hello
1st time here... hope i follow protocals properly.
so my wife is into anonimity. a fantasy of hers would be to do a kinda erica jong type thing, where we accident upon each other somewhere in public (our town is small, if we raomed for an hour or so, we would be bound to bump into each other), we dont speak, we find some semi private place, have sex then go on our way.
i have read up in this site on tips for public sex but i am wondering what else i can do to add to the anonimity. i was thinking maybe having sex with her in some way that we dont at home, though we are always discoverig new "techniques", or maybe wearing some wild stuff under my clothes, or maybe getting some viagra and really going to town (i have no idea how to get hold of some viagra, BTW, i do okay without viagra).
it just seems to me it should be more wild.
there is a dark side to this. the fact that she is attracted to anonimity worries me. it says part of her maybe wishes for something more than we have. that she loves our family but part of her wishes to escape, be free. before we met and finally married she has alluded to me that she used to dabble in this activity. i worry that part of her still yearns for something outside of waht we have.
thanks
me
If you do not need viagra, it would make no difference except, maybe, give you a headache.
Some years ago there was a popular song about responding to a newspaper advert and the couple met up Lines included "do you love pina coladas; making love at midnight; getting caught in the rain." Somebody will come up with it.
This all appeals to a desire for spontaneity and that is what your wife is looking for as was Erica Jong in The Women's Room. Her zipless was the ultimate in spontaneity with no history, no future, no entanglements and no responsibility. Do we not all wish for this to some extent?
Her dabbling may have had nothing to do with sex only with anonymity and fantasy. Do we not do this with people met on airplanes or trains or other transitory relationships? No need for honesty or trust or responsibility; governed only by the rules of civility. I have engaged in these encounters and made up my own story, my own life, my own identity - all fictitious. The stranger was no wiser and unharmed and I enjoyed my little act. Yes, I have included sex but not usually.
Do we not all yearn for something beyond our daily horizons? Don't you? I am on call all weekend and wish to roam free. I must respond in a matter of minutes and, so, cannot take my daily bicycle ride beyond very narrow limits. So, I fantasize. You? And what is wilder than a completely new identity and meeting all over again? You may be amazed at her (and your own) ability to dissemble and reassemble; morphing; making up. Sounds like fun to me.
Wow! Sounds wonderfully enticing to me...............
You are worrying too much about nothing, nittinboy.
After years of togetherness, my wife still likes to sit at a booth in a restaurant, slip off a shoe, and graze her foot up and down my leg. Perhaps you could do the same, or, if sitting side-by-side, letting your hand explore a leg and even higher up--just to get the ball rolling so to speak.
I suggested a not so public spot at a public park to somone a few days ago and she reported back that it was wonderful. Hint..hint....
There has been recent discussion about how some women like to be backed up against a wall with hands held high and together over their head while the other hand is free to roam. If you want to take this "stranger", passionately, find stout tree! Oh, yes, and then there is this little addition to the theme: If you are able to lift her up, then do so and have intercourse while fully clothed while standing there in front of her as she is pinned against the tree.
Viagra, et al, will only raise what cannot be raised on its own. I rather doubt you could get a prescription or that a doctor would give you a sample. Besides, you do not need help with the mechanics of "painting", only the content of the "artwork".
doc and other person, tahnks for comments, get the point. dont let it intimidate. yes i have obviously had my own and yet i love her completely. i am doing the old double standard and ashamed to admit maybe doing it as a male. thats what i like about jong, she says goose & gander.
i do like to slip my hand too far with my wife sometimes, maybe when we are driving or whatever the case, recently in the movies, she sort of takes a gulp her eyes get big and her inner thigh feels so sexy in my palm & her reaction.
thanks also for the advice on viagra, funny responses.