How to get him to turn me on better?

[childgoddess]

Me and my finacce have been together for awhile. Our sex life i find is alright, not as HOT as i found it before in the beginning. Which i know its natual after awhile your HOT sex won't be like it will be a year or two years latar. I find that he doesn't TURN me on with the stuff he does. He didn't even take the time to WORK me up to sex. I wanna tell him what would turn me on better like biting my back, cheek, etc in the sac. However i don't wanna come across as critizing what he's doing for me to turn me on. Is there any ways i could get this message across to him without being mean?

Thanks,
ChildGoddess

[nuttychick]

Originally Posted by childgoddess

Which i know its natual after awhile your HOT sex won't be like it will be a year or two years latar.
Thanks,
ChildGoddess

No it is not natural in all relationships...

You are intending to marry this guy so come out and say what you want..If he thinks it is mean then he needs to grow up...

[EvilEvilKitten]

Stop being such a baby and TELL the guy what you want!
Men do NOT read minds and they do NOT hear hints. TELL HIM.

[dancingdoc2]

Please read all of the articles listed in the Index. Read those that pertain to dating and the how-to's of making out, including EEK's articles listed on page two.

I recommend that you invite your boyfriend to join you on this site and to read the articles separately or together and after reading each, discuss what you have learned.

Your boyfriend needs some sex ed. plus a large dose of enlightenment on the subject of romancing a girl.

[EvilEvilKitten]

She still needs to open up and talk to her fiance'. Imagine if her fiance did to her what she's doing to him! "Read my mind, baby!" And by worrying about bruising his tender little ego she is treating him as if he were a child rather than as a fully adult man.

If you can't talk to him - you should not marry him.

[childgoddess]

Yeah, my boyfriend doesn't come across as being really romantic lots. He does everyday cook me food and helps clean up the house. I literally had to tell him several times to get me flowers. He sometimes once in a while writes me sweet lil love notes. And a few times a week he writes I heart you on things like in the snow, or on a pieace of paper to me. I wish he was more sponagoues when it comes to romance. It mades me feel like i'm not that special to him. He does even that agressive in bed anymore because he still has it stuck in his mind from a long time (when i told him i was afraid he was just using me for sex) He is now scared to be more agressive because i might get some anxiety he just wants to use me for sex. I wish he would get that out of his hand. I don't think he's with me for sex. I have been open what i want in what i want in bed before and it seems he has not acted on any of it very much.

[Rouge]

In all honesty, I'm in the happiest, most loving relationship ever and I haven't had flowers yet. IMO, doing dishes and cooking for you is way romantic, and takes dedication. In my relationship it's the other way (most of the time), I cook and clean, he goes to work. I'm fine with it, because we understand each other. Understanding is the most romantic thing of all, IMO.

[theus]

Childgoddess,

Communication is key in every instance. Many women expect men to read their emotions without them being verbally expressed. Let him know that you want him sexually. Whisper in his ear how bad you want him to dominate you in the bedroom. Soceity unfