Hey folks! I'm new to the board, but have read a lot of the previous posts and found them very interesting--there's a lot of good insight in this group. One in particular caught my eye regarding the question of "should I lose my virginity to an escort?" You all had some good comments on that.
I'm pondering the same question, but I'm in a very different situation than the guy who originally asked it. I'm a 34-year old gay male. My sex life so far has consisted of some awkward fumbling (ten or eleven years ago) with a college friend who was mostly just interested in the novelty of touching another guy's dick. And of course, LOTS of solitary masturbation (not that it hasn't been fun, but I'd like something involving another human).
I guess I feel like if I actually have sex with someone who I am paying to at least act like he's enjoying it, it might give me some more confidence with uh... non-professional males (assuming I can find any ...I'm in the southern US and that's not a good place to be gay).
Sorry for the rambling post. Here's the question: "Is there anything in the way of confidence, experience, etc. to be gained by spending an evening with an escort or am I just justifying a quick and superficial fix to a LOT of sexual frustration?" Any comments will be greatly appreciated.
Okay... first this is just too weird... "oberon" responding to "puck"....
Welcome! Southern US gay male here, too... from Georgia. I, personally, think it's a GREAT place to be gay... but then I think anyplace is a great place to be gay...lol. On to the question...
I know people who've used escorts. Their reasoning is that this way they get exactly what they want. It just seems a little cold to me... and unnecessarily expensive.
I've NEVER had difficulty finding sexual partners. They are there... you just have to make yourself available. My suggestion is that you first look around with the intent of making gay friends. Friends are easier because there aren't any romantic complications. With just one gay friend, going places like the bars is much easier. You can also network and find where gay men hook up in your area (there IS a place, I guarantee it).
Whether you use an escort is completely up to you... but in my opinion it's a little extreme. It's far too easy to find fun, friendly, FREE sex.
Feel free to PM me to talk about anything you like.
Take care.