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For Men and Women Only- Breasts and Play

When it comes to a quest for knowledge and information regarding making out, wondering what to do with breasts seems to be third on the list according to my (unofficial) count. This essay will delve into these male and female erogenous zones and discuss in general how to stimulate and fondle them.

Caveats-

Words such as:
* Squeeze
* Grab
* Twist
* Pull
* Pinch
* Yank

...and what they connote should either not be used or implemented with an air of gentleness. My point being that we sometimes read a post in which some young stud wants to learn how to grab a boob, squeeze it, and then twist and pinch a nipple. A statement such as this has just gotta make a person cringe. Since we admire and revere these two areas of a woman's body, let's choose our action words and what they mean, carefully.

Breasts- Female:

Please begin your understanding of the how-to of breast play by reading the third essay:

[URL="http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/new_sex/20641-intercourse_orgasms_the_ge..."]INTERCOURSE / ORGASMS/ and the gentle art of Making Out, FIRST in this series.

Next, please read the information contained in the Pleasing Her section of the site's main page about Her Breasts:

[URL="http://sexinfo101.com/pw_erogenouszones_2.shtml"]Breasts-101

By reading the above information you should now have an understanding of both the order of the steps and stages of making out as well as an understanding of how to approach a woman's breasts within this progression of events.

I like the idea of approaching my partner's breasts with reserve and so should you; however, after some familiarity and a maturity within the relationship, you can certainly proceed faster and even eliminate some of the steps in order to get your hands or lips on them sooner in the overall scheme of things. In doing so, this does not mean that you should circumvent or skip over the initial fondling, it does mean that you can expose them earlier when making out.

Breasts and nipples "turn on" and become reactive when a woman is highly aroused. Giving the area too much attention too early can be distracting and non-productive. Admire, touch, and gently caress them in passing during the early phase. Wait until she is very turned on before giving one or both your full attention.

You may also discover that one breast and/or nipple is more responsive than its mate. If so, feel free to place more emphasis on this breast and/or nipple. Results vary from individual to individual, so as with all things romantic, please take your cues from her reactions.

The underside of the breasts can be much more sensitive than the top and sides, so experiment and if this is the case with your partner, do not ignore this part of them.

When it comes time to fiddle with a nipple, be careful and be gentle until you know how she reacts to having them caressed. How you go about this is likely to change from day to day depending upon where she is in her cycle. You may learn later that she enjoys some more aggressive fondling. If so, then find out when this is appropriate and desired before just throwing caution to the wind.

The nipples (and areolas) can be rubbed with a dry finger; although, she will probably like it better if you use a moist or lubricated finger(s). Stroking can be done from back to front or around and around. Whatever works.

If you want to tug and tweak one, then do not pull and twist. There is a difference in the two approaches. The same goes for pinching.

Smaller breasts will sometimes lie flat against the chest wall. If this is the case with your partner, you can stimulate the inside of the nipple by positioning your palm(s), or better yet the heel of your hand, over the front of one or both breasts and rubbing the nipple against the ribcage. This stimulates deep seated nerves within the breast. CAUTION: DO NOT do this if she has implants or if her breasts do not lie relatively flat against her chest when lying on her back.

Here are some additional ideas:
* The nipples can be stimulated using a flat hand with fingers together. Alternately, your fingers can be slightly open and apart from one another. Move you hand across the front of a nipple in a washboard manner, letting the nipple rub against each finger and bounce in between two. Different sensations happen with each version of the washboard massage.

* Rolling a nipple to and fro between your fingers.

Oral stimulation involves kissing, licking, and, sucking; in addition, a woman may possibly enjoy having an erect nipple scraped with one or two teeth {an upper, lower, or one of each).

When sucking, be gentle until you determine that a stronger suction is welcomed. The same is true for nibbling!

If you have other ideas of what to try, then explore these possibilities and learn together what works and does not. Keep in mind that both sides of this can change throughout the month, so do not give up trying if some action works one time and not another or vice versa. It is important that the two of you communicate with each other about all this.

NOTE: Some women find that breast play works anytime along their arousal curve. Some women will stop their man as their climax approaches because to continue is too distracting to them. Likewise, learn whether or not breast play can continue right on through the triggering of a climax or is better if all caresses end sometime before.

Because it is also possible for her reaction to change during the month, my suggestion is to continue with the stimulation until she says or otherwise indicates that you must stop. (This is another instance of using "Implied Consent".)

Nipple Play- Male & Female:

Nipple stimulation for the majority of both genders seems to augment an orgasm and perhaps help to bring one on, rather than to have any direct connection with the orgasm itself.


Breasts- Male:

Here, also, the two of you should begin by reading the reference on making out, first.

