kudos to your awesome man for not being a jackass about it and another kudos to him for being totally awesome about it. cherish that one, not too many would be so understanding. i think i agree with brandye on this one though, just some muscle toning should do the trick.

best of luck.

[QUOTE=Quote (Bailey Dundee @ Nov. 17 2005,17:10)]Alright, I have this problem where when a guy goes down on me I can't control certain bodily functions. Recently, that's caused a problem. I am with a guy who I am very open with. He was going down on me and it felt great...but that's the problem. When he's doing stuff to me I can't control my bodily functions. Then, last time when he was going down on me I accidentally peed in his mouth and on his face. I was mortified, but I couldn't help it! But strangely enough he didn't care and wasn't grossed out...just surprised. He kept going! Now he's obsessed with doing stuff with me and seeing how "my body will react." So, my question is, is this normal for my body to react this way when I'm messing around, and second, is my bf's response normal?! HELP[/QUOTE]
Are you sure that you're just not a "gusher", and are having an orgasm, complete with female ejaculate, when you think that you're peeing?  Female ejaculate, although it comes from the urethra, is different from urine - it is clear, and either has no scent or a slight clover scent.  

The first time I gushed I was mortified, thinking that I had urinated when I orgasmed.  I did some research into it, and found out the information above.  I decided to find out if I was indeed a gusher, and made myself come on the top of my bathroom counter so that I could see what it was.  Low and behold, it was clear and had no odor whatsoever - so it wasn't urine.

The first time I gushed with my current boyfriend, he was surprised, but very pleased, as I was the first girl he'd ever been with that gushed.  Now, it's just a joke that if we're not in my waterbed having sex that we need wee-wee pads so that I don't ruin his mattress!

I'd hghly recommend that you Google "gushing" or "female ejaculate" so that you can learn more about it, and find out if you're one of the few women that gush!  

Good luck!

[QUOTE=Quote (montygirl @ Nov. 22 2005,11:57)]I don't really know what the answer is for you but it does sound maybe a weak bladder or something. try maybe doing those pelivc excerise might help

I have a problem with noise when I got on top of any guy, it tend to fart or has it some times called 'fanny fart' does anyone know any way of stopping this, as I don't mind going on top but tend to stray away from it cause of this...

Thanks x[/QUOTE]
dont think there's any way of controlling them...it's jsut about air being pushed in and out of the vagina...they're called queefs and are perfectly normal. im sure evry woman's experienced them at some point in time. chill they may be embarrassing, but just laugh it off...it's his fault anyway hahaha!

I don't really know what the answer is for you but it does sound maybe a weak bladder or something. try maybe doing those pelivc excerise might help

I have a problem with noise when I got on top of any guy, it tend to fart or has it some times called 'fanny fart' does anyone know any way of stopping this, as I don't mind going on top but tend to stray away from it cause of this...

Thanks x

There are those women who lose bladder control during sex. You may want to discuss this with a urologist. Yes, there are women urologists , they are not "just for men."

It may be a slight organic problem to be easily repaired or it may be a matter of toning muscles. You are not alone and any gyn or urologist will not be srurprised or offended dealing with it.

Fortuately, most men, I understand, are not too bothered by it. One of my most embarassing moments was with a guy who was really good at cunnilingus (almost as good as most women). He kept me on the edge for a while and I was writhing. As I came, I let out a huge fort that I did not even know was coming. He was not nearly as bothered as I. I guess I still am and that was a decade ago.

I'm leaning towards Firm Hottie's answer myself.

Was your BF fingering you just before you orgasmed? Was the orgasm more intense? Were your pelvic contractions stronger?

If you answered "Yes" to any or all of the above, then Congrats...you're more than likely a Squirter.

OK ladies, my I have my 2 cents.

As a man I am not grossed out by female bodily fuctions, especially during sex. It happens and it is all just tell tale signs of pleasure. As for the gushing... where can I find a girl that gushes??? lol

Actually, I have a question that goes along with this sort of. I have never had an orgasm and I am not sure what is supposed tp happen when I'm getting..close. Generally I tell the guy to stop because I feel like I'm going to urinate. Even if I had JUST gone, I feel like I'm going to and I get really nervous. Is this weird?

Oh and yeah, you're very lucky for the guy you have. Not many people would be comfortable in that situation, never midn Keep going. Keep him around!

Dear PP,
For the new initiate, what you are experiencing is normal. The sensation of having to pee is a false signal and should be ignored because if you push on past the urge, you will discover your long awaited orgasm on the other side.

The signal that says "I have to pee" will go away after a few successful orgasms have happened. Not to worry, it is a common experience for both genders when first learning about masturbation.

A girl or woman who has yet to experience an orgasm and who has not yet made the necessary connections between the sensitive nerves in the genitals and the pleasure center of the brain via the autonomomic nervous system is termed "preorgasmic". To change this and to become an orgasmic female, you must learn how to masturbate. Once you can reliably and consistently bring about orgasms then you know what forms or fingering and caresses are required. When you know these things, you can then teach them to your lover.

To teach him, take his fingers in your hand and guide his movements several times until he learns to mimic the unique and specific movements, rhythms, and pressures that you have now come to rely upon to trigger your orgasms. In addition, you must also provide him with feedback on how you are responding to his caresses and for what you may need--now. Why? Becasue when a man or woman masturbates we modulate or make tiny "midcourse corrections" on the fly based upon what we sense is happening or not when we are going it alone. When someone else is providing the stimulation for us, s/he only has a 50/50 chance of doing it correctly. With something so important, who wants this as a batting average?

Feedback can be verbal or non-verbal. A word, or other utterences that mean specific things; or, a squeeze of the hand or other form of gesture that the two of you work out to have specific meanings. Lastly, when all is said and done, let your man know that you have had an orgasm. A woman's orgasms are internalized more than a man's so it is sometimes difficult or impossible for a guy to determine if his partner has had one. Don't make hiim ask "did you cum?"

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

I have queefing...I know its normal and its gonna happen, but when ever it happens I can't help but blush. My guy tells me not to worry about it and even kind of laughs it off but yeah...