Survey about Relationship Communication!

[curious_woman]

I have to write my final paper about communication and its affects on relationships. I have to gather input/data from random people on their thoughts, and I thought this would be a great place. So if you're willing to help me, please fill out the info and answer with yes or no. If it is a question that asks two things, and one is yes, simply state which it is. All the personal info is just for the purpose of the survey, and its statistics. If you fit into more than one category (ex. you are in a long term relationship but have been divorced in the past) you can fill out both sets of questions.)

Thanks in advance to those who respond, its very helpful!

Age:
Gender:
Orientation:
Martial Status:
Ethnicity:
Country:

Questions for those who are married or in a common law relationship:

1. How often do you feel your partner does not understand you, or take the time to understand?

2. Have you ever blamed technology (ex. television, internet) for resentment in your marriage, or has it bridged gaps and given you something to talk about?

3. Would you ever consider having children to fix your problems or if you have children did they solve or increase problems regarding communication?

4. Do you find you feel “closer” or it easier to talk to your partner when you are physically apart?

5. Have you ever considered separation or divorce due to a lack of communication?


Questions for those who are divorced or separated:

1. Would you consider lack of communication, or not understanding/being understood to be a contributing factor to your break up?

2. If you have children with your former partner, did you communicate more/better after the children were born? If you do not have children, do you regret not having them because you feel it might have helped?

3. Do you feel your partner often avoiding talking to you, or you avoided talking by playing video games, or being busy with a cell phone?

4. When you or your partner was away physically, did you speak less, or take that chance to try and fix problems?

5. After an argument, did one or both of you feel resentment, or had unresolved feelings?


Questions for those not currently in a relationship, or a short term relationship:

1. Did any of your previous relationships fail because of a misunderstanding or a lack of communication?

2. Would you be hurt, or break up with a partner because they preferred to watch television instead of discuss their day?

3. Would you consider a long distance relationship, if there was constant communication?

4. If you were unhappy in a relationship but did not want to leave it, would you consider having children?

5. Is it important that your partner takes the time to talk to you and understand what you have to say?

[RF4569]

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[Ducy]

Age:18

Gender:male

Orientation:Straight

Martial Status:In a relationship (not married)

Ethnicity: Too many to name...(Irish french indian japanese)

Country: Good ol' US of A

Questions for those not currently in a relationship, or a short term relationship:

1. Did any of your previous relationships fail because of a misunderstanding or a lack of communication?
Yes...she couldnt take no for an answer...

2. Would you be hurt, or break up with a partner because they preferred to watch television instead of discuss their day?
Depends...If there was no reason not too talk (good day) then I would be hurt...If it had been a crappy day then I would be ok with it...just a little sad.

3. Would you consider a long distance relationship, if there was constant communication?
Sorta...I mean I feel there should be some degree of physical intimacy to be a relationship, but if you truly love each other when it becomes a LDR then yes.

4. If you were unhappy in a relationship but did not want to leave it, would you consider having children?
NO! I would only bring children into a happy relationship. (and we would have to be married lol)

5. Is it important that your partner takes the time to talk to you and understand what you have to say?
Definitely....There should always be some time to just talk...even if its just about your day. I mean how else can you learn more about one another and become closer?

[tommy_tucker]

Age: 18
Gender: male
Orientation: strait
Martial Status: single
Ethnicity: English
Country: England


Questions for those not currently in a relationship, or a short term relationship:

1. Did any of your previous relationships fail because of a misunderstanding or a lack of communication? yes, the last one imo

2. Would you be hurt, or break up with a partner because they preferred to watch television instead of discuss their day? if it was all the time then yes

3. Would you consider a long distance relationship, if there was constant communication? no, ive had one before and it didnt work

4. If you were unhappy in a relationship but did not want to leave it, would you consider having children? no, i think children need to be brought up in a strong relationship

5. Is it important that your partner takes the time to talk to you and understand what you have to say? yes, it is more important that sex tbh

[sera300]

Originally Posted by curious_woman

Age:42
Gender: F
Orientation: Straight.
Martial Status: Divorced.
Ethnicity: Caucasian.
Country: U.S.



Questions for those who are divorced:
1. No.
2. We never had a child born to the marriage, due to the way we parted & behaviors which ensued; it would have screwed up a child in hindsight.
3. Yes.
4. I did on several occasions.
5.Yes.

Good luck with your paper!

[Want_to_be _better]

Age: 38
Gender: M
Orientation: Straight
Martial Status: M
Ethnicity: Caucasian
Country: US

Questions for those who are married or in a common law relationship:

1. How often do you feel your partner does not understand you, or take the time to understand? Occasionally

2. Have you ever blamed technology (ex. television, internet) for resentment in your marriage, or has it bridged gaps and given you something to talk about? We occasionally use e-mail to communicate when we are busy.

3. Would you ever consider having children to fix your problems or if you have children did they solve or increase problems regarding communication? Children increased communication simply because we have so much to discuss regarding them each day.

4. Do you find you feel “closer” or it easier to talk to your partner when you are physically apart? Only on the rare times we are really angry is it sometimes easier to be apart and write down your thoughts to share.

5. Have you ever considered separation or divorce due to a lack of communication? No.

[eminatic]

Age: 19
Gender: F
Orientation: straight
Martial Status: single?
Ethnicity:Asian-Chinese
Country: USA


Questions for those who are divorced or separated:

1. Would you consider lack of communication, or not understanding/being understood to be a contributing factor to your break up?
-not really

2. If you have children with your former partner, did you communicate more/better after the children were born? If you do not have children, do you regret not having them because you feel it might have helped?
-i dont want children

3. Do you feel your partner often avoiding talking to you, or you avoided talking by playing video games, or being busy with a cell phone?
-no...we would just lie in bed all day and talk lol

4. When you or your partner was away physically, did you speak less, or take that chance to try and fix problems?
-i moved away and we became long term...still talked on the phone several times a day though..but even so the distance ultimately ended the relationship (we still talk everyday though)

5. After an argument, did one or both of you feel resentment, or had unresolved feelings?
-i can only think of one time we've ever had something vaguely resembling an argument...i had unresolved feelings of not being able to work it out then and there.

[curious_woman]

Thanks for those who responded. Hopefully more people will do so too, I need 25 replies.

[KMB]

Age: 17
Gender: F
Orientation: Straight
Martial Status: In a Relationship
Ethnicity: American - Scottish
Country: USA


1. Did any of your previous relationships fail because of a misunderstanding or a lack of communication?
Yes

2. Would you be hurt, or break up with a partner because they preferred to watch television instead of discuss their day?
No unless it was just he didn't want to talk to me or be with me the same time
3. Would you consider a long distance relationship, if there was constant communication?
No

4. If you were unhappy in a relationship but did not want to leave it, would you consider having children?
No I think a real relationship would be important.
5. Is it important that your partner takes the time to talk to you and understand what you have to say?
Yes very and he does a lot

[sera300]

CW: When do you require the 25 + responses for your paper??? If soon maybe a few here can do it and bail you out...or i can get a few friends to log in so you have your "blind study"....