Next, read the male equivalent paragraph to the second reference:

[URL="http://sexinfo101.com/pm_erogenouszones.shtml"]His Chest

Guys, like gals, find that their nipples become reactive once they have become very highly aroused. So, while you can fiddle with them early on, do not give them much attention until he is well on his way to a climax.

Guys, unlike gals, often go around bare-chested, so having his nipples exposed early on is not the big deal it is for women. Funny thing, though, having said that, turn about is also fair play. So, if he is wearing a shirt, why not tease and tantalize him by fingering his nipples and/or rubbing his pecs. through his shirt(s) before ever unbuttoning or removing it/them? **

Guys, like gals, often find that one nipple is more reactive than the other. If so, feel free to concentrate the majority of your caresses to this one.

The male nipples tend to be much less sensitive than the female's. Can either gender achieve an orgasm from just nipple play? It is possible, albeit extremely rare. What is more likely is that fingering a guy's nipple will send a bolt of electicity down his spine directly to his scrotum, causing shivers and an involuntary contraction of his PC muscle! If it happens it happens; if it doesn't, don't sweat it. To each our own. This happened to me as a young teen and never as an adult. What still happens once in a while to this day is that bolt of electrictity will go down my spine when the barber trims the nape of my neck! Go figure....

So, gals, what do you do with your guy's chest? Well, you can finger his pecs and his nipples. You can also palm them when he is reclining. When on top, just place your palms, or better yet the heel of your hand, over his nipples and rub them against his ribs in a rotating manner.

** Even though our nipples are less sensitive, I have found that for whatever reason, they can become more reactive if they are covered with a layer of material like a shirt or sheet. This done, use the edge of your fingernail to rub against the nipple. This will be a much stronger sensation than doing the same thing without the material. Again, go figure....

Use a wet finger without the material. Use a dry finger with the material.

How much of an erection you will get from a nipple just depends upon its size and how he is "wired". Some guys can have a fairly significant erection, relatively speaking; others have little to show for your effort. Regardless, their reactions seem to be the same.

If you are able to get a fairly good erection, then you have more to work with and might also be able to nibble on them, if he can tolerate it.

Feel free to take matters into your own hand or mouth--or to respond in kind to what he started. Learn which nipple is more reactive.

"Oral stimulation involves kissing, licking, and, sucking.

When sucking, be gentle until you determine that a stronger suction is welcomed. The same is true for nibbling!"

The Areola- Male & Female:

Please do not overlook this dark circle of nerves when caressing the nipples and the breast in general.

When aroused an areola can swell and sometimes sport goosebumps. Each can be very responsive to being fingered, licked, or, sucked.

Finally, for all our similarities, each of us is slightly different. Please take your cues from your partner and encourage him/her to provide verbal and/or non-verbal feedback for how they are responding to your caresses and for what s/he needs--now. As part of learning what works and does not work for each of you and when, explore and learn together. Making love is not what we do to each other; rather, what we do with and for each other. Your relationship is a partnership.

I for one am not suggesting or recommending rejecting one; however, what I do let folks know is this tidbit of info copied from the Sticky message:

You may also discover that one breast and/or nipple is more responsive than its mate. If so, feel free to place more emphasis on this breast and/or nipple. Results vary from individual to individual, so as with all things romantic, please take your cues from her reactions.

Breasts

My bf always sucks and licks on mii tit and it feels good mann and when he is licking mii tit i like it when he goes real crazy with his tongue and it feels good so other people should try that :) :P

[QUOTE=sexcii_meggalicious17;174425]My bf always sucks and licks on mii tit and it feels good mann and when he is licking mii tit i like it when he goes real crazy with his tongue and it feels good so other people should try that :) :P[/QUOTE]ha ha ha but ppl should try it

if i got a dollar for every time i've been grabbed too freakin' hard... lol. most guys just do not understand 'gentle'!!!!!
that's why using ur mouth is ur best bet. u can hurt whilst licking.. as long as teeth dont come into it... much lol.

OH and what's with rejecting one breast?? there are two, you have to give fairly equal attention or it's like... u feel bad.. coz one misses out lol.

My fiance has fantasticly large, natural breasts... and she doesn't like me touching them full stop. She says that in her mind, they only have one purpose (breast feeding), and that it creeps her out! I don't think she realises how frustrating this is. Every time I go near them she grabs my hand and pulls it away. If I do manage to get near them it makes her shudder and squirm (but not in a good way!)

Is she some sort of freak? Or is this more common?

I do not know how common this is; however, given what women grow up hearing and believing from parents her reaction is not unexpected.

