MOVED: Third party family relationship question

[toby]

Hi all
Not sure if im in the right place for this I'm new .Anyway my wife went on a trip to mexico with a sister in law to be but they split up a few weeks before and the trip was already booked. A few years later something came up about them driving around with a couple guy's site seeing. I asked her about this and she said oh it was nothing just some guy's helping with the sites what do you think

[dancingdoc2]

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> Anyway my wife went on a trip to mexico with a sister in law to be but they split up a few weeks before and the trip was already booked. A few years later something came up about them driving around with a couple guy's site seeing. I asked her about this and she said oh it was nothing just some guy's helping with the sites what do you think

Toby, please clarify the above. "They" split up.... Who is "they"? Do you mean the women or the couple about to be married?

As for what I think, I think that if your marriage is otherwise happy and secure and trust is in place, you simply drop the matter. There is no good reason to dwell on or make something out of this that is most likely making a temporary acquaintanceship with a couple of guys who know the area and agreed to show them. It may have been for money, it may have been a courtesy; either way, does it really matter?

My response to the question of "should I tell him/her" about this or that is: "of what benefit is it for the person to know?" Many years later and with a happy marriage, there is no benefit.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?
-doc

[EvilEvilKitten]

I think that you even asking the question shows that you don't trust your wife.

Here's what happened. They needed guides so they picked up a couple; drove babout and discussed each site and then they came back and dropped the guides off and went home.

And you're upset WHY?

Let's reverse this and see how it would play out.

You and your golfing buddy go on a tour of golf courses and you picked up a cute golf guide to ferry you about the various courses in a given area. You two toured a couple of of clubs/courses, came back, dropped the cutie off and went home.

Do you see?

Would you expect your wife to be upset about that? Would you accept her being all jealous - "you can't go out to play golf anymore" and so on? No, you wouldn't. So why should she listen to you bitching now?

[toby]

Sorry I didn't explain enough
They meaning the couple to be married and now she was single heading of on this trip

They were not guides they met them on the plane

[Brandye]

This is just plain silly: both the issue and the way the question is framed. Two women went on a vacation and picked up two men along the way who acted as "guides" during the trip showing the women around. And, this trip was alluded to in other conversation a few YEARS' later.

What the hell do you think was going on? The two guys tucked them in each evening and then retired to their own room to masturbate over the women's sexual appeal. The women cuddled with the teddy bears they had taken along in their carry-on luggage.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Some people always assume the worst as if a woman cannot control herself.
Seems some men don't remember how much rejection they used to get.

[Brandye]

And some women simply recall their younger days on a not dissimilar trip to the Greek Isles. We two women were in COMPLETE control. The two men involved were lost before the plane left the ground at Frankfurt-Hahn.