Bi-Sexual, Do You Thinks It's Greedy?

[DVDBear]

If you're referring to sexual desires and turn-ons I don't know how anyone could consider it greedy. Maybe they're jealous that you have a bigger sexual vocabulary than they do. If you mean being in a relationship and telling your partner "sorry, you've got to accept I'm gonna play with other people because I'm bi" then I agree with Sera - that would be. But if that's established at the beginning and he has no problem with it . . . . then it's no problem. ;-)

[sera300]

Originally Posted by DVDBear

If you're referring to sexual desires and turn-ons I don't know how anyone could consider it greedy. Maybe they're jealous that you have a bigger sexual vocabulary than they do. If you mean being in a relationship and telling your partner "sorry, you've got to accept I'm gonna play with other people because I'm bi" then I agree with Sera - that would be. But if that's established at the beginning and he has no problem with it . . . . then it's no problem. ;-)

DVD; you know my past...I have no issue with it unless one conceals it or does not realize it. If they jeopardize my health due to their lack of honesty? They are done. If their emotional attachment is stronger to another [I was the wife]--they are done due to lack of honesty & acceptance by his parents. If people are upfront about "Hey I am Bi" then I can choose to decline the relationship. I always tell people; "If I were BI; think of the pool of potential dates I could have!" Main issue is I am not sexually attracted to women! I am just friends with them; although, I find both male/female bodies attractive; I am not sexually aroused by women. I think it's genetic.

[DVDBear]

I agree with you completely, Sera. I hope it didn't sound like I was putting qualifiers on your previous answer. I was assuming that it starts with honesty . . . . it HAS to. If someone is bi and ever intends to act on their bi-sexuality after getting into a relationship with someone they need to put it out there at the beginning so the potential partner knows what they're getting into. It's completely destructive to sneak behind someone's back and indulge with the rationalization "Well, I'm not really cheating because they can't satisfy me in this way". That's total B.S. (although I've heard it tons of times). Deceit is the one thing (I believe) a relationship can never completely recover from. And if you're bi and hide it and your partner finds out you've acted on it's a double whammy . . . . . not only have you cheated on them but hidden an important part of who you are. Serious bad news.

[sera300]

Originally Posted by DVDBear

I agree with you completely, Sera. I hope it didn't sound like I was putting qualifiers on your previous answer. I was assuming that it starts with honesty . . . . it HAS to. If someone is bi and ever intends to act on their bi-sexuality after getting into a relationship with someone they need to put it out there at the beginning so the potential partner knows what they're getting into. It's completely destructive to sneak behind someone's back and indulge with the rationalization "Well, I'm not really cheating because they can't satisfy me in this way". That's total B.S. (although I've heard it tons of times). Deceit is the one thing (I believe) a relationship can never completely recover from. And if you're bi and hide it and your partner finds out you've acted on it's a double whammy . . . . . not only have you cheated on them but hidden an important part of who you are. Serious bad news.

No, I think you and I share the same sentiments on the matter. If one figures it out, need to be upfront. Part of life is allowing the one you love grow--even if it hurts! I agree with the "not cheating BS as well b/c it was a bi encounter...sex is sex. Whatever it is; it is...sex with another. If agreed to straight or bi--fine people just need to be honest. Gets me on the tangent of men who pawn themselves off as "unmarried" and are out while the wife is home!!!!

[DVDBear]

The one I get when I ask a guy who interested in a sexual encounter with me if he's single or in an open relationship is "I have a partner, but we have a 'don't ask, don't tell' relationship." Uh huh. Never mind . . . .

[sera300]

Originally Posted by DVDBear

The one I get when I ask a guy who interested in a sexual encounter with me if he's single or in an open relationship is "I have a partner, but we have a 'don't ask, don't tell' relationship." Uh huh. Never mind . . . .

Don't feel too bad; I get the same "line"! Or it's "my partner/wife does not understand me!"

[Mr. Saint]

This is my first post on this site, so here it goes. I want to first start out by saying that I am a male and I am bi. Personally I don't think that it is being selfish because you want to foul around with more then just one person. I have never been a big fan of monogamy. As long as you are not in a committed relationship and your partner is ok with it (and knows you always use protection) then I don’t think that there is a problem with wanting to be with other people. It should also make no difference if the other person is of the same gender as you or not.
I once was with this girl who was also bisexual and we had an open relationship and it was very hot. So I say that you should never feel greedy about your desires even if you act on them. As long as you are not lying or deceiving some one you care about don’t feel bad.

[shaved bi]

I am bisexual and feel that it is not greedy! I think that bisexuals have more enjoyment because they can have the best of both worlds.

[pharmalok]

no, its not being greedy. its being well rounded. i think bi's have more fun because they can have the best of both worlds. Some are more man or female dominant but it all boils down to pleasure. Who is doing it the best.

I think bisexuals are more adventurous risk takers. They bridge that gap and actually taste what they crave.

[Newchic]

I did not realize that so here i am at.....69!!!!!!