May I suggest that the two of you read this Sticky message together paying particular attention to these two parts:

Breasts and nipples "turn on" and become reactive when a woman is highly aroused. Giving the area too much attention too early can be distracting and non-productive. Admire, touch, and gently caress them in passing during the early phase. Wait until she is very turned on before giving one or both your full attention.

NOTE: Some women find that breast play works anytime along their arousal curve. Some women will stop their man as their climax approaches because to continue is too distracting to them. Likewise, learn whether or not breast play can continue right on through the triggering of a climax or is better if all caresses end sometime before.

Nipple stimulation for the majority of both genders seems to augment an orgasm and perhaps help to bring one on, rather than to have any direct connection with the orgasm itself.

I suggest that if she has an open mind to new ideas and concepts that she read as much as possible on erogenous zones, and breast play in general. You can also discuss this in an informative not a confrontational manner to see if she is willing to accept a new purpose for her breasts. If not, then you'll have to work around them.

Believe me, after five and a half years I have tried everything. I accept that she feels this way, but I still find it wierd, to say the least! Even she admits it's twisted. I'm just curious, having just found this forum, to know if anyone else has heard of this. :confused:

Sounds to me like after all this time she is not interested in changing, and if correct, then you are stuck with what is.

Her position on this is more common with women concerning their genitals.

my gf loves it when I suck on her nipples. She likes when I massage her breast gently too. She likes me to squeeze both her breast and suck hard on her nipples when she is about to orgasm

my man always makes sure he is paying attention to BOTH boobs, he is usually sucking one and holding the other

Breast serve one purpose

I have also sometimes out of nowhere gotten the "creeps" about my husband (boyfriend at the time) playing with my DD breasts because of the breastfeeding thing. I would freak out thinking what if I was breastfeeding my future children and all of the sudden I got turned on. I'm not sure where that thought came from. Your fiance is not a "freak" as you say or at least if she is I am a "freak" as well.
The up side to my story now though is that after breastfeeding 2 children I very much enjoy him playing with my breasts.

[QUOTE=mr flibble;174926]My fiance has fantasticly large, natural breasts... and she doesn't like me touching them full stop. She says that in her mind, they only have one purpose (breast feeding), and that it creeps her out! I don't think she realises how frustrating this is. Every time I go near them she grabs my hand and pulls it away. If I do manage to get near them it makes her shudder and squirm (but not in a good way!)

Is she some sort of freak? Or is this more common?[/QUOTE]

My gf is very self conctious, even though she is size 6/8 and has a very nice body. I've been going out with her for a long time now, we have had sex and we care very much for each other.

However, she "hates" her boobs, i personally don't care about size, although they are small i really don't mind, but she sometimes doesn't even let me look at them, even during sex! i've told her so many times i think they are perfect, i love every part of her body. Although gradually she is minding less, she won't let me see her vagina either, even though we;ve already had sex...

what can i do to make her realise i love all of her body and she has no reason to "hate" it?

She has to come to the realization herself, nothing you can do about it. It's her own issue of insecurity.

I sometimes think it's weird when a guy sucks a girl's nipples. I mean, I find it arousing, but at times it weirds me out. Like a baby sucks on nipples, but that wouldn't be arousing I hope!

do boobs always turn harder when girls are turned on?

I am just the opposite in that I would freak out about breast feeding b/c boobs are sexual LOL.
That's why I doubt I would breast feed. I don't want to ruin a good thing!

I know I ask Brandye about this one time and she said yes some women get this mentality of that boobs are for feeding babies... but really only after they have a baby and are breast feeding...not really before hand.

There are those women who can go no farther wwithout breast play; there are women whose turn on is ended by breast play. Doc's tips are good for a starter but those women who do not want their breasts played just plain do not want it. End of process. Those women who have a great need (such as I) for breast play, just plain need it and usually have strong preferences.

The couple involved must work it out.

for the ones that dont know the gentleness of caressing a womans breast and the chance of maybe geting milk from her,key word is gentleness,tongue and soft suction works wonders, i have had women tell me i would be drinking if theres was,and would let me if she had milk in there.

I don't mind my breasts being squeezed or touched but yanking or twisting sound really rough, I might take that part a little slowly when the real time comes.

to be completely honest i've never gotten any sort of arousal from breast/nipple play. the guys i've been with have been excellent at other things so i'm sure it wasn't that they were bad at it, it just doesn't do anything for me. but i let him play down there anyway because if he loves it and it certainly doesn't hurt me any!;)

I have pretty small breasts...it's not really a big thing for me. Not like I don't get aroused at all from it, but it's not the first thing I fantasize about.

Does anyone have any advice or critiques as to why i dont really enjoy breast/nipple play? I tend to feel very little to no sexual arousal from this, I always allow it to happen since they seem to enjoy it so much, but we could skip it and I would be ok with that.
Just wondering if that's happened to anyone, or if y'all know of anything I cna do to help that.

