who to have a three-some with

[weasel]

for anyone who has actually tried a three-some which do you think it is better to have it with a friend or someone you know or someone you pick up at a swingers club

[sania]

Threesome with a friend is good. You will not be over powered and it will be of your choice.

[wherezy]

i would agree with sania its lots of fun pleasing someone you know and vise verser

[weasel]

what i want to know is from people who have done it with both is how did their relationship turn out afterwards, because I'm assuming the people who try a three-some once do it with a friend... but a lot of times that will cause the relationship to end, a lot of people say that the tree-some was the beginning of the end. so what I'm wondering is if it's the three-some or that it was done with a friend

[sania]

My hubby gets his friends g/f later. And friend gives a surprise gift in end. So its exciting.

[wendybimum]

The problem with doing it with someone who is already a friend is that if it goes wrong, it can affect your friendship.
We meet people online, normally through nudist groups, chat a while, then phone, before meeting somewhere for a drink, then have a couple of days to think it over before saying yes or no. If they end up as friends as well, so much the better.

[EvilEvilKitten]

A stranger whom you subsequently make into a FWB.

Why? Because at a swing club - everyone knows what's going on, no surprises, no shocks, and no chance of ruining a friendship but a great chance of making a new friend who you can call upon for 'benefits' when the mood strikes.

[terey]

Friends of course, if you go to the same clubs either swing or dance it is not long before you become "a fly or, regular". I used to work in a swingers club it was fun and god did I learn alot about people, quirks and all. I found that friends can be better than strangers for 3 way, afterwards friends know when things stand, strangers "the male" (yea I went there) tend to think they have more of a "hold" then on the lady then is real or posible and they wil tend to overstep thier bounds.

[sania]

Terry you are right. I dont know about swingers club. But otherwise, if the persons whom you are sleeping is not your friend but just a person who somehow got in your touch, then there is a possiblity that ( since they know that this is 1st and last with you ) they would not hear you or your preference and get going as per there fun. And since you have gone with them on your own, you cant raise your voice. Thats why i prefer friends only.

[EvilEvilKitten]

The preference for friends, who may or may not be swingers and thus requiring you to blow your cover, really doesn't stand up because if you two, the couple, cannot 'control' one single added in person - you shouldn't be doing 3-somes anyway. Swingers know the rules of play. Their being there attests to their willingness to play upon mature consideration. You can ask any question you like without sending him/her running home to their momma shocked at your behavior. You don't have to worry about ruining a friendship or wrecking, even unwittingly, someone else's marriage.

If you're brave enough to swing, you should be brave enough to toss those who prove themselves undesirable or unmannerly out or have the balls to cut the connection afterward.