Need advice!! Should I have threesome

[bicurious girl]

I am in a serious relationship w/ a man I have been w/ for almost three years we have a kid together and everything. I have always been curious about sleeping with girls. A few months ago we were drinking with a couple of friends. We were in the bedroom with this girl and one thing lead to another and I had sex with this other woman while my guy played with me and then ****ed me while I ate her pussy and fingered her.

Since then I think about ****ing girls all the time and I want to have a threesome again. This time though I feel like I am willing to let him participate more and actually touch her and whatever happens. I already have a girl picked out, we haven't been friends for long but I do trust her and don't think he would ever try to cheat on me w/ her and figure she is a safe person. My guy and I have talked about it a lot and usually I feel insecure about him touching another girl but this time it is different. It turns me on to even think about it. My only concern is what if I feel weird or jealous afterwards? I don't Know!

I really wnat ot do this and it was my idea not his. Does anybody have any advice for me!!??!!

[Brandye]

There are dozens of threads on threesomes. Look around.

[alban lusitanae]

Don't do threesomes on stable relationships

[Treehugger30]

I think you should go for it. But it might be best to have a conversation beforehand, all three of you, so that you are on the page about what your future interactions will be and discuss your fears. Communication is the key to a healthy polyamorous relationship.

You sound that you and your man have discussed this thoroughly. And it seems like you don't have any real fear. So, maybe if you talk with this woman, you'll find you're on the same page.

Good luck and have fun!

[alban lusitanae]

Sorry about Hijacking the thread, and this completely out of the topic, since I already given my opinion:

After I gave my opinion, I received a negative reputation with the following remark "No one asked you". The topic is "Should I have a..." which means the OP wants an opinion and asked for it. As such: to whoever posted the reputation, you're an idiot. I doubt it's the OP, because whoever posts on this forum must be ready to receive opposing ideas to theirs, not expect "yes" answers to all (supposedely) requests for advice...

just my 2 cents.

Please do carry on with the discussion

[TheSenseMaker33]

Originally Posted by alban lusitanae

After I gave my opinion, I received a negative reputation with the following remark "No one asked you". The topic is "Should I have a..." which means the OP wants an opinion and asked for it.

The writer did ask for opinions and to be honest I completely agree..for some reason it will always leave some sort of doubt or curiosity if the other was better especially if there is a little jealousy in the relationship..

If you want to do it..only do in a fling, one night stand sort of thing.

I would suggest not doing it..just my opinion though.

[BabyBiBunny]

OK, coming from a bi swinger, I think that you should discuss your feelings about this. DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT have the third party be a friend, if there is any doubt on your mind or hers, it will instantly ruin a friendship and make things awkward. Don't let him talk you into doing something like this bcuz it is what he wants, you need to find it within yourself to do this to explore your own curiosity. You are the one that will be soing something new and unusual to you, and so therefore you are the one that should be most comfortable with the choice that you make. If you have any questions, plz don't hesitate to ask me, I have many years of experience in these situations, I have been trained by the best and therefore I am one of the best trainers out there.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Okay, but this is getting silly.

Do NOT have a threesome if you're relationship is NOT strong enough for you to stand at the side and let him enjoy her (and vice versa) at will even when you're NOT playing with either of them.

"I don't think he'll ever cheat on me.." --- Jeez! Is everything always ALL about you?

Either you trust and love him or you do not - if you don't then just end it all right here and now; if you do then give over with the jealousy/insecurity nonsense and let the 3-some roll as it will with whom it will.

And another thing..

No more of this "one thing led to another.." Either you control and accept your sexuality or you're a toy used by others. Better to own up and say "I desired her and..." than to just pawn the responsibility for what occured off on fate as if you don't have a brain of your own.

BTW 3-somes do NOT have to be bisexual. Mine aren't. And ALL of my 3-somes involve friends whether FMF or MFM. But then I nothing - least of all losing a man.