Leave it for another day. Please read the sticky post entitled The Program. Do that.

[QUOTE=bravox2;211764]Took me a while, but I found the Program. Looks like fun and I'm sure she'll enjoy that more.

Thank you ![/QUOTE]

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You're welcome. Please understand that for most women a clitoral vibe is something for them alone - their masturbation vibe. Pretend its not there.

The only exception I'd add is that there are some dual use vibrators, notably things like the Omax or Hitachi wand that you can use as part of massage - and feel great. But honestly, using the hands is much more sensual.

Apparently the Omax was sold in John Lewis for a time as a regular massager, until they realised what it looked like when you turn it the other way up...:p

(By the way, I don't recommend it, it's bloody noisy)

The best massage device/tool is the human hand. Too often men reach for a tool unaware of the decrease in intimacy this causes. Oil and your hands are really all you need, buddy. Using your hands will bring you closer to her, and you will learn more about her body and the kind of touch she enjoys most - why would you want to miss that?

Well, if you want to introduce it into play then a position that always works for me is spooning, which is intimate anyway, and you reach around to hold it on her clit while you are cuddling up to her.

I think the bigger issue is introducing it. Ideally you want to choose one together, there are some friendly websites that can be fun to look at together - for the UK recommend www.lovehoney.co.uk.

But you've bought one now, so I suggest that before you begin to be intimate, playfully but simply ask, 'shall we try that little toy out tonight?'. If she says yes, great, if no, then don't get frustrated, take the chance to ask her how she feels about it. Listen to what she says, it's valid!

But also, if appropriate, let her know you fancied being a bit experimental and then more intimately tell her what you imagined doing with it, e.g. 'What I really fancied was curling up around you, kissing your neck, me inside you, and holding it on you, so I can feel and hear your reaction'.

Keep the interaction intimate, where YOU use it on her, only on her clit, no penetration if it is a toy that could do that, don't expect her to hold it, and make it only a small part of your play together.

Make it about you and her, the toy is just incidental. And that IS how it should be. Many of us guys are gadget freaks, and that can extend to the bedroom. Right now she wants you, not a toy, so go slow and see if you can convince her of the benefits.