[QUOTE=Quote (Tessie @ Oct. 09 2005,13:35)]I think masturbation and the urge to do so are completely normal. I have never been jealous, threatened or mad that my S/O was masturbating. I never felt the need to ask for permission or announce when I do it. Not that I wouldn't tell him.

Porn, erotic stories, fantasies that you make up in your mind. They are all just tools for stimulation. If used correctly what is the harm in that?

I find the more I masturbate the more sexual I am around my man. He is the same way for me. Nothing wrong with that right?[/QUOTE]
I can see and understand your point. I guess it really depends on the people in the relationship. My fiance and I are both very jealous people so we feel that we need to communicate about it.

I guess the only way to know if it's a problem in your relationship is to talk about it.

I think masturbation and the urge to do so are completely normal. I have never been jealous, threatened or mad that my S/O was masturbating. I never felt the need to ask for permission or announce when I do it. Not that I wouldn't tell him.

Porn, erotic stories, fantasies that you make up in your mind. They are all just tools for stimulation. If used correctly what is the harm in that?

I find the more I masturbate the more sexual I am around my man. He is the same way for me. Nothing wrong with that right?

I think you should confront him. I'm a guy and everytime I ven think of masturbating to anything other than a picture of my love I break down and cry.

Hell, in our relationship we've made it a rule that one can't masturbate without the other's permission. This may seem dumb to you but it's a good show of loyalty to the one you love.

Brandye, she said, and I quote,
[QUOTE=Quote ] Thing is he thought I was asleep, he has know idea that I saw him masturbate then turned the computer off and went to the bathroom to finish. [/QUOTE].

He had no idea that she was awake... let alone willing.

I quite agree that this should be discussed rationally.  First, Fungirl, you're going to have to do it so he's not embarrassed that you caught him masturbating. (I'd imagine that would bring back memories of dear old Mom walking into the bedroom at the wrong time...LOL).  

You might say something along the lines of "I noticed you got out of bed the other night and I thought you were masturbating.  That's okay... as long as it wasn't something related to OUR sexual encounter.  If it was, we should talk about it."

If you ARE willing to be woken up for more sex later, you might add that.  Most guys don't want to be thought sex maniacs.

Well, as a doctor aand a people, I agree with Oberon. As a woman, that is different. I know all men, and most women, masturbate even while in a sexually active relationship. To have a partner using screen porn to masturbate while I was a few feet away and willing would be a horrible blow to my feminine ego.

Normal? I do not know. Any of my past male partners at least did it out of my sight or hearing. I am sure they did but knowing and seeing are different things.

Take Oberon's advice. Do not think ill of either him or yourself. Be careful this does not come out in a future argument. Talk to him calmly if you can.

Chin up.

Ask your boyfriend. He's the one that would know.

It may be something totally unrelated to you. Guys can be horny at any time... even right after sex. That being the case, since you say he thought you were asleep- rather than wake you up for more sex- he decided to masturbate. That simple. Don't be too quick to take it personally.

i no how you feel fun girl..... i had fell asleep the other day while watching a film wih my bf and he told me to go to bed.... so of i did... but in the morning... i notcied dry sperm on his belly well this straight away made me wonder... then when i looked on his history i noticed he had deleted it.. hwy do they do this... he promises me he wont hide anything to me but then why did he delete the history.... i just dont undertsand men one bit

I wanna know why you are checking up on him if you promised to tell each other everything... A relationship is based on trust, and unless he has done something to make you suspicious, you shouldn't be snooping. Cum on his belly is not a reason to be suspicious, that could have been nothing more than a wet dream.