hey wadup yall. im new here and id like some advice.
so labor day weekend im going on a roadtrip with my boyfriend and his brother. my boyfriend is 20, and his brother and i are both 18. we (his younger brother and i)have always flirted but we tried dating and there was never that chemistry that his older brother and i have. so like there are no feelings involved as far as that part is concerned. well he asked my boyfriend what i was like in bed. of course he said amazing (he better anyway!) lol, and then he asked if he could sleep with me.
Okay so let me just say this-->im soo not the type of girl to go and sleep with every guy i meet. ive only had sex with my boyfriend (dateing for 2 years) and another boyfriend i had wayyy before.
BUT my boyfriend is wicked cool with this and that got me thinking. ive always been physically attracted to his brother. we are all clean as far as diseases go so thats cool and everything. and it might actually be a good time.
only thing, i dont want to like totally suck because im kinda nervous about this. like what if i do then he goes to my boyfriend, wow she sucks. i want to reallly impress him to make him want more. so what do you guys all suggest??
and one more thing, what if i moan his brothers name??
Children playing adult games and not wanting, taking, or acting responsibly.
This MFM circle of fun and games could cause hard feelings among the players. Do you want that?
Yeah, sure, sleep with your boyfriend's brother, what could possibly be wrong with that? Maybe you could have a treesome with their parents, too. One big, happy family...
yeah i have to agree i'm all up for a bit of group fun everynow and then and i di srongly believe in each to thier own but i think that sort of thing should be kept outside the family dont you?
geez guys, thats not very helpful--other than making me feel weird. we've talked about the possibility of jealousy,feelings hurt and what not and my boyfriend is looking forward to this more than his brother and i, sure we're up for it, but its my boyfriend who initiated the go ahead he's even planned it all out. i would never, ever, do something like this if he wasnt completely sure he wanted me too. and hes like not going to be there in the room, we have a luxury suite so its seperate rooms, and after im done with him he wants me to shower and go back and do him(him being my bf).
. but besides from the part that hes his brother-- just ignore that. say it was his friend? what would your advice have been then?
> besides from the part that hes his brother-- just ignore that. say it was his friend? what would your advice have been then?
> my boyfriend is looking forward to this more than (X) and i, sure we're up for it, but its my boyfriend who initiated the go ahead he's even planned it all out. i would never, ever, do something like this if he wasnt completely sure he wanted me too.
I believe I have finally reached a point where I will now use the phrase that this is just creepy. I think what bothers me is that you are giving your power and reputation away. "I would never, ever, do something like this if...." Take the if and all that follows out of this statement. Where is your integrity?
Your boyfriend has a fantasy that he hopes will become a real life adventure. After this third party (in this case his brother, but does it matter who) and you get it on, he wants you to freshen up and do him. There are several threads that declare what a nice adventure all this seems to be, yet when all is said and done, reflecting back, many women report that a threesome was a bad idea, regret having done it and that it eventually caused the relationship to end. And, what about the future relationship between the two men? I think you'll come out of this experience not a happy camper in hindsight.
> hes like not going to be there in the room
What's the payoff for your boyfriend? At this point it is still a fantasy, so, I ask, why do this? What do you think you'll get out of this?
[QUOTE=sweetlips07;190887]but besides from the part that hes his brother-- just ignore that. say it was his friend? what would your advice have been then?[/QUOTE]
But it is his brother - it's hard to ignore such a significant part of the story. Sorry if you don't like our responses, but this whole thing has "trainwreck waiting to happen" written all over it... We're just trying to help you.
Sounds as if you will make family get togethers much more meaningful, lol. Regardless, bad idea.
Meaningful? Na..na..na. More like stressful. Let's say this planned event takes place and she and the brother get it on only one time. Think what will be going through his mind and his mind's eye each and every time he sees her. He will likely be thinking about what she and his brother (her boyfriend) get to do, and when then his mind's eye will be reliving what they did that one time, over and over and over. Stress. Hard feelings, maybe? What else?
OK, fess up sweetlips. Are you actually the brother in this hot little scenario?
If you are indeed the girlfriend, here is my response.
First you say there is no chemistry with the brother, and then you say there has always been a physical attraction between you two. I thought chemistry means physical attraction, so I am wondering if you are more confused than you realize about your feelings toward the brother. Confusion in this kind of situation is not a good thing.
Try to imagine what your future relationships would be like with your in-laws if you marry this guy. If you break up with your boyfriend, think about how this might affect the brothers' future relationship with one another.
The potential for major emotional messiness would probably keep me out of a sexual encounter with two brothers. Wait to do the multiple male partners thing with men who are not related by blood or adoption.
[quote=dancingdoc2;190961]Meaningful? Na..na..na. More like stressful. Let's say this planned event takes place and she and the brother get it one only one time. Think what will be going through his mind and his mind's eye each and every time he sees her. He will likely be thinking about what she and his brother (her boyfriend) get to do, and when then his mind's eye will be reliving what they did that one time, over and over and over. Stress. Hard feelings, maybe? What else?[/quote]
I do not believe this "question" by the OP one iota...it sounds fictitious; hence, my answer! It's too contrived for me.
[QUOTE=sera300;190969]I do not believe this "question" by the OP one iota...it sounds fictitious; hence, my answer! It's too contrived for me.[/QUOTE]
Sera - I'll second that! Sounds like male fantasyland masturbation material to me.
