Places to Make Out

[constantlylearning]

That is another rant entirely...........why oh why would you physically (for
that matter mentally) abuse someone you claim to love or care about. I
simply do not get that entire thought process........what good could possibly
come from those actions. ANSWER: NO GOOD. If problems are so severe
that discussions or debates will not solve then perhaps it is time to part but
in a civil manner. VIOLENCE HAS NO PLACE IN THE HOME. There I feel better.

[sera300]

Originally Posted by smallestoftheclan

I checked all the doors and locks, twice. I was going to take a sleeping pill but I don't think that is a good idea. Why, it has been 14 years. I wrote the person who gave him my info a not very nice email, but I asked her not to give him any contact info.

The ex boyfriend who did 3 months for domestic violence called this evening.
It was his half sister, who he had no clue about, that gave my info. This is wierd, very very wierd.

I just sent you a PM replying to yours as to what to do...and do it.

[sera300]

Originally Posted by smallestoftheclan

I checked all the doors and locks, twice. I was going to take a sleeping pill but I don't think that is a good idea. Why, it has been 14 years. I wrote the person who gave him my info a not very nice email, but I asked her not to give him any contact info.

The ex boyfriend who did 3 months for domestic violence called this evening.
It was his half sister, who he had no clue about, that gave my info. This is wierd, very very wierd.

SOC: I deal with a homicidal ex husband who goes off every so often...unfortunately he is a man of "uniform". Please, please do ask I said...or call me. Do not take a sleeping pill! Be certain to back your door up with a chair and know a way to escape.

Save all the emails and get the in line phone recorder after you make a report. Be certain to change your phone number ASAP but keep the caller ID so the police can see the call. Tape all conversations and be very clear in the next he is to have no contact with you EVER! No Order of protection...and ask the cops to patrol for tonight and the next few...give them a description.

I have a problem since mine is a cop with a law degree...and an expert marksman. If you need have a friend pick you up and get out of there...even if you have to ask goof to do it. Get a man to get you out of your home ask the police [a unmarked or undercover car] to be present during this for surveillance.

[sera300]

Please answer me so I know you are okay; you do not need to seize from this either. Call any hour. Either way get in touch with me...PLEASE! I need to know you are okay & stay on invisible mode here.

[sera300]

Originally Posted by constantlylearning

That is another rant entirely...........why oh why would you physically (for
that matter mentally) abuse someone you claim to love or care about. I
simply do not get that entire thought process........what good could possibly
come from those actions. ANSWER: NO GOOD. If problems are so severe
that discussions or debates will not solve then perhaps it is time to part but
in a civil manner. VIOLENCE HAS NO PLACE IN THE HOME. There I feel better.

CL: Some people cannot cope with what life deals them & take it out on the one they supposedly care about. Generally it's a mental illness, a learned behavior [they were abused], or failure to cope with life in general & feel empowered by doing such. Some just snap due to life and do not know how to act/react in a positive manner.

[constantlylearning]

That is ridiculous there is no excuse for hurting someone/another human
being. I do not buy any of that. How could someone be empowered??
That theory has more holes than swiss cheese.

[sera300]

Originally Posted by constantlylearning

That is ridiculous there is no excuse for hurting someone/another human
being. I do not buy any of that. How could someone be empowered??
That theory has more holes than swiss cheese.

So tell me why domestic violence occurs? Because we asked for it?

[smallestoftheclan]

I am ok, the police where I live know, and the police in the city he lives in know. Why after 14 years this person, because I have a had time using the word man to describe him decided to contact me is still a bewilderment.
I am so sorry for making any of you worry. If further contact is made a restraining order will be granted, because of the length in time and how he got my info the courts won't grant one today.
He is such an idiot, and well I was an idiot to of ever gotten involved with him in the first place. He was a bad boy and I hadn't gotten that out of my system yet I guess. I still wonder why he contacted me? He didn't ask for anything, tried to blow off the fact that he had put his hands on me in anger (which he pled guilty to), and just kinda talked. I am totally confused, but have to put my safety before my need to know.

[smallestoftheclan]

CL I agree violence does have no place in the home. I don't know if laws have changed in the 14 years since his and my incident but back then it wasn't I that prosecuted him it was the county. If the police get a domestic violence call and they see any signs of injury then the other gets arrested. I had been in my car, he wanted me out so he grabbed me and threw me out of it. He wasn't in it. The neighbors were the one's that called the police not me.
He's I guess what you would call built, he could almost press twice his body weight. I ended up with a few bruises and a black eye somehow. He didn't punch me in the eye, I would of been unconscience if he had. He was still on a rant when the police showed up and that was that. He was seeing someone else, while living with me, and wanted the car to go see her. She bailed him out, he moved in with her, she brought him to court, she visited him in jail, he moved in with her, he went to jail 2 years later for a domestic violence case with her.
Wow, this is just to wierd. Why after 14 years do you want to know about me? Somehow there has to be more to this than what I know.

[lnt1103]

Easy, CL and Sera. I don't read Sera as rationalizing, and I don't read CL as arguing or attacking. I think Sera was trying to explain what goes on in the minds of abusers themselves-how THEY attempt rationalize it. But rational people don't see the rationale of IRrational people.

Small, I'm sorry all this is rearing its head, but you sound like you're in a healthy place about it-keep your chin up and your head screwed on straight. It will pass and you'll be okay