Please help me...

[sushihh]

Hi!
i did not know where to turn anymore. i was hoping, you guys might give me some insight to a tinny little problem i have.
im a female... who is in a really great relationship. great, minus one thing... no sex! witch kinda makes it a friendship. out of 5 years, we had no sex for 3, i can count it on one hand. its sad! it breack me in half, but im not willing to give up. he is a really awesome guy. we both work ALOT, and see each other 1 or 2 days a week. i really though it was me. but im not ugly nor fat. i work out 6 days a week, no hygene problems, shave on a reguler basis, and extreamly flexible (thank u yoga!).
i know he is not cheating, i hired a pi. i know... sad! and i do trust him, truly, i do.
please, if anyone has a clue to what i should/can do, im seriously willing to do anything.

[cvh0828]

Do you want to have sex with him, then maybe you all need to talk about it. There might be some other situation that's not being brought up. Most men like sex.

[jaaniman]

honestly.. if u only see him 1-2 days a week wouldnt u both miss each other n be more attracted to each other..start off with a light movie n snuggle with em, then when its over if he doesnt seem tired, try to play /kiss etcc and go all the way..try something new but not to exotic. what used to turn him on? try that so he is confotable and kno u are doin it for him. my first answer would be hes cheating, but since ur sure hes not..then it might be somethin hes embarasseed about? talk to him, uv been together long enough to have an open relationship...good luck.

[KinkySexKitten]

Have you asked him why you don't have sex? You need to communicate about this to your partner, and find time for it. Do you both work busy job or are long distance? Seeing each other 1-2 times per week is not very often. Sit down with him and let him know you'd like to have sex when you see him.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Excuse me! You hired a private investigator on a man that is NOT your husband!?!? Just to find out if he's 'cheating' on you? You can't 'cheat' if there aren't any wedding vows. Give it up. And you wonder why you don't have sex??

Because you don't stick your bits into crazy - that's why.

Can't you just be honest and talk to the man? Why are you still with this man if you're not married to him???
If after 5 years you're not married and having a lot of sexual fun it is time to MOVE ON.