Still, on the long shot that the OP was genuine, I gave her the benefit of the doubt.
[quote=BTDTWoman;190994]Sera - I'll second that! Sounds like male fantasyland masturbation material to me.
Still, on the long shot that the OP was genuine, I gave her the benefit of the doubt.[/quote]
I did the same...reason I said regardless, it's a bad idea! Fantasy land, yeap or some kid who got a hold of the computer and put it up as a joke!
It's not typical behavior for a 18 y/o female...sleep with the bf and brother together...sounds as if the poster is the little brother with the "hots" for his brother's girlfriend! And perhaps they are going on a trip for the Holiday weekend but it's his "wishful" thinking, LOL!
First of all, (not trying to be rude or pass judgment) this is his brother you are thinking about sleeping with. Whether or not he thinks it's cool and he brought it up; there could be a possiblity that he is testing you to see if you could be faithful whether or not he gives his approval. Testing to see if you feel enough for him not to want someone else, let alone his brother.
This situation all around is not right. Yea for you it could be fun, but think about it. What if it were you in the other room while your bf sleeps with your sister then showers and comes back to sleep with you? How would you feel? No matter what he says or how hard he tries, he will always wonder (that is if this isn't a test) what exactly you did, what you haven't told him, if his brother was better, if he can trust you not to do it again. There is so much at stake.
Another thing that bothers me is the fact that you are going to sleep with his brother (your bf not being there with you so it's not a threesome) and then wash up and go in the OTHER ROOM and sleep with your bf. What part of that sounds ok?
Whether or not he wants you to or makes you believe he wants you too, you should have the restraint (that is if you want to be in this relationship for a long time, which doesn't sound like you do) not to sleep with his brother.
Having a threesome is one thing, but either way you go, I would never in a million years do it with his brother. If it caused problems between you and your bf then it's highly possible to cause problems between the brothers. And that is just wrong.
Don't mean to sound like I'm yelling at you or judging you saying you're terrible for wanting or thinking about this; you just really need to sit back and think about this before you do it. I know you said you guys have talked about this. But have you thought about it from your bf's point of view, of what he's NOT saying to you?
As for if it was a friend, it wouldn't matter either. B/c you aren't having a threesome, you have having sex with another man (boy) in another room then showering and going back to your bf and having sex with him. No part of that is at all right. The only way I can see your bf being ok with this is just b/c he's trying to test you. Just my opinion.
Think about it.
Sorry I'm late.
First: If this is real - the older brother MUST be there when this occurs. The ONLY way you do anything even remotely like this is as a 3-some. Period.
Second: This ONLY happens if YOU want it to happen - not for any other reason. Stop it with the coy "I'd never.." yeah, right - grow up or go home.
Third: If this is NOT real - get a life!
'Nuff said
btw Dancing' Doc - I love 3-somes. And summerbreeze: if a guy tests like this - he needs to be dropped - fast!
EEK I completely agree with you. I have had friends that had something like this happen before. The guys that these friends were dating were immature and had a "odd" way of doing things.
If he is testing her then she should really think about the person he really is. To provok someone and then use it against that person is completely wrong. Any way you look at it, it's childish and he is just looking for something to end it over. If he is testing her that is.
But I agree that if they did it then it should be a 3some. No way should she go in another room and have sex with one then shower and go back to another. Well if she wants to keep the relationship that is.
TopGun had a song that sums this all up. "Highway too the Danger Zone, we're gonna take it right into the Danger Zone" I have to say...It sounds to me like either your boyfriend wants to watch you have sex with another man...and he knows he has a sure thing with his brother (this is less about family and more about fantasy), or it is a test that you are about to fail!
Hey, I'm all for consensual non-monogamy, but I'm going to call "bull****" on the post. The OP is very likely a male (possibly a female) that is entertaining this fantasy, and is receiving pleasure from others talking about it, even if the talk is negative.
As for the idea of two brothers, the greatest downfall would be to ruin the friendship between the two of them if things drifted out of control in the long run.
okay so i kno that it was like foreva when this was posted but after reading so many neg point of views i kinda just left this place. but i thought i would do an update on what went down. first of all, i am a girl, and yes i came here being truthful and actually did want opinions--good and bad. so thank you everyone who replied.
this actually did happen. if you'd like to know about it, then i will post it. if not i dont want to post it and have people disgusted. it was a positive experience though and has led to other encounters--such as swapping partners and girl girl guy threesomes between us all. *me my boyfriend and his brothers girlfriend, and also me brothers girlfriend and the brother.
I'm am so happy to hear that this turned out positive for you, and would love to get more details on how it all went down. I have always got alittle bit of a thrill out of the idea of turning my bf's brother on...
There's something very "Deliverance" about this entire relationship.
Can you squeal like a pig?
Sweetlips, You are addressing some highly sophisticated sexperts here, as well as the average curious poster. There is no doubt in my mind after reading all of your posts that you are not being truthful with us. That is a waste of everyone's time, including your own.
I don't know where there might be a shred of truth in any part of what you wrote. Please pursue your sexual fantasies on a more appropriate site, or at least be honest about sharing fantasies rather than reality when you are posting on this site. Thanks.
OP, what is your thoughts about your boyfriend SHAGGING your sister if the tables were turned? LOL