Let’s assume it's not a medical reason, you could try spreading her legs, which is the way I learned missionary. Try to loosen her up by fingering her a lot before sex, and this should be in addition to any foreplay you normally do. If it's a medical problem then I don't know what options there are. But she does need to go and see an OB/GYN before you two become sexually active.
Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. I hope you enjoy participating. Please begin by familiarizing yourself with the FAQs, the Posting Guidelines section, and especially the Index, all located at the top of the main screen. The Index contains links to helpful informative insightful, as well as how-to articles.
Please go to the site's Home page and click on the animated illustrated 3D positions. You can look at any that interest you including the Missionary and its variations.
The Woman Superior position has much to recommend it for first timers.
First, it places the woman in complete control
Second, she knows where P and V are and can deftly bring the two together
saving the guy some anxiety
Third, she can make adjustments to the angle of penetration-
+ amount of pressure to apply
+ speed of penetration
+ depth of penetration
+ rate of stroking and speed
Fourth, because her pieces-parts are in constant ongoing contact with
your pubic mound she is much more likely to receive more stimulation than
with most other positions. This does not mean she will climax during intercourse, this is an entirely different topic of discussion that is covered in more than one article in the Index.
There is much to learn about first time intercourse be it the first time ever, or, the first time with a particular person. There is an article on "experience" listed, also that you should read. I also urge that the two of you read any of the other articles on making out and foreplay, etc. in order to gain insight and more knowledge. Knowledge is empowering.
Go find and read the sticky post entitled The Program and then DO IT. You might as well learn how to enjoy sex CORRECTLY. You undoubtedly rushed the process and then didn't "aim" yourself properly. Use condoms, BCPs, and lubricant.
and this is what comes of the inexperienced having sex with the equally inexperienced
a partner and I were having similar problems and thhe doctore recommended toys. there are toys(or beeswax candles) that are all different sizes and that she could slowly stretch herdself out at her comfort level
I was really tight the first time I had sex and we definitely had some unsuccessful attempts like yours that came before finally making it work. Some girls have a harder time than others, and even though I masturbate a lot and know my body really well it was hard to make that initial penetration. Definitely make sure that she is really turned on, and that you are really turned on. That is number one. Also have her spread her lips a bit and also - don't get discouraged! It's easy to want to stop when you encounter a barrier but if you're just patient and relaxed, then you'll be good. And then, the sad truth is that it just is going to hurt for her the first time. I experienced a lot of pain the first time and twinges all the way to the 4th or 5th time.
As far as positions, although in a perfect world the girl can get on top, that did not work for me at all. When it's hurting, it's hard to want to be the one to ram yourself with a guy's erect penis. In the end, it worked when we did it in the missionary position and my boyfriend could put the force on. It's going to hurt if she's really tight, but thankfully it only really hurts like that the first time. So you'll just have to listen to her and make sure to stop when she's done.
Let’s assume it's not a medical reason, you could try spreading her legs, which is the way I learned missionary. Try to loosen her up by fingering her a lot before sex, and this should be in addition to any foreplay you normally do. If it's a medical problem then I don't know what options there are. But she does need to go and see an OB/GYN before you two become sexually active.
Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. I hope you enjoy participating. Please begin by familiarizing yourself with the FAQs, the Posting Guidelines section, and especially the Index, all located at the top of the main screen. The Index contains links to helpful informative insightful, as well as how-to articles.
Please go to the site's Home page and click on the animated illustrated 3D positions. You can look at any that interest you including the Missionary and its variations.
The Woman Superior position has much to recommend it for first timers.
First, it places the woman in complete control
Second, she knows where P and V are and can deftly bring the two together
saving the guy some anxiety
Third, she can make adjustments to the angle of penetration-
+ amount of pressure to apply
+ speed of penetration
+ depth of penetration
+ rate of stroking and speed
Fourth, because her pieces-parts are in constant ongoing contact with
your pubic mound she is much more likely to receive more stimulation than
with most other positions. This does not mean she will climax during intercourse, this is an entirely different topic of discussion that is covered in more than one article in the Index.
There is much to learn about first time intercourse be it the first time ever, or, the first time with a particular person. There is an article on "experience" listed, also that you should read. I also urge that the two of you read any of the other articles on making out and foreplay, etc. in order to gain insight and more knowledge. Knowledge is empowering.
I hope this is of help. Got questions??
Go find and read the sticky post entitled The Program and then DO IT. You might as well learn how to enjoy sex CORRECTLY. You undoubtedly rushed the process and then didn't "aim" yourself properly. Use condoms, BCPs, and lubricant.
and this is what comes of the inexperienced having sex with the equally inexperienced
That post says nothing of "aiming"yourself or correcting our mistake.
Yes, but it DOES tell you how to go from nothing to OMG!! THAT WAS AWESOME!!
which has to be better than your last experience
LOOK where you're going, buddy!
a partner and I were having similar problems and thhe doctore recommended toys. there are toys(or beeswax candles) that are all different sizes and that she could slowly stretch herdself out at her comfort level
I was really tight the first time I had sex and we definitely had some unsuccessful attempts like yours that came before finally making it work. Some girls have a harder time than others, and even though I masturbate a lot and know my body really well it was hard to make that initial penetration. Definitely make sure that she is really turned on, and that you are really turned on. That is number one. Also have her spread her lips a bit and also - don't get discouraged! It's easy to want to stop when you encounter a barrier but if you're just patient and relaxed, then you'll be good. And then, the sad truth is that it just is going to hurt for her the first time. I experienced a lot of pain the first time and twinges all the way to the 4th or 5th time.
As far as positions, although in a perfect world the girl can get on top, that did not work for me at all. When it's hurting, it's hard to want to be the one to ram yourself with a guy's erect penis. In the end, it worked when we did it in the missionary position and my boyfriend could put the force on. It's going to hurt if she's really tight, but thankfully it only really hurts like that the first time. So you'll just have to listen to her and make sure to stop when she's done.