Porn: Does it set improbable standards?

[VanellaSchnella]

This is about porn setting standards for society that are too high. A lot of people watch a lot of porn and start to believe its real..and it is real but it doesn't portray reality in terms of sex. I believe porn is why a lot of guys worry about the size of their penises(as well as other things/to me porns the biggest) and their ability to make girls squirt. Some men also start to believe that women are all sluts and all want to feel dirty and used. On the girls side it is somewhat demeaning in that they are generally portrayed as sluts who love huge dicks in all their holes and who also have big juicy lips have 36 24 36 measurements and can all take an 8 inch dick down to the balls whether it be with their throats vaginas or buttholes and they all love cum. Personally I believe porn sets ridiculously high standards for both sexes and is somewhat degrading.

For example with penis size.. approx 85% of adult men have penises of 5-7 inches length with about 3% having 8 inches or larger. The average length is probably within the range of 5.75 to 6.25 inches and the average girth probably between 4.5 and 5 inches. In the porn industry penises of 7.5 inches and up with girths of 5.5 and up are the norm.

[wet_suit_one]

Fortunately, some of us guys realize that it's just fantasy. It takes awhile, but most figure it out sooner or later...

[den2k]

oh no, totally no. Well it can suggest things but it doesn't set standards, it's just exciting to see.

With porns i "discovered" a passion for cumming on, which initially wasadversed by my gf and now she quite enjoys it (however she hates having cum over her skin for a long time but it's not aproblem).
I also saw interesting games and techinques, sometimes it rally helps!

[Brandye]

Standards? No. Expectations? YES. The behaviour demonstrated in porn on the web definitely shows up in questions on Sexinfo101. What young men, and some young women, ask is often a result of seeing illogical behaviour in made-up scenes. It appears that some of the younger (say, under 20) cannot differentiate between real sex and the amped up nonsense that is shown in porn.

The example given by den2k above is classic. In porn movies, it seems, it is more desireable to withdraw and ejaculate on the face or breasts rather than simply put the semen in the vagina. This is not exciting to women. Watching a couple engaged in sex when the man throws his head back, gasps and collapses tells a woman exactly what happened and where it went. To withdraw at that critical moment and finish by jacking off onto her is not very romantic - or realistic. It does, however, show the unimaginative that ejaculation, often enhanced with whatever is used, has taken place. Women, in real life, end up with semen just about everywhere through sexual play. We do not need a partner who thinks it is good to deprive us of receiving what we are designed to receive. This is degrading.

[headhead]

Dr. Brandye expresses a deeply innate feminine instinct to get sperm inside. From my experience though (going back before the Internet), women do have some interest in a variety of finishes besides vaginal intercourse. And porn can drive them to try things they might never have imagined.

Whether or not reinvented sex is more satisfying is an individual judgment; but those who are less experienced are more impressionable about how they should act and feel. For my part, there's nothing more entertaining than homemade video, showing real people doing things that please them.

[sania]

Yes , I agree with Vanillashela partially. It depend on who makes the porn, how it is directed and shooted etc. If the theme is good and practical its nice to get yourself warm. But in an attempt to make some thing more, this directors of porn movies / clips go beyond reality.
To give example, I used to wonder how this girls in porn takes on 8 or 10 guys. Many such things , I always wonder. And that never excites me. Nor my hubby.
Yes, its just acting. Neither of the girls or boys in porn enjoy sex. They are normally faking.
They should be made nicely. But there are thousands of porn made by many people. Many are good and most of them are bad. Not bad worst.

[AlexandriaDaGr8]

My husband is always showing me something on the porn sites or videos that he wants me to do. I hate it because he won't give up. Like the whole deep throat or swallowing cum thing is not on my high priority list. Plus anal sex looks so sexy and fun on porn, but I tried it and it hurts A LOT!! AD8

[Massdebator]

Despite the fact that I agree that porn can set odd expectations for some of its viewers, I do feel like porn gets a bad rap on this site. While it is true that many young people want to emulate the unrealistic things they see pornstars do because of their youthful naivete and inexperience, I think the blame lies not with porn but with the education system. I would think that proper sex ed. would shed enough light on what is scene in a typical adult film for young adults to know realism from fakery.

That being said, not all porn is so bad. Not all pornstars are faking, either. Personally speaking, I find some of the silly things being done in the adult film industry to be turn-offs, but there are plenty of films featuring legitimate orgasms achieved through realistic sex acts. Some directors are actually producing films that may appeal to couples because the films show realistic sex situations done with a touch of romance. Plenty of kissing, foreplay in all the right ways, not too much thrusting on the part of the man, and real orgasms to boot. No gonzo stuff, gross over-acting, or ridiculous money shots are included.

I know I might be too young to be saying this, but I think there was a time when taking things with a grain of salt, esp. when the info. came from an entertainment industry, was common sense.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Pornography should be regarded as "escapist video" and NOT as 'training films' or as anything at all 'educational'. Think of it as something along the lines of 'a romance novel mostly for men who don't read'.

There are various types of pornography made to appeal to the different segments of the market.

It has to be admitted that pornography does not appeal to everyone. There are men and women who find it boring, for example. Then there are certain religious groups for whom pornography is not outlawed but only if the lady and man on the screen are the the wife and husband and it is only for that wife and husband. Interesting, no?

I too deplore the paucity of proper comprehensive sex education. But I also have to say that there is sufficient self-help and research out there for everyone to learn how to enjoy sex to its fullest. There really is no excuse for being 'bad in bed' - apart from medical issues.

[sania]

I agree to most of the comments just mentioned by all. I dont say all are fake or boring but most porn movies are much far from reality. Most of them are for sick people.
The problem is that after seeing such porns, some male partners either think that their female partner is not good at it. Or they try to force it on their g/fs. Or they feel that they are not lucky to get good g/f to do such silly things. All this creates pressure on their female partner and some succumm to it. Most of the girls would agree with me. Girls like intimacy. Intimacy is a catalyst to good Sex life.
Thus this creates some problem in society. Unhappy male or unhappy female or both unhappy. Hence they keep on searching for that happiness which they would perhaps never get. Else they have to get it on paying something.