Married man not happy in sex life

[mapsit4free]

I and my wife have been married for about 15 years. We love each other and we really don't have any problems. We have 2 kids. We are ok but I am not happy with our sex life. We have sex on very rare occasion, like once a month and this also for a less than 5 min intercourse. This situation is like that since she gave birth to the 2nd child. But I am someone who love sex with lot of kissing, sucking pussy , ass and her all body. I did have the chance to do long ago but not now. I have never have sex with another woman apart her and I am not a guy who can flirt with a girl. So I decided to pay for sex from this year. From time to time, I pay for sex, but can't do it very often, as this costs money. This year for the first time of my life I have known the pleasure of someone sucking me as my wife does it for me. She even does not let me eat her pussy now. So the 5 mins intercourse with her every month or after 2 months, has become very boring.

[Brandye]

Have you spoken to her about this desire to have a more intimate sex life? Have you asked her to see a marriage counselor with you? Perhaps she would be just as pleased for you to take care of the problem on your own and not bother her. This is perfectly acceptable in some cultures. Whatever you do must be discussed with her as you are putting her at risk with your visit to prostitutes.

[mapsit4free]

Originally Posted by Brandye

Have you spoken to her about this desire to have a more intimate sex life? Have you asked her to see a marriage counselor with you? Perhaps she would be just as pleased for you to take care of the problem on your own and not bother her. This is perfectly acceptable in some cultures. Whatever you do must be discussed with her as you are putting her at risk with your visit to prostitutes.

I had several discussion with her for many years now. I don't think anything will change. She says that she is too tired, life is not about sex, so every excuse is good. I have stopped having discussion with about sex.

[dancingdoc2]

> I and my wife have been married for about 15 years.

My wife and I...

> We love each other and we really don't have any problems.
> I am not happy with our sex life.

> I have never have sex with another woman apart her ... So I decided to pay for sex from this year. From time to time, I pay for sex,

These statements are an oxymoron.

> This year for the first time of my life I have known the pleasure of someone sucking me as my wife does it for me. She even does not let me eat her pussy now. So the 5 mins intercourse with her every month or after 2 months, has become very boring.

OK, now, what is really wrong? It seems that you have not tried to find out, or to fix the relationship. Relationships are not what we do to each other; they are successful because of what we do with and for each other.

As important is that relationships require communication and feedback. Both are discussed in articles listed in the Index.

More than likely the lack of intimacy is hormonal caused by the birth of your second child. Very often it can take months to a year or more to get things back to normal. I recommend that your wife see her doctor and get a complete workup.

How long ago was your second child born?

Rather than going out and seeking the pleasure? of another woman, why not take the time to work on the relationship with your wife. If it is difficult or you run up against a block, work with her to fix things.

On the off chance that this is not a hormonal matter, then it could be that there is a problem in your marriage that you are not aware of. It's the proverbial case of "if Mama ain't happy...ain't nobody happy!"

I suggest telling her of need to express sexually the love you have for her and asking if she is aware that this very important aspect of your marriage is missing. Learn what you can from her and then work together. If she is not a willing participant, seek counseling not a prostitute, and get some professional insight from this person. I believe you'd be much better off spending your money to a counselor.

[Brandye]

Then, mapsit, you are at a point of risking your own health with prostitutes. You are responsible for that decision. If your wife is not aware that you are visiting prostitutes, she is not aware of the risk of having sex with you. It sounds like she would prefer that you do want you want and not turn to her for sex.

Is it responsible for you to risk her health?

[wet_suit_one]

Frack buddy. Get a divorce (take the drubbing) and move on. Relationship is over. Sex is worth divorcing over.

And cheating on the wife, heck, she should divorce you for that to begin with.

Just leave.

Sheesh, some people!!!

[EvilEvilKitten]

OR you could do The Program with her.

It is my belief that you have sucked all the oxygen out of the room by ranting about what YOU need and she thinks he's not listening so why should I waste my breath - and shuts down.

It is about time you aske her hat she wants , then shut up and listen to the lady!