[QUOTE=dancingdoc2;174800]I for one am not suggesting or recommending rejecting one; however, what I do let folks know is this tidbit of info copied from the Sticky message:

You may also discover that one breast and/or nipple is more responsive than its mate. If so, feel free to place more emphasis on this breast and/or nipple. Results vary from individual to individual, so as with all things romantic, please take your cues from her reactions.
[/QUOTE]

one way to keep both "happy" is if you lick, bite, kiss, one show the other one attention with your hands/fingers

I enjoy my wifes brests a lot , I caress them with my wet penis tip, If she holds them together tight , my penis runs in and out between them . She enjoys my Sucking ,slow tongue licking softly biting the nipples.

redrikihot

I am virgin and I have always had a big fantasy/fetish to titty fuck a woman. I would like to suck her tits as well. My friends especially my female friends think titty fucking is disgusting and weird. My female friends have said they would never let a man titty fuck them and it is not normal sex. Is my fantasy/fetish very weird?

Nipple Stimulation

I like my nipples to look erect and hard all the time - are there any ways to keep them looking perky all the time?

Some women are very stimulated by breast play. I regularly come close to orgasm. Some few women can reach orgasm, occasionally, through breast play. Many women find it a big nothing or, even, distracting. That is just the way it is. I do find that women are generally better (my experience) at breast than are men. I attribute this to our greater ability to read another woman's response and adjusting accordingly.

No, alexx, there is no way to keep them standing

Unfortunately not. Unlike a guy's penis that can be fondled from the pocket of his trousers, breasts have a much greater public profile.

I suppose you could move to a part of the world with a cold climate.
You might experiment and go bra-less. Having the material of a blouse or shirt rubbing over your nipples may make them hard, although, I doubt it will be constantly--still, probably quite a bit of the time. Then, again, you run into the problem guys have with an uncircumcised penis--that being an overall lack of sensitivitiy over time due to the constant friction of their clothing rubbing against the glans of their penis.

Why do you want them to always be erect? Seems to me that making them that way is a huge part of the fun. I keep telling people that what many women enjoy is the control they have over a man's penis being able to make him speed up or slow down or stop by the wayside on the road to making his climax happen more quickly or delayed. The same can be true for nipples. I urge you to reconsider even if it was possible for them to be erect all the time.

If you are interested in having them poke against your blouse or shirt, then consider the attention having a person's eyes always looking "there" might cause. It might be fun sometimes, other times, it can be embarrassing and uncomfortable for the guy who just can't takes his eyes off those peaks in an otherwise smooth profile. Just a thought or two.

Young girls have been known to stuff their bras with tissue in order to enhance what has yet to be. You might consider stuffing something in your bra to mimic two erect nipples--thimbles perhaps? :confused:

I think there are more practical things to be concerned about, like knowing all the information listed in the Index as examples.

[QUOTE=RATED-RKOFRANKLIN;242976]I am virgin and I have always had a big fantasy/fetish to titty fuck a woman. I would like to suck her tits as well. My friends especially my female friends think titty fucking is disgusting and weird. My female friends have said they would never let a man titty fuck them and it is not normal sex. Is my fantasy/fetish very weird?[/QUOTE]

No not weird at all. My guess your female friends wouldn't be into doing a blowjob either.

what my boyfriend does is rub my tits and then when I get into it he softly bites my nipples and pinches them.

When we were dating (37 years) ago, my wife would go nuts when I felt her perfect little tits (gently). Today, she LOVES for me to kiss and suck them when she is on top of me. WOW...it is like her nipple and clit are connected!!! She has a huge orgasm in about 2 minutes when I do that!! (BTW...they are still little and PERFECT!!)

[QUOTE=sexcii_meggalicious17;174425]My bf always sucks and licks on mii tit and it feels good mann and when he is licking mii tit i like it when he goes real crazy with his tongue and it feels good so other people should try that :) :P[/QUOTE]

dude.. its amazing! i remember the firs time my bf first played with my boobs.. i thought i had died and gone to heaven!!!!!:rolleyes:

Personally I love my nipples played with. Sometimes gentle sometimes rough. It depends on how I am feeling. I can climax with good nipple play. They are fun to play with and I welcome my bf playing, licking or biting them. Ahhhh

Yes i like having my breasts licked and sucked ,and sometimes bitten, but not too hard,probably nipped would be a better word.And i like it when my nipples get pinched and flicked.In regards to titty f***ing it is fantastic having a penis sliding up and down between your boobs,and it might be possible to lick or suck the head while he is doing it.