First, practice makes perfect, so don't give up. Ask him to hold your hips and guide you in grinding motions, than when you feel comfortable with that try the up & down. Also it's easier if you lean forward, almost laying on his chest, that way he can do some of the thrusting too.

My preference for a woman on top is for her to kneel astride facing me. Don't no why but I love it when she leans a little forward and reaches down to direct me into her. As she adjusts and lifts up and down 4 a little I admire and fondle her body, she leans forward and seems to apply alot of downward pressure to where it seems our pubic bones are grinding together. At this point she is just rocking back and forth grinding us together almost laying on my chest. When she nears orgasm the kissing becomes so erotic and she loves for me to hold her tight to me. She doesn't like for me to move around much so I usually just stick to lifting myself up into her for more pressure. For me this is one of the most erotic positions there is as I can admire her and watch her as shes getting hers

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Okay, I had this problem when I was first told 'how about you try ontop..'
It was so daunting, but practice makes perfect, and once you start practicing you will really enjoy it.

Just put your legs either side of him, and let either you or him put it 'inside of you', then find a motion that makes it feel pleasureable. Ask your boyfriend to support you as it can put a lot of strain on your legs if they aren't strong. He can hold your bottom and move you into ways that feel good for him.

The up down motion is preferred for my b/f, do the up down, and then I usually put a little grind (rub your self across his mound) before going back up again. This feels really good for both of us.

Or do the side to side grinding.

Once you start getting the hang of it, try doing it backwards (you facing his feet rather than his head), that feels really good too, and the same techniques are used, but you have more access to other parts of his body.....(balls).

For some reason I know how you feel... With my ex I just couldn't be ontop... I just didn't feel a connection with him when I was ontop... Maybe you just need more time with this guy before you get there. B/c now with my new man I happily get ontop :) If he says he wants me there I'm ready! So I think it's all to do with chemistry :)

Lol Jukie, im kinda with you. I could never get the hang of it. Then again I havent had much practise, and got rid of my first sexual partner and now im single!! Haha well mostly single.. I'll never master it bymyself! Haha.

This should be Sexinfo's motto... 'problem is... how the hell do i do my thang?'

Well, after you take that sock out of your mouth and actually type English - take horseback riding lessons. Posting at the trot while on horseback is exactly the same motion you use when atop a man. Use your knees as your fulcrum - you do know what a fulcrum is don't you? He can help but using a bed is better as you can get the springs to help you continue the motion without expending a lot of energy. Get a bounce going at just the right speed for you. Do you see?

[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;189435]Well, after you take that sock out of your mouth and actually type English QUOTE]

Tank u i caint stand havin too reed slang:confused:

i'd rather be on the bottom, but my BF wants me to be on top. he likes that soow much, so i do it for him, and i let him lead me.. just don't think about it and let go... he'll help you, and his body will tell you what he likes..

[QUOTE=jukie;190780]not bein rude or nuttin but if u dont like it dont read it? no one is forcing u to :) im here asking advice on my sex life not on my english :D[/QUOTE]

You'd be surprised at how related they are.