Ok. I have a question that I hope a female can answer. My GF and I have been having sex for a while now. She can have an orgasm easily when she is on top. Her clit rubs in the right spot and it's off to the races. We have been trying like crazy to get her to have one when she is on bottom. It seems to be an impossibility. We have tried positioning ourselves in as many ways as possible during missionary, and still, no orgasm. She says I'm not hitting the right spot. I say she isn't flexible enough. I'm beginning to believe it is anatomically impossible for us to get into right position during misssionary to get her "off to the races."
Ladies, I need some help here. What's your secret?
I think you've solved it yourself. I'm not a girl though, but when whe's on top, i think you're both in the perfect position for G-spot rubbing...
But in missionary....the angle's not right.
That could be why. Its also similar to why some girls have preferences on which is their fav. position or one that gets them off the quickest.
Like sex from behind...not anal... but with girl lying face down and the guy from on top.
its probably justr not the right position but you should try and put a pillow under her waist, thatll raise her more and give you more entrance, but i also am not a girl but try it anyway and see how it goes, good luck
OK, Motorbaoat, reality check.
About 50% of all women never have an orgasm from penile thrusting, alone, no matter what the position. I rarely achieve orgasm without other stimulation. The woman on top simply puts her in a better position to control the angles, pressures and other unmeasureables that lead up to an orgasm. Get in any position you want but be willing to add other stimualtion as necessary.
The likelihood of the penis stimulating the G Spot is very low. We had a discussion about that earlier and at length. She is seeking clitoral stimulation. Be happy that she is orgasmic. A quarter of all women have infrequent or no orgasms.
While she is on bottom or any other position, try rubbing her clitoris.
yea i agree any position u can get her in so that she or you can stimulate her clit the better. my personal fav is when my b/f stands at the edge of the bed and i lie down on my back w/ my butt to the edge of the bed. this way its easier for him to thrust and w/ him not lying on top of me i have easier access to touch myself down there. plus he says its a real turn on to watch me touch myself while he's goin at it
plus its easier for u or her to stimulate her breasts and nipples which always helps me reach orgasm. hope this helps.
i must firstly say that it seems me and my girl really got something right here, becuase she orgazams every time from penile thrusting, i generally dont stop until she has had at least one, if not more. whether that is an anatomical annomilly or what, i dunno, im sure ppl her would say i was just gullible to believe that she cums everytime, but im not so sure that they would be right.
The best positions we have found was doggy style, as that seems to hit the spot on the front wall which really gets her going, and also puts me into a position where i can play with ewhr clit or with her breasts or just hold her tight.
also, wityh you on top, use your hips to penetrate her, use your hips as the pivot point and follow with the body once you are deep inside, as this way your pelvic bone can rub against her clit, and this is stimulating.
another trick, if you can stand it, is to go very slowly, as it maximises the sensitivity, and allows her to get more feeling form it, so makes her cum quicker and more explosivly.
and finally, the last trick, try getting you rg/f to practise using her PC muscle, as this will give her a sense of control, and (according to my g/f) hightened feeling. dont know if anyone else finds this, but it all seems to work for us, i guess we're just lucky!
good luck!
I also,most of the time, cannot have orgasm while i am under .
I think it is because than my clit doesn´t rub his stomach and than is a little bit harder,but that doesn´t mean i have never came in that position
And it depends a lot about foreplay!
At least for me!
ah,yes,and i forgot to say,when i am on top it is possible for me to have at least 5 orgasms one after the other,so...
Don´t press her to be under if you can be in both positions.She would also like to have some fun
Another thing to try while you are on top: grab her legs and hold them together in front of you, this might help her get some more sensation, and if not it wont hurt trying because I think you will probably like it too.
well I hadn't had a vaginal orgasm until recently and my being on the bottom is just fine for me.. guess I'm one of the lucky few my man knows where to hit it. After I started screaming 'right there' about a hundred times he got me off and he can easily give me vaginal orgasms now. isnt he glorious?
I would say just find a position where het clit is still rubbing..with my husband and I it's usualy missionary but with him almost laying himself completely on top of me instead of sitting up.
Live life.
Good luck.
Another tip...
Don't thrust. Grind. Penetrate her and rather and moving in and out, rub back and forth, in circles, etc. Go slowly and build up. Stop. Pull out, thrust in again, and "grind".
Watch her movement's when she's on top. Does she bounce up and down, or move back and forth? Your mission, should you accept it, is to reproducte that movement in the missionary position.
Good luck.
[QUOTE=Quote (Disturbed1 @ July 13 2003,17:14)]Another thing to try while you are on top: grab her legs and hold them together in front of you, this might help her get some more sensation, and if not it wont hurt trying because I think you will probably like it too.[/QUOTE]
Doing this also to me tightens the vagina around my penis very tightly which apart from jill enjoying and being able to orgasm easier from that position i enjoy it more also.