older partner..

[jaaniman]

so my hubby is gettin a little on the older side, so things obviously arent as Great as they used to be...he cant perform As well anymore soo makes it harder for me to get pleased. i dont want to hurt his ego or feelings so sometimes i fake cummin so he thinks he has pleased me. (poor guy tries and always wants me to be happy..sigh..always wants me to "cum"first before he does cz he likes to take a nap afterewards)...he cant take viagra etc extra cz he takes blood pressure meds...n he can still get n erection just not as hard or for long, so he holds his ---- to keep pressure. i dont want to cheat on him..but also have needs....are there any positions we can try? any advise? thanks...

[KinkySexKitten]

You can use a cock ring to increase the blood flow to penis and maintain a harder erection for a bit longer.

Perhaps you should consider talking to a sex therapist as well. They may be able to recommend some alternative sexual health medicine for him.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Stop being selfish and start working on The Program and Body Worship. You should also review the Four Hotspots - all useful articles on how to have superb sex regardless of age or condition.

Also your husband has a mouth and two hands so there is no reason why he cannot satisfy you. NEVER again fake an orgasm. No one likes a liar and whining 'I have needs' when you have a perfectly good if perhaps not quite clued-in husband is disgusting.

Men are not machines and they are more than just a penis.
Open up your heart and mind and see what you two really can do.

[Brandye]

If hubby is on the older side, you are old enough to not use teenie text shorthand.

There are times that faking an orgasm is useful but not in a marital relationship. He should see a urologist to see the range of help that is available to him and the two of you should see a sex therapist to get some ideas about what to do together. Hands and tongues can be even more useful than a penis.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Hands and tongues used TOGETHER are VERY effective!!!

[mikkiji]

I am an "older guy" (57), I take loads of blood pressure meds, have had a heart attack and triple by-pass, and have been diabetic for 45 years. Last night I made love for 45 minutes--yes, sometimes with my tongue, mouth, fingers, etc, but largely with a hard, erect penis. Neither age nor medical condition nor medications necessarily lessen a man's ability to perform sexually, and even if they might, that does not diminish his ability to satisfy a partner. I've had 4 partners in the last 3 years, and have not had a single complaint, only compliments that I was perhaps the best lover they ever had--and some of them had had plenty! I don't say this to brag, but to inspire--it takes two, it takes time, and it takes understanding, but an old man can be the best, because we are patient, experienced and willing to do what it takes to please a woman. Give the guy a chance...
Michael

[EvilEvilKitten]

Hurray Mik !!!
I coud not agree with you more!!

[jaaniman]

okay..thank you guys for your input..i posted this to get ideas...not complain...like i said he tries to keep me happy and i do the same...just posted to get new ideas to keep it going...as for fakin it...he gets tired and i feel bad - he doesnt stop unless he thinks hes pleased me...not trying to kill my husband here...

btw - as for shorthand...does age really matter? im on the computer and blackberry all day for business...these are things u pick up..didnt know i was writing an essay here.

[EvilEvilKitten]

With age comes experience, compassion and understanding - so for some things, I do think age is better!

As for killing him, perhaps you could work on becoming easier/faster to orgasm? It can be done. The articles I mentioned previously will help you two to hve the best sex without having to worry about killing him. I developed the techniques and ideas therein from 40 years of experiece and all of my men are at least 50 years old.

[theus]

I can understand why women feel the need to fake an orgasm but that can cause problems. I pay close attention to a womans sexual response when Im having sex. If a woman fakes an orgasm it sends a false signal to her lover. If he pays attention to your sexual response he will duplicate the same action. This will lead you to feel even more unfullfilled.
Your husband seems very willing to please. Im sure you two can find a way of pleasuring each other in your time of need.