What Did Mom Teach You About Sex? Females Only

[BTDTWoman]

GIRLS AND WOMEN ONLY, PLEASE!

I'm a sexologist who is interested in the kind of sex education girls and young women get from their family members and relatives. I would really appreciate your honest feedback to these questions. It looks long, but most of the answers are yes/no and very simple. Thank you.

1. When you were growing up, who in your family or extended family provided you with the most information about sex and sexual body parts?

2. Did this person inform you that you had a clitoris as well as a vagina?
Yes No Not Sure

3. Did this person inform you that you had a vulva as well as a vagina?
Yes No Not Sure

4. Did this person inform you that girls and women can have orgasms?
Yes No Not Sure

5. Did this person inform you that female orgasms are usually experienced through stimulation of the clitoris rather than vaginal intercourse?
Yes No Not Sure

6. Did this person provide you with any information about female masturbation?
Yes No Not Sure

If your answer to 6 is Yes, please tell me a little about the information you were given about female masturbation:


7. Did this person provide you with any information about same-sex female relationships and lesbian sexuality?
Yes No Not Sure

If your answer to 7 is Yes, please tell me a little about the information you were given about same sex female relationships and lesbian sexuality.

8. Did this person provide you with any information about sex toys or vibrators?
Yes No Not Sure

If your answer to 8 is Yes, please tell me a little about the information you were given about sex toys or vibrators.

9. What did this person tell you about why girls have a vagina? That is, what were your taught about the purpose of a girl's vagina?



10. What did this person tell you about why boys have a penis? That is, what were your taught about the purpose of a boy's penis?



11. How old are you today?

12. How old were you when you first learned that you had something called a vagina?

13. Which state or country did you live in when you first learned that you had something called a vagina?

14. Are you Latina, Black, Asian, White, or Native American?

15. Was your mother Latina, Black, Asian, White, or Native American?

16. What is the last grade of school that your mother had completed when you first learned that you had a vagina? Did she have a college degree? Did she have more education than a college degree?

Is there anything more that you want to add? Please feel free to post your thoughts here or send me a private message. Thanks again for your time!

[ToWild2Tame]

1. When you were growing up, who in your family or extended family provided you with the most information about sex and sexual body parts?

~My Mother

2. Did this person inform you that you had a clitoris as well as a vagina?
Yes No Not Sure

~Yes

3. Did this person inform you that you had a vulva as well as a vagina?
Yes No Not Sure

~Yes

4. Did this person inform you that girls and women can have orgasms?
Yes No Not Sure

~No

5. Did this person inform you that female orgasms are usually experienced through stimulation of the clitoris rather than vaginal intercourse?
Yes No Not Sure

~No

6. Did this person provide you with any information about female masturbation?
Yes No Not Sure

~No

If your answer to 6 is Yes, please tell me a little about the information you were given about female masturbation:


7. Did this person provide you with any information about same-sex female relationships and lesbian sexuality?
Yes No Not Sure

~Yes

If your answer to 7 is Yes, please tell me a little about the information you were given about same sex female relationships and lesbian sexuality.

My uncle (by marriage) has a sister who has been with the same woman since I was about 6 years old, when I was getting the 'sex' talk I remember asking my mom and she told me that some people prefer to be with members of the same sex and that is a personal choice, love is love.

8. Did this person provide you with any information about sex toys or vibrators?
Yes No Not Sure

~No

If your answer to 8 is Yes, please tell me a little about the information you were given about sex toys or vibrators.

9. What did this person tell you about why girls have a vagina? That is, what were your taught about the purpose of a girl's vagina?

~I was told the main purpose of a vagina is for birthing children, but that it also a source of pleasure when you are with someone you truly care about.



10. What did this person tell you about why boys have a penis? That is, what were your taught about the purpose of a boy's penis?

~Again both for procreation and pleasure.



