Weve been having sex for 2 months now, and recently weve stopped using condoms because the birth control kicked in. Ever since then I havent lasted as long as I have in the past in the missionary position. The other day I lasted an hour when she was on top without any condoms, but for some reason when Im on top it seems like I can feel everything inside of her at once and I cum too early.
Im working on the start/stop method when were in that position but any suggestions?:(
Condoms can help you last longer. You should use them anyway.
normally i would, but my girl isnt having that
are you positive she is taking the pill everyday at the same time? i'd wear a condom anyway and tell her that you like to wear a condom because you last longer. she should understand and if not then i would highly be curios as to way she won't let you use a condom because there are many condom shapes and styles and materal she can't hate them all
[QUOTE=Anthony Wolff]normally i would, but my girl isnt having that[/QUOTE]
It takes two to tango. Use a condom or don't have sex. It helps keep both of you safe and her from getting pregnant. If she puts up a fuss, ask her if she'd rather have a momentary discomfort of a condom or the life-long discomfort of having a kid or an STD when you don't want one.
Or, to put all this another way: Each of you must take responsibility for your own protection and not rely upon someone else. Teens and people in their early twenties are the most apt to become pregnant either through forgetfulness or carelessness. If you are not prepared to take on the responsibility of raising another person, then look out for number one and wear a condom.
The point about wearing a condom in order to last longer is worth taking practicing. If you want more help then do a search using my name and the search term: PE or Premature Ejaculation. Several of my posts describe an exercise the two of you can do that will train you to have better control over your arousal. You can also do a search on "squeeze" for this as well as that technique which Brandye recommends.
thanks for the help, i did good today:cool:
shes convinced that birth control is foolproof but Ill bring up what you guys said
> shes convinced that birth control is foolproof but Ill bring up what you guys said
Then have her do her own research to prove her position on the matter.
There are statistics on the web for all the various forms of contraceptives and what their reliability rate is when it comes to preventing unwanted unplanned pregnancies.
You will also hear from time to time about the pill failing. It is not so much the pill as the person taking it who forgot, took it at a different time, or whatever. The pill in whatever form is not 100% fullproof.
Wishing or wishful thinking does not make something so. Your girlfriend is young and naive and this can be a foolish position to place your faith and trust.
seriously the doc has a point. think man!
My boyfriend and I had sex about a week ago without a condom [I'm on the pill... I've been on it for quite some time], and I don't see what was so great about it. I mean, I know it was great for him, but it didn't do too much for me. So now I'm kinda waiting for my period [I've still got another week to go...], and its not really that fun... I'm not paranoid about it, but still... I don't really see why your girlfriend has a problem with it, its not like she's wearing it... And it should really help you last longer [decreasing sensitivity and whatnot]