She was raised in a home where sex was filthy and nice girls don't do that. Bad luck? It will still follow her if she does it or not. She should not correlate the two.

i kinda get the same feeling...like bad things tend to happen if ive used the toy my ex bought me...also i'm having other medical troubles and i notice my symptoms seem to always get worse if i've orgasmed that day...sometimes it does feel like "punishment" for doing so...

There is absolutely no way that masturbation and back luck are linked together. If she feels guilty or bad about it afterwards, then she will notice when things are less than perfect afterwards, but that doesn't even make any rational sense, right? If that were true, then the general population wouldn't masturbate and I can guarantee that at least 99.9% of adults masturbate. Like Sera said, she probably was raised in a home where it was very frowned upon, but that doesn't mean she has to agree with it.

*resting head in hands* OMG! I could weep!

There is ABSOLUTELY NO correlation between masturbation and what ever happens in your life. Good luck and bad luck - are two silly concepts used by people who do NOT want to take responsibility for the consequences of their own actions. They can just blame it all on bad luck as if they hadn't done something stupid.

You make your own luck in this life and it has nothing to do with whether you masturbate or not.

...just because something bad happens to someone doesnt mean they did something stupid...
bad things happen to people all the time, for reasons that are beyond their control...it has nothing to do with their own stupidity

if someone is driving through an intersection in broad daylight and then gets slammed by some maniac or drunk driver who didnt stop, does that make them stupid for driving? or does it just mean that they were unlucky enough to be in the intersection at that exact moment?

It means they didn't LOOK carefully enough and therefore didn't see the on-coming drunk AND they weren't driving fast enough! Please notice that the drunk was stupid.

"Defensive driving" thwarts off many aggravations in life. Accept responsibility for all interactions in life.

Criminals are stupid but they are not entirely idiotic. They want a nice quiet life too. So they TARGET potential prey. Like sharks, they respond to certain signals. Don't send those signals. Demented family members should be restrained by other family members and turned in for everyone's sake. Disregarding your responsibilities to protect and defend is not "bad luck" it is cowardice. Lack of due care and attention is the cause of most accidents.

Malformations due to genetic miscoding is the only true example of 'bad luck' there is because there is no way to prevent and in most cases no way to repair such things.

Taata: That is one example of not just bad luck but random acts of violence--those acts as you describe are beyond the persons control. They are the exceptions in life. As Evil said; they are a whole different category as criminals--predatory behavior frowned upon even among the criminals in prisons--the prisoners take care of such predators on their own.

Now, with that taken in to mind, what you do with you life after such act is up to the person. Yes, it's a horrible experience & beyond description; however, there is help out there for those afflicted through living with it daily & the overall impact in life. If the individual chooses to ignore the underlying issue [the crime & not seek help when the time is appropriate/needed] that is their responsibility for the outcome--negative feelings remaining. Hence the reason for anonymous hot-lines and net works.

Been there & viewed it many times unfortunately. Times I wish I can say, as an independent observer, I do wish I never viewed half the happenings as such. Ever look at the note on the end of my posts? There are reasons for it being present--it's a mindset.

But a full life of bad luck? There is an old saying "If not for bad luck, I would have no luck at all"; have to make positive outcomes possible for ones own self-value as a human being and to cope with what life has tossed you along the road.

FYI: Many of those you describe go on in their lives to do something positive though changing legislation, form a grassroots organization, or just to head up "support systems" for others---aka "debriefers". Look at well known "Amber alert system" and why/who began it. Look at the National alert for such abduction cases and the :missing & exploited children hot-lines". All began as one person with many who stood together for various reasons...the end? A better infrastructure to assist...

As to being the person everyone picks on - you CAN change that.

"Why are you picking on me?"
"I don't like you."
"Well, I'm not fond of you either but I'm not breaking your arm."

then shrug and walk away.

Repeat as necessary.

(btw what they reply doesn't matter - you always say the last sentence.)

You can be nice without being thought a patsy.

Being too much of a nice guy seems to be one of my faults. The problem is that people tend to misunderstand you. They mistake 'niceness' or quietness for weakness, and will sometimes try to take advantage of you.

Well, I may be an easygoing quiet sort of guy, but I definitely have my limits. If someone tries to push me beyond those limits, I dig my heels in and make a stand. I don't become agressive, but I do become very controlled and assertive. I tell you, it really surprises people when they see that, because they don't expect it, having made the wrong assumptions about me. In that situation, I find that they usually back away very quickly, and it changes the way they regard me in the future.

Politeness & weakness=naive perception & those who take advantage of you. Be firm & confident--you are on here....and you write well, pick good guys, and those worthy of your time (from a previous post of yours)...

Oddly enough, people are surprised when I'm nice.
I think I'd like to see cycle get all "assertive".

Evil, you are nice in your own way. By that I mean, you give direct
straight forward answers to difficult questions. Some might see that as
being abrasive (not nice) but really you "call'em like you see'em." Does
that make sense??

If by 'nice' you mean 'not leading one down the garden path' then yes, I am nice. I do not tell 'fairy stories'. I do not tell lies. I may be more or less blunt/tactful depending upon what the situation requires. I do try to achieve great precision in language usage. I do not always achieve it. Ah well! One can but try!

Yes, you do achieve precision with your writing. And yes, you "try"
pretty darn good.