11. How old are you today?

~30

12. How old were you when you first learned that you had something called a vagina?

~4 years old, I was ruched to emergency because I was up on the countertop and jumped down onto an open cablinet door...OUCH! That was the first time I heard the word vagina and they were saying it alot lol

13. Which state or country did you live in when you first learned that you had something called a vagina?

~Toronto, Ontario

14. Are you Latina, Black, Asian, White, or Native American?

~White

15. Was your mother Latina, Black, Asian, White, or Native American?

~White

16. What is the last grade of school that your mother had completed when you first learned that you had a vagina? Did she have a college degree? Did she have more education than a college degree?

~My mom was a highschool drop out, she had me when she was 17 years old.

[xkatex]

1. When you were growing up, who in your family or extended family provided you with the most information about sex and sexual body parts?

My Mother

2. Did this person inform you that you had a clitoris as well as a vagina?
Yes No Not Sure
Just a vagina

3. Did this person inform you that you had a vulva as well as a vagina?
Yes No Not Sure
No

4. Did this person inform you that girls and women can have orgasms?
Yes No Not Sure
No

5. Did this person inform you that female orgasms are usually experienced through stimulation of the clitoris rather than vaginal intercourse?
Yes No Not Sure
No

6. Did this person provide you with any information about female masturbation?
Yes No Not Sure
No

If your answer to 6 is Yes, please tell me a little about the information you were given about female masturbation:


7. Did this person provide you with any information about same-sex female relationships and lesbian sexuality?
Yes No Not Sure
When asked they explained their outlook on it

If your answer to 7 is Yes, please tell me a little about the information you were given about same sex female relationships and lesbian sexuality.
I am catholic, basically I was told its against the church...etc etc

8. Did this person provide you with any information about sex toys or vibrators?
Yes No Not Sure
No
If your answer to 8 is Yes, please tell me a little about the information you were given about sex toys or vibrators.

9. What did this person tell you about why girls have a vagina? That is, what were your taught about the purpose of a girl's vagina?
Where babies come out of


10. What did this person tell you about why boys have a penis? That is, what were your taught about the purpose of a boy's penis?
Where their urine comes out


11. How old are you today?
17
12. How old were you when you first learned that you had something called a vagina?
grade 1
13. Which state or country did you live in when you first learned that you had something called a vagina?
Ontario
14. Are you Latina, Black, Asian, White, or Native American?
White
15. Was your mother Latina, Black, Asian, White, or Native American?
White
16. What is the last grade of school that your mother had completed when you first learned that you had a vagina? Did she have a college degree? Did she have more education than a college degree?
Not sure, she went to MacMaster University

[sera300]

Originally Posted by BTDTWoman

1. When you were growing up, who in your family or extended family provided you with the most information about sex and sexual body parts?
Mom
2. Did this person inform you that you had a clitoris as well as a vagina?
No
3. Did this person inform you that you had a vulva as well as a vagina?
No
4. Did this person inform you that girls and women can have orgasms?
No
5. Did this person inform you that female orgasms are usually experienced through stimulation of the clitoris rather than vaginal intercourse?
No
6. Did this person provide you with any information about female masturbation?
No
7. Did this person provide you with any information about same-sex female relationships and lesbian sexuality?
No.
8. Did this person provide you with any information about sex toys or vibrators?
No
9. What did this person tell you about why girls have a vagina? That is, what were your taught about the purpose of a girl's vagina?
To have a child.
10. What did this person tell you about why boys have a penis? That is, what were your taught about the purpose of a boy's penis?
Nothing.
11. How old are you today?
41
12. How old were you when you first learned that you had something called a vagina?
9 or so.
13. Which state or country did you live in when you first learned that you had something called a vagina?
US
14. Are you Latina, Black, Asian, White, or Native American?
White, American
15. Was your mother Latina, Black, Asian, White, or Native American?
White, American
16. What is the last grade of school that your mother had completed when you first learned that you had a vagina? Did she have a college degree? Did she have more education than a college degree?
Some College

Is there anything more that you want to add? Please feel free to post your thoughts here or send me a private message. Thanks again for your time!
I still have the job of sex ed in the family.

