Need help with anal

[ravishing]

I'm glad this is being brought up because it affects a lot of women. On the other hand, your story is like my worst nightmare. I can't imagine what you're dealing with. I think there are only 2 options. He's not going to stop wanting anal sex, even if he accepts that you don't want to. But the pressure and knowing your partner is missing out on something they want to do can be too much. You need to both either go to a doctor, and learn to deal with that pressure or you need to leave him. The problem won't go away by ignoring it, and you're only going to waste more of your time just waiting for it to stop. I don't know much about the business of divorce, but I think a man telling you that he never wants anal and then pressuring you only after you've been married for several years should be grounds for fraud. It's like emotional blackmail. It's not fair to wait several years until that person is in love with you and heavily attached and invested in the relationship to drop that bomb. You deserve better.

[DirtDriver]

You married an asshole. Simply put.

I just don't understand how a guy can not respect his wife/girlfriend/lover etc.

Listen, every guy has wild fantasies that he would love to do. But, if your wife isn't into that, then DROP IT. Its that simple!

A couple of years ago I asked my wife about anal sex. She said she was a bit nervous about it, but was willing to give it a try. We tried, we failed, end of the issue. Never once asked her again. I barely got my penis into her and she yelped in pain. I immediately stopped and that was that. Do I still fantasize about anal sex with her? Yes, but its just a fantasy and I get to play it every once in awhile masturbating.

Its called RESPECT. And if you don't RESPECT your partner, than you have a lot of moral and ethical issues. There is a term, its called "Ethical Egosim". Its when a person only acts upon their own self interest with no regard of the interests or other people. It is an immorally wrong concept.

I suggest you sit your husband down and lay down the law. And let him know you're serious. Don't do something that is painful and uncomfortable just to please him. Sex is much more than physical pleasure, its emotional too. He is hurting you emotionally. Thats bullshit. Draw the line in the sand and stick to it.

[LustyLisa]

Why is it that his anus is safe from penetration while yours isn't? You both are into "adult" web sites that extoil the amazing virtues of anal sex/play, so why isn't he so eager to jump on the band wagon of getting deflowered anally by a strap on? What's fair game for your anus should certainly be considered fair game for his own beloved anus!!!
Ask yourself this question, "why does he get the benefit of respect of his boundaries and limits but you don't?" Do you feel somehow that you arn't entitled to have boundaries and that they be respected? If I were you, I'd give him a taste of his own medicine. Get a dildo of equal proportions to his penis and tell him that you've got this really burning desire to take his anal virginity. Weild this dildo around like a sword and every time you go down on him or play with his package, place the dildo against his anus in a threatening manner. I'd pressure, coerce, threaten, and bully him until he either consents to the violation or until he begs off for what ever reason. Then ask him why should his boundaries be respected while he isn't respecting yours!!!