Feeling bad about being unexperienced? Everyone was unexperienced at some point. You are feeling what millions of people feel every day. It's normal to be nervous. It's pretty normal for girls to bleed when they first have intercorse as well, how much I'm not sure of though. If it happens again, don't be too alarmed, you might just be really tight. Try playing with yourself some in the meantime, use something similar to the size of a penis so it will get use to having something inserted into your vagina.

[QUOTE=skipgirl;154823]I just lost my virginity about a month ago to this guy i've been seeing for about three months...i was so nervous at first cuz he's two years older than me and much more experienced. it didn't hurt as bad as i thought but i bled a lot afterwards and even a little the next day....i def wanna keep havin sex w/ him but i'm just afraid that bleedin so much after the first time isn't normal and if i bled a lot the second time is that normal too? i also feel bad that i'm not experienced as he is....some advice would be great![/QUOTE]

was your hymen intact before intercoarse.. if you still had your hymen before intercoarse it was the hymen that broke.. if you had already broken the hymen then it should go away after a couple more times if not now.. if it persists then see a doctor.

[QUOTE=skipgirl;154852]i mean yeah i feel bad for bein inexperienced...he's been with a lot of others girls who were prolly great in bed and then he comes to me whose had no experience....i just want him to be happy[/QUOTE]

the more u stress over this the more it will drive him away... just make it clear that u were a virgin. first timer and get him to show u things. etc etc.. talk about stuff.

If he loves u enough he will not care if u are inexperienced or not.

> i feel bad for bein inexperienced...he's been with a lot of others girls who were prolly great in bed and then he comes to me whose had no experience....i just want him to be happy

Parish the thought! You should understand that experience equates to knowledge not skill. Each time a couple comes together, a new and unique partnership is formed. This means that there will always be a new "Square One". There will be a period of adjustment as you learn about each other's likes, dislikes, preferences, quirks, and, what it requires to turn each other on, build, passion, and trigger an orgasm. Each of us has unique and specific requirements for the latter and so the two of you must learn to mimic each other's technique of motions, rhythms, and pressures, as well as hot spots. That said, you then begin an adventure of exploration and learning. This is why previous experience is of little use, other than from the knowledge acquired.

I understand the desire to please him, however, there should also be some selfishness in this, also. Making love and expressing the love each of you has for the other, is a partnership. It is not what we do to each other; rather, what we do with and for each other that is important.

Please, please, do not ruminate over his prior conquests. Your words almost make it sound as if "woe is me". What you have to become enveloped in is the thought and the fact that he is with ME NOW! Your focus, and his, should be to make this the best most rewarding relationship possible and this requires a team effort.