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[lustforlove]

GIRLS AND WOMEN ONLY, PLEASE!

I'm a sexologist who is interested in the kind of sex education girls and young women get from their family members and relatives. I would really appreciate your honest feedback to these questions. It looks long, but most of the answers are yes/no and very simple. Thank you.

1. When you were growing up, who in your family or extended family provided you with the most information about sex and sexual body parts?
* my mother

2. Did this person inform you that you had a clitoris as well as a vagina?
No

3. Did this person inform you that you had a vulva as well as a vagina?
No

4. Did this person inform you that girls and women can have orgasms?
No

5. Did this person inform you that female orgasms are usually experienced through stimulation of the clitoris rather than vaginal intercourse?
No

6. Did this person provide you with any information about female masturbation?
Sort of

If your answer to 6 is Yes, please tell me a little about the information you were given about female masturbation: all she said was that it was completley natural and ok to explore your body, never said anything about plesurinf yourself or anything though


7. Did this person provide you with any information about same-sex female relationships and lesbian sexuality?
Sort of

If your answer to 7 is Yes, please tell me a little about the information you were given about same sex female relationships and lesbian sexuality. she just explained how some women like to sleep with each other and there is no shame in it to experiment, and that women have a far more touchy feely relationship.

8. Did this person provide you with any information about sex toys or vibrators?
No

If your answer to 8 is Yes, please tell me a little about the information you were given about sex toys or vibrators.

9. What did this person tell you about why girls have a vagina? That is, what were your taught about the purpose of a girl's vagina?
all she said was we have a vagina so the we can have sperm put inside us to make children and give birth through it.


10. What did this person tell you about why boys have a penis? That is, what were your taught about the purpose of a boy's penis?
she told me guys had a penis to put sperm in a women's vagina, her words


11. How old are you today? 15

12. How old were you when you first learned that you had something called a vagina?
11 since then my mum always tought e women gave birth throught they're buts lol

13. Which state or country did you live in when you first learned that you had something called a vagina?
England Bristol

14. Are you Latina, Black, Asian, White, or Native American?
nope just white bristish

15. Was your mother Latina, Black, Asian, White, or Native American?
nope just white british

16. What is the last grade of school that your mother had completed when you first learned that you had a vagina? Did she have a college degree? Did she have more education than a college degree?
just normal high school grades

Is there anything more that you want to add? Please feel free to post your thoughts here or send me a private message. Thanks again for your time!
my mum is always ok to answer my questions but she only ever told me extremly basic stuff and i had to find the rest out myself and then only then could i aske her
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[CrazyJenny]

1. When you were growing up, who in your family or extended family provided you with the most information about sex and sexual body parts?
My Mother
2. Did this person inform you that you had a clitoris as well as a vagina?
Yes No Not Sure
No
3. Did this person inform you that you had a vulva as well as a vagina?
Yes No Not Sure
Sort of
4. Did this person inform you that girls and women can have orgasms?
Yes No Not Sure
No
5. Did this person inform you that female orgasms are usually experienced through stimulation of the clitoris rather than vaginal intercourse?
Yes No Not Sure
No
6. Did this person provide you with any information about female masturbation?
Yes No Not Sure
No
7. Did this person provide you with any information about same-sex female relationships and lesbian sexuality?
Yes No Not Sure
Yes, limited
If your answer to 7 is Yes, please tell me a little about the information you were given about same sex female relationships and lesbian sexuality.
I was informed that lesbian relationships were rare, unapproved, unnatural, etc.....
8. Did this person provide you with any information about sex toys or vibrators?
Yes No Not Sure
No
9. What did this person tell you about why girls have a vagina? That is, what were your taught about the purpose of a girl's vagina?
I was told that a vagina was where the penis went in and where the baby came out afterwards
10. What did this person tell you about why boys have a penis? That is, what were your taught about the purpose of a boy's penis?
I was told that boys have a penis so that they can put it in the girl and make the girl pregnant, thus having children
11. How old are you today?
Almost 21
12. How old were you when you first learned that you had something called a vagina?
Ten. I found an old science textbook in the basement, read a bit, and then asked my mother
13. Which state or country did you live in when you first learned that you had something called a vagina?
Illinois
14. Are you Latina, Black, Asian, White, or Native American?
White (German-Russian-Spanish)
15. Was your mother Latina, Black, Asian, White, or Native American?
White (Russian-Spanish)
16. What is the last grade of school that your mother had completed when you first learned that you had a vagina? Did she have a college degree? Did she have more education than a college degree?
She went to college

