Male Appeasement Sex

[EvilEvilKitten]

Approximately 75% of women have sex “just to shut him up”. 84% of wives say they usually or always comply when their spouse wants to have sex even when they don't - versus 64 % of husbands. To say that the majority of women are bored is an understatement. As many as four in 10 American women experience some form of sexual dissatisfaction. Only 26% of women report themselves as “always” having an orgasm.

What is going on here is MAS or male appeasement sex. Women are having sex to keep the men happy and not to enjoy it themselves. This is very strange since women are sexual titans when compared to men. Once a woman is aroused, she can continue the sexual cycle indefinitely with each orgasm leading to the next and to the next after that. So why aren’t women enjoying sex more?

For one thing, women's sex drives are more influenced by social and cultural factors than men’s. Being taught “nice girls say no” and so forth takes its toll. The cult of virginity also has a negative effect.But that’s just the beginning of the negative programming. Men themselves teach women to deny themselves sexual enjoyment.

Masculine attitudes toward sexually aggressive and sexually experienced women are generally negative. Most men are highly competitve towards other men and knowing that a woman is sexually experienced or aggressive makes him feel that he will, in comparison with her past lovers, not ‘measure up’ and/or that he will not be ‘special’ to her. Masculine attitudes toward women who ‘play the field’ or who are less ‘romantic’ are also negative again because of this ‘need to compete’ and this need to be ‘special’.

Women are taught that men have fragile egos and that men must never be wounded in their pride so most women subordinate their own needs to meet his needs and we end up with MAS. Most women will tell you that they “enjoy fulfilling his desires” and they’re not lying, they do enjoy it. What they are not telling you is that they have also given up the idea of having their own desires fulfilled and are seeking satisfaction with what they can get. Ho hum, uninspired, ‘I’ll paint the ceiling beige’ MAS sex is the result.

What is the answer? For one, go back to the beginning and change what you thought you knew about sex. Let’s get rid of that “nice girls say no” for one thing. Good women like and enjoy sex. Her desires are just as valid and just as important as his. Next, get rid of this fragile male ego thing. His ego is his problem. Men should remove any thoughts from their minds other than this woman right here and right now. She has some ideas of what she’d like to do with you. Give her enough space and she just might show them to you.

This is what The Program and Body Worship will do for you. It will turn dull, uninspired sex into the kind of sex that makes you forget your own name. That joyous conflagration of souls that reaffirms life itself can be yours if both genders stop settling for less that she can deliver and he has the courage to take what she can give. Unleash her, hold on tight, and never ever look back.

[EvilEvilKitten]

The recent XMas Decor special shown on HGTV contained a superb example of male appeasement. Jewel, the singer songwriter, was first shown in her jeans and boots decorating her house with a designer. Then this accoplished talented woman changed into a 'little girl' dress all flowers on white with puff sleeves and a tied bow in the back (you all know the style), bobbed up her hair, and stood just inside her kitchen door hands clasped like she was aged about 12 to welcome her husband home "Oh, I hope he likes it!"

Yegods woman! Stop it, you're making me ill. Get out of that sharecropper's daughter outfit and go put on some leather and silettos or something!

[wet_suit_one]

I must concur.

[GreyShadow]

I suppose I could let some of you have pitty sex with me...if your worried about my fragile ego that is....

no dice? well, I for one don't need to be 'shut up' because I don't talk, I don't want anyone to appease me, and at my age the idea of having a virgin is....I remember when, it was awkward, to say the least....go through that again? uh, no...

A demur, compliant mate? no...someone with fire and confidence, who can stoke my fire in a mutual confligation of human passions that bards can sing about for the ages...yes, oh my goddess yes, heart and soul yes !

[EvilEvilKitten]

Seems I have some support for this Be Unbridled campaign.
Thank you.

[Brandye]

Male Appeasement Sex. New title; old concept. And, BadCat, worth discussing. Sometimes we women do not particularly want sex but that does not necessarily make it inappropriate. I have had some pleasant experiences simply enjoying someone inside me though with no desire for an orgasm for myself. Some of it is part of the female-male quid pro quo. He wants it more often than I; I want it slower and more relaxed than he. I give him what he wants and he returns the favour.

A few years ago we had a similar discussion in which I admitted to screwing a guy simply to get the date over and him out of the flat. That was my choice because it was easier than pushing him out the window or explaining what was none of his business.

Even some MAS can be used to our own ends as women.

[lnt1103]

I would have to agree with Brandye's final point. If he's as considerate a lover as he should be (and mine is), my continued interest in keeping him satisfied will reinforce his continued interest in keeping me satisfied.

[pinkFlames]

How about some Female Appeasement Sex?

[EvilEvilKitten]

I am an advocate of 'a meeting of equals' when it comes to pairing off. MAS is when the female is less than equal and accepts being less than equal to the extent that the two never will be equal. MAS is where it is always all about him.

[GreyShadow]

Originally Posted by pinkFlames

How about some Female Appeasement Sex?

crap, lost my train of thought for a response.....