If you are not a bit aroused at the beginning, you will likely not become aroused. The fantasy is at least as important as the mechanical technique. Women usually do not focus on penetration as much as surface manipulation.

Without accompanying fantasy, and desire, a shower head or or even vibrator may make little difference. If you have no romantc visions, it is not going to go anywhere.

that happens to me, my fingers dont get were i want to get, i feel nothing but a finger going in and out my vagina..lol...but the shower really helped me, it makes it feel way better. may be fingering doesnt work for all girls.

You are right. We are each different.

Instead of putting your fingers inside you try rubbing them over your clit. But yes you will need to be aroused first!

yeah i dont really put my fingers inside except to get them wet a little bit. but when i orgasm the kind of go inside straight to my g spot -> its kinda weird

Hmm I disagree with Brandye on this one. I do not usually fantasize when I'm masturbating, I just focus on my own pleasure. You really just need to practice until you find a technique that feels good to you. There are a number of different ways of masturbating, you may have not found what suits you best. Here are a couple ideas of things you can try:
- rub your clitoris directly
- rub the hood of your clitoris
- rub your labia minora (inner lips) together to indirectly stimulate the clit
- pinch or pull at the clit
- finger yourself while doing any of the above
- use an object (like a dildo) inside of you
- reach your fingers inside of yourself to the upper wall (closest to your stomach) and locate your G-spot. Apply repeated pressure as feels good
- rub your breasts
- rub or massage the vulva
- stimualte yourself anally

This is by no means an exhaustive list of things to try, but these are just some ideas of things that you might enjoy. Really, you'll have to find what feels good to you. Then, relax, listen to your breathing, focus on your pleasure, and keep practicing. Orgasm WILL come to you, but you do need to "try" for it, in that you need to practice masturbating and be open to receiving pleasure. I hope this helped!

is that healthy though?!

your pussy should never be died!! lol

i have the same problem, fingers just don't do it, i am too embarrassed to go out and buy a dildo so i just use a stick candle, it's crude but effective, altho one time i had a kind that i bought from dollar general and the color dyed my pussy XD but if you have stick candles that are light colored then you can try that. it gets deeper so it feels better, at least it did for me.

I'm having the same thought as emily11.... Not only could the dyes be harmful, but I don't think wax residue would be that great for you either. Get a dildo - or at least use something non toxic, like a cucumber.

hasn't bothered me yet. i havn't used the one with the ****ty dye again, i use a different one that doesn't leave any residue, and i've used it for like.... *thinks* 7 or 8 months... i dunno, it never occured to me that it could be dangerous. the only time it bugs me is when it breaks (not inside but outside my pussy) and it has the little peaces that fall on the outside that i have to wipe off but uther than that it hasn't been a problem... i guess i'll stop but i never knew candles where toxic.

ahah, awh yes the famous cucumber!

just make sure its not something yourll be eating for dinner that week..

well to be safe you can always put a condom over teh candle or what ever house hold item you use