Domestic Violence Poll

[MasterBater101]

Domestic Violence...

What are your views on causes?
Can it be stopped?
What would you do if you could stop it?
Have you or a friend been in an abusive relationship?

Note: you do not have to answer the last question if it makes you uncomfortable.

[MasterBater101]

I will go first:

What are your views on the causes?
~Frustration, adultrey, anger, heavy drinking. Those are all I can think of off the top of my head

Can it be stopped?
~No, there will always be people out there who are abusive by nature, leading into a vicious cycle of abuse.

What would you do if you could stop it?
~Anything, I would give anything to stop domestic violence.

Have you or a friend ever been in an abusive relationship?
~No.

[girlysexnerd]

What are your views on causes?

It is human nature to be violent-seriously. This is why we start wars- everything from world wars to gang wars all the way down to road rage. Some people just have an extremely low threshold for self control, this can be further diminished by drugs or alcohol. These people try to pair up with people who are submissive and will allow this behavior to continue.

Can it be stopped?

Yes. Will it be stopped, no. There will always be people out there that look the other way- women who believe they deserve it, people who believe it is not their place to bud in, children who are defenceless, and people who refuse to see a situation for what it is.

What would you do if you could stop it?

I would try my damndest.

Have you or a friend been in an abusive relationship?

Yes, I was abused by my dad as a child, and from early high school on I have had an extremely abusive male friend, he is a lot better than he used to be- enough said.

[Doodlebug]

It can't be totally stopped as there will always be abusive people unfortunately. However, it can be greatly reduced through education, tougher laws, and other such things.

[Nikki Vandom]

We need to teach little boys to honour women.If you have a belly button you should be a feminist-regardless of your gender.

[bluesexy69]

What are your views on causes?- The cause is anything
from being raised around it. To stress and drinking.

Can it be stopped?- No but it can be reduced. Not only
by teaching our young men how to treat women. But also
teaching our young ladies how to treat a man. There are
also women who abuse they partners.

What would you do if you could stop it?- Anything. I feel no child
should have to grow up in a abusive house hold. Even if they're not
the ones being abused. They always think it's thier falt.

Have you or a friend been in an abusive relationship?- Yes

[pozzolane]

Originally Posted by Nikki Vandom

We need to teach little boys to honour women. If you have a belly button you should be a feminist-regardless of your gender.

Let me state that it is not just men who abuse and just women who are victims. Feminism is about equality and choice and not women being sexist or spreading hate and shame towards men.

I for one do not believe that humans are by nature violent. We are other emotions first that sometimes can lead to violence. Wars are not fought because someone just feels like fighting. They are fought over power struggles/greed (money)/religous views etc... We are those before we are violent.

I think we need to start looking more deeply in the mirror, speaking of human nature, to find the causes behind a lot of our societal problems. I am the problem. Stop pointing fingers. We are all cut from the same cloth.

Erase greed/lust for power/envy/ etc... and we would have nothing to be violent about.

[kinky1935]

i dont think it can be stoped there well always be men or women who abuse.alot of men like to hit.i had a boyfriend that love to hit me.i was lucky i met the boy im with now.he knows i will always be scard of being hit so he takes it slow with me.

when we frist met he did not know my real name i never tell anyone my real name till i know i can trust them and even now there are only four people who know my real name.and i took me a long time to trust him or even to talk to him but he loves me.

[Sinful Mizery]

My first love was both verbal and physical abusive towards me for 2 of the 3 years that we were together. It hurt too hear her call me the worse words imaginable weather it was a racist remake or not. She use to beat me and pull my hair trying to rip it out and so there would be chucks of it on the ground due in part of me having long hair. She was mentally ill and bipolar so i saw the good and bad from her often. But unfortunately the bad came too often and refused to leave. Leaving her was one of the hardest things i ever had to due because i still loved her no matter what she did too me. But our relationship came to the end with the last time she hit me because the cops were called to her place. She freaked out and started to hit me so i yelled out for someone to hear me and the chick locked me in her place so i was fucked. Plus i had a broken hand at the time, so much for protecting myself, but to finish this she kicked the shit out of me and i would not hit her back. Then the next day at the police station a cop sat me down and talked to me as if i was a abused women with a abusive man and he said that one day she'll kill you if you don't let her go. In the end my face was bleeding from her knee attack which hit me above the eye and i had a bite wound on the back of my shoulder. So to this very day i still have a hard time showing my emotions in any relationship since that happen.
Have you or a friend been in an abusive relationship? yes and yes

[Spicygirl82]

I voted that I am not sure. Though I think I lean towards the fact that there will always be abusive people in the world. It's sad but I think it's true.