So my biggest problem flirting with women actually is pulling the trigger. Getting the number. Sealing my interest. I've had three potential women and all three times I feel like the opportunity was there but I either didn't recognize it, convinced myself that she didn't mean it like that, or flat out froze up. I want to tell 3 short stories and please give me your opinions if its too late since I missed my opportunity.
Girl 1- We met after I just moved to my new place about 3 months ago. Had a couple of get togethers in which I felt like there was an opportunity to actually go in for the kiss but talked myself out of it. I wasn't 100% positive if those were the signals she was sending. The fact that it was always me initiating get togethers every week without any contact inbetween yet she seemed quite interested in me when we hung out was very mix signaly. I didn't want to risk a potential friendship since I just moved to my first apt. and knew no one.
After many weeks I am pretty sure that she was interested in me to some degree more than a friend and that I should have made a move a while back. Nothing has been different about the frequency in which we hang out, (which is hardly ever anymore) I'm pretty much at the point where I'm going to move on but do you think that something is still salvageable after a couple of missed opportunities?
Girl 2- I just met this girl at the bar whom was introduced to me by a mutual friend. She was in town for the weekend as she lives 2 hours away and claims to have a bf (she offhandedly mentioned him in conversation). Things were going really smooth talking and flirting with her and the moment of truth came up. I knew I had to say something but didn't know if I should have asked her back to my room (since our talking eluded to that) or if I should have just asked her number. I never got the chance to confirm that I felt the same way because 2 seconds later she went away to get another beer. That opportunity left so fast I was amazed. Needless to say I was over thinking the situation wondering what line was the right one.
There might be times when I see her again and if so, do you think this one missed opportunity ruined any chance of anything happening the next time I see her?
Girl 3- I'm in the orchestra and this girl plays the same instrument as me. I thought she was pretty but I didn't try to pursue her cause if it turned out ugly it would be a really awkward situation since we sit 2 ft next to each other during orchestra. This is much different than in a regular class with desks.
All of a sudden I would say that we mutually flirted with each other which included playful, safe touching/caressing. After a week of this, I decided to abruptly ask for her number (not really smooth let me tell you) and since then things have been different. The flirting went away but we are still friendly and she gives me cute smiles occasionally. At this point I decided not to pursue thinking that she isn't interested anymore. I think my flaw was that I showed too much interest really quickly instead of being a casual thing.
Well, lately the vibe from her has been better than usual and my buddy said that she was looking at me all night when we ran into her at the bar recently. I am so confused because I felt like she was interested, then she really wasn't interested and now I don't know what to think. She's one of those really nice girls that you can't really tell if she is really nice or interested. The physical flirting still isn't back even though I tried to bring it back.
What should I do?