OTHER INFORMATION/COMMENTS:
As you can probably tell, most of my sex knowledge was transmitted to me by my peers in school and by a bit of looking around on my own. My parents' official policy was never to talk about sex, and until I got really curious and finally asked them at age 10, I wasn't informed, and that only grudgingly. So, since they didn't want to teach me about it, that's the reason I feel reluctant to talk to them about relationships, love, and the fact that I've discovered I'm a lesbian.

[Godiva]

1. My mum
2. No
3. No
4. No
5. No
6. No
7. No
8. No
9. Well, I'm not sure if we covered it verbally. My mum basically gave me a book for preteens about the birds and the bees, and said that if I had any questions, to feel free to ask.
10. Same answer as question 9.
11. 18
12. My best guess is 4th grade, so about 9 or 10.
13. Massachusetts
14. White
15. White
16. My mum has a bachelor's degree in mathematics.

While I can't recall that my mum and I sat down and had "the talk," she did make it clear that she was always there for me if I had questions. I remember asking her what some slang terms meant when I was younger, which was a little embarassing at times. To me, the book was her way of giving me the talk.

Also, at my elementary school there were little lessons on girls and boys. We split up, and they just presented the basics e.g. girl & boy parts and getting your period. Obviously there was a class in high school on it, but by then everyone is well-informed, so the class was a joke, especially because it has to teach abstinence for federal funding reasons; although, I believe Deval Patrick (MA's gov.) just turned down federal funding for abstinence-only education! Yay!

Getting back to my relationship with my mum. We never discussed the physical action of sex, but when I was 15 (and got into a relationship) we had some intense talks about our views on sex, love, relationships, and birth control (a little). Now we have a very good relationship, and we openly joke about sex. She knows that I'm having sex with my boyfriend, but she is fine with it...or as fine as mothers can be with that sort of thing, because she likes that I'm in a healthy relationship and knows that we're being safe.

As far as information, I've been checking out websites like GoAskAlice.com throughout most of high school.

[BTDTWoman]

Just want to say thank you to all the women who have replied so far.

I urge more female members to take just a few minutes to look at the questions and respond. THANKS!!!!

[JustAGirl]

1. When you were growing up, who in your family or extended family provided you with the most information about sex and sexual body parts?
Probably my mother, unless you count books!

2. Did this person inform you that you had a clitoris as well as a vagina?
Yes

3. Did this person inform you that you had a vulva as well as a vagina?
No

4. Did this person inform you that girls and women can have orgasms?
No

5. Did this person inform you that female orgasms are usually experienced through stimulation of the clitoris rather than vaginal intercourse?
No

6. Did this person provide you with any information about female masturbation?
Yes

If your answer to 6 is Yes, please tell me a little about the information you were given about female masturbation:
"Keep it to your bed."

7. Did this person provide you with any information about same-sex female relationships and lesbian sexuality?
No

If your answer to 7 is Yes, please tell me a little about the information you were given about same sex female relationships and lesbian sexuality.

8. Did this person provide you with any information about sex toys or vibrators?
No

If your answer to 8 is Yes, please tell me a little about the information you were given about sex toys or vibrators.

