Did you regret your first time?

[Cptnpants]

Sort of... i regret that it wasn't with someone i truly loved. I wish i would have known that I was going to meet my girlfriend that i have now because i truly love her and would have liked to give her my virginity. Physically I do not regret it, it was a good experience. Emotionally however... yea... it didn't mean a thing :-/

[browneyedgirl]

No regrets, it was great and special.

[GodHimselfx100]

I said no on the poll but its kinda complicated. I had a great time and so did she actually doing it but now she regrets it. she rushed into it because for some currently unexplained reason she thought i wud hate her if we didnt hav sex right away which is completely not true. I now kno that shes a girl that always trys to please everyone and doesnt value herself enough which sux cause shes a great person and i try to value her as much as physically possible and tell her much i appreciate her all the time and tell her shes beautiful all the time but its mainly cause of her parents that shes like this i just hope i can help her. anyway she FEELS like shes expected to kno wat everyone wants and to make everyone happy which is why she had sex when she wasnt ready. i feel like its partially my fault since i do talk about sex a lot but i always remind her that il wait for her to be ready and not to rush herself. she now says that she wasnt emotionally ready which honestly i dont understand very well so if someone cud tell me what she means by that i wud appreciate it very much.

[oedipussy]

Ever wake up one day after a drunken night out on the town and discover that you got a tattoo? I take it she feels something like that...

Takes some time for the initial shock to wear off, but eventually you learn to accept it.

[GodHimselfx100]

not sure wat thats like but i can imagine. im 15 and havent had any real quantity of alcohol (iv had one sip of a beer once but that doesnt really count as getting drunk) and iv never done any kind of drugs and iv never had any real regrets so its hard to relate. But it wasnt really an impulse decision either cause she said she was ready about 3 or 4 days earlier and i dont think i forced her since she initiated it. I know why she did it and that she feels bad im just not sure y she wasnt ready in the first place. and im not blaming her for not being ready i just dont understand what she means by not emotionally ready.

[oedipussy]

I take it she was a virgin up until this event? A lot of girls seem to have a hard time dealing with "losing" it regardless of the circumstances. It'll pass in time...

[GodHimselfx100]

i know thats also true but i think its something else too. maybe im just over worrying tho and i hope ur right cause it wud be nice to do it again sometime soon. btw we were both virgins. im thinking shes worried cause shes a very sexual person but she always tries to hide which leads me to believe that she thinks its wrong so when she does anything sexual she probly feels like shes being a bad person. i dont really know how to change that tho. also i can detach love from sexual things if i so choose and she probly cant do that but its really hard to know what she feels cause she wont tell me cause for some reason she thinks if she doesnt have the perfect response then il hate her which is just so not true. There probly isnt a thing she cud tell me that stop me from loving her. i mean if she cheated on me and was actually sorry about it id forgive her on the spot without a second thought and just be glad that she choose me over whoever she wud have cheated on me with.

[Anne29]

Absolutely no regrets!

Here's the deal, though. We both waited until the wedding night to have sex. We were both virgins and, because of that, it was wonderful.

Yes, I'm a Christian. Because of this, I decided to wait until I was married to have sex for the first time. I was lucky enough to find a good Christian guy who had also waited.

When you have sex with someone, there is a strong bond that you form- mentally, emotionally, spiritually. It is something that you share with them that connects you to them just that much more. Women- and alot of men, too- become very emotionally attached to someone once they've had sex with them. Their partner becomes the most important thing in their lives.

I didn't want to give myself away and then worry about him leaving me some day. What happens when we've had sex and tied ourselves to one another with that intimacy, then my guy gets a job in China or something and he leaves me to follow his carrer? It would tear my heart out and leave me with emotional baggage that I would end up taking into another relationship.

When you're married, you're tied to each other in every way. You've made a committment to one another and sex becomes a safe thing- something that you can cherish and work on together until it's absolute bliss. I wouldn't want to be having sex with my boyfriend and, in the middle of all of this, worrying about him going to grad school in another city, worrying that he'll leave me now that I've given him what he wants, worrying that he'll be disappointed in me and not willing to communicate so we can work out problems... the list goes on and on and alot of trains of thought leave the woman alone and heartbroken. (Or the man alone and heartbroken.)

And, it was nice that we were both virgins. Neither of us had expectations or relationships in the past to live up to. We got to learn about it together, explore each other's bodies in wonder, and cherish the fact that we belonged to one another in every way. I BELONG to my husband. No other man has ever touched me- he's the only one. It pleases him to know that just as it pleases me to know that he BELONGS to me- he's never been with another woman. In this way, there's less inhibitions, less insecurity, and more pleasure.

[lnt1103]

More power to you Anne. And I mean that sincerely. Until a little over a year ago, I had the same intentions for the same reasons, minus the religious one. I am indeed a Christian, but I don't consider that one of my reasons for having chosen to wait.

The answer to this one is kind of weird for me. I don't regret the act itself, as I truly believed at the time that I was ready, and actually made the request myself in the moment. And I don't for one single, solitary iota of a second, regret any of my activities with the man I'm in love with. But I kind of regret the period of my life that my first happened in, and I most definitely regret the person it was with-long story there so I won't get into it, let's just say he was bad for me. But at any rate, from my own experiences, I kind of learned that when I thought I was ready, I should have waited at least a few more months.

[rosebanks]

i did mainly because i was kind of forced into it. i didnt enjoy it at all.