I just moved out on my own.. a few days ago. I have always live with my parents and my sexual encounters have always taken place in my parents home or in my partners parents home.. until my current boyfriend. I have always HAD to be really quiet in bed but now that I can be loud, I want nothing more than to be so. I want to scream so that all my neighbors hear me. (somewhat joking..somewhat) but I'm so used to having to be quiet that it is really difficult for me to open up. I *know* my boyfriend wants me to be louder, and I do understand that. Is there anyway for me to become more loud in bed without it sounding fake? Because right now I feel that it is kind of fake because I've been so used to HAVING to hold it in that I've lost the "I CANNOT HOLD BACK" feeling. Any suggestions on how to relax?
Fri, 08/01/2003 - 06:37
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Moaning
You just moved hun. Give it a few go arounds so you get used to things in a new place. Go with the flow. Start acting on whatever it is your body tells you. If you're pleasing your boyfriend I don't think he'll notice if you sound a little fake the first few times. You've got to start someplace and training yourself to be loud might not be such a bad idea.
I'd go wild if I had my own place!
Shorty's right....it will take a bit of time before you will "allow" yourself the right to be more vocal in bed!
Trust me, it will come with time....and as long as you're playing safe, the freedom of being on your own will spawn GREAT new feelings!
ENJOY!
Play music in the background so that you won't sound as loud as if it were totally silent in the house. Then as you get used to it lower the music
lol. My husband loves to hear me make noise, and usually I can't help it, but I think we all have that fear of being to loud, you know, kids in the house, close neighbors, etc...
psychoanalystic (sp?) fit coming along...
Youll have to get used to the idea of knowing that the place you are in is totally safe and you can make as much noise as you want. Youve bin living in your parents house for so long that youve got used to the idea of there being other people in the house... so youll have to get rid of that.
All it will take is time for you to get used to it... and dont worry, even the fakiest of moans can sound pretty genuine to a horny guy.
if you cant do that, then maybe you could start by talking dirty to him? it would be easier, and he would enjoy it just as much, i can guarantee that
Pinky I wouldn't worry about it too much, I'm sure after time subconsciously that whole "I need to be quiet" thing will evaporate. Like you said, you got used to knowing you couldn't make noise and now that you can, eventually you won't even think of it during sex, you won't try to supress the pleasure sounds or wonder if you are being loud enough to please your man. I hope what I was trying to say made sense... and right on with wanting the neighbors to hear.. who doesn't want everyone to know you have a great sex life
I would say try when you have sex the next time to just feel and don't be all loud but moan with your mouth open and start quiet and then the next time moan louder. Eventually you will get use to the noises and not feel wierd about them you will get use to them and it will become natural again or for once. Just start little and work your way up and you will get there from where your screaming like a monkey lol