9. What did this person tell you about why girls have a vagina? That is, what were your taught about the purpose of a girl's vagina?
Keeping in mind that my mum used "vagina" as a catch-all term for all the parts except the urethra and clitoris... Originally? Girls have vaginas to urinate with. When I started asking more questions, she told me that there was a part of the vagina that connected with the uterus, and that when a baby was ready to be born, the baby would come out of that part- but she hastened to add that that was not the same part of the vagina that was urinated out of! I don't believe my mother ever told me directly about the sexual nature of the vagina; that much I heard from books.


10. What did this person tell you about why boys have a penis? That is, what were your taught about the purpose of a boy's penis?
We had male dogs. I learnt early that boys have penises to pee with. It wasn't until I started reading that I learnt about the penis being a sex organ.


11. How old are you today?
Old enough to know better, and young enough not to care.

12. How old were you when you first learned that you had something called a vagina?
Quite young.

13. Which state or country did you live in when you first learned that you had something called a vagina?
U.S. of A.

14. Are you Latina, Black, Asian, White, or Native American?
White.

15. Was your mother Latina, Black, Asian, White, or Native American?
White.

16. What is the last grade of school that your mother had completed when you first learned that you had a vagina? Did she have a college degree? Did she have more education than a college degree?
My mother has a master's degree in education. The ironic thing is that as a phys. ed. teacher, she teaches secondary-school sex ed.

Needless to say, my younger sister knows that if she has questions, I am the person less likely to stammer and blush. I am also not going to kill her if I find out she's sexually active. My mother is a wonderful woman and I'm lucky to have her. However, she is a bit of a prude about sex and sexual matters, which is why I learnt most of what I know from textbooks.

[K4L]

1. When you were growing up, who in your family or extended family provided you with the most information about sex and sexual body parts? Probably Mum though limited.

2. Did this person inform you that you had a clitoris as well as a vagina?
No, though she did tell me that I have 2 openings there - one for urinating that was seperate.

3. Did this person inform you that you had a vulva as well as a vagina?
No

4. Did this person inform you that girls and women can have orgasms?
No

5. Did this person inform you that female orgasms are usually experienced through stimulation of the clitoris rather than vaginal intercourse?
No

6. Did this person provide you with any information about female masturbation?
No

If your answer to 6 is Yes, please tell me a little about the information you were given about female masturbation:


7. Did this person provide you with any information about same-sex female relationships and lesbian sexuality?
Yes No Not Sure

If your answer to 7 is Yes, please tell me a little about the information you were given about same sex female relationships and lesbian sexuality.

8. Did this person provide you with any information about sex toys or vibrators?
No

If your answer to 8 is Yes, please tell me a little about the information you were given about sex toys or vibrators.

9. What did this person tell you about why girls have a vagina? That is, what were your taught about the purpose of a girl's vagina?

Nothing direct. I don't really remember getting the 'talk'.



10. What did this person tell you about why boys have a penis? That is, what were your taught about the purpose of a boy's penis?

I said once that its amazing how a penis can become erect, my Mum told me that woman have blood go to their vaginal area and they become aroused.



11. How old are you today?
29

12. How old were you when you first learned that you had something called a vagina?
Not sure, always known I guess.

13. Which state or country did you live in when you first learned that you had something called a vagina?
Australia

14. Are you Latina, Black, Asian, White, or Native American?
Caucasian Australian.

15. Was your mother Latina, Black, Asian, White, or Native American?

Caucasian Australian.

16. What is the last grade of school that your mother had completed when you first learned that you had a vagina? Did she have a college degree? Did she have more education than a college degree?

Left school at 16 and pregnant at 17.

Is there anything more that you want to add? Please feel free to post your thoughts here or send me a private message. Thanks again for your time!
NW

Just add - I think I learnt more in making silly comments. My Mum would correct me, this was after I left home mind you! I was 18 then.