the new relationship with your boyfriend? If you want romance that being a couple is all about, then adding a third person so early is probably not a good idea. If the two of you are aiming more for a FWB, then it probably is not too soon. Much depends upon the interaction between the two of you. This is true regardless of the type of relationship.

[COLOR="blue">I asked his views on the third person, (we both have never done it) to which he replied that they are there purely for both our pleasure, is this usually a mans view? [/COLOR]

OK, let me ask the question this way: where are your emotions going to be with each of these other people? If your desire is to develop a romantic relationship with the guy, then a third party is most likely going to be a competition--unless some very strict rules are agreed upon beforehand.

Males of the species can easily separate love from sex much more easily than females of the species. You run the very real risk of him enjoying threesomes and discovering after a period of time that he likes one of you over the other for whatever reason.

[COLOR="blue">I don't want him to be enjoying f...... her etc more than me is my thoughts, although hes more than happy for us to have a guy for me to experiment with also.[/COLOR]

Two things:
T#1-- If you do not want to run the risk, then do not engage in the behavior
T#2-- If you two are trying to develop a solid relationship between the two of you, then do this first and foremost. Because the two of you are new to the dynamics of making love and having sex, work on satisfying each other's needs and desires, first. Later, in a couple of years or so, if you want to play with others, then work out all of the details and rules beforehand.

[COLOR="blue">Just wondered if anyone could tell me about their first threesomes experiences.. message me or reply...[/COLOR] :D [/QUOTE]

This subject has been discussed several times in the past. Why not use the search feature and go reading. Generally, threesomes, while fun and entertaining at first, usually cause strain or even failure of the relationship sooner than later.

Why do either of you want someone else impinging upon your relationship? Aren't you enough for each other? Until you can answer this question, or, unless you simply want a three way FWB relationship then go for it, yet do not be surprised if there are going to be some competition and comparisons.

You don't want him ot enjoy sx with her more than he enjoys sex with you - ookay, then YOU are NOT ready for a threesome of any variety.

Jealousy = Jealous Loser regardless of which gender is being jealous.
This kind of behavior is no more attractive or acceptable in a female than in a male.

So just give the idea of a 3-some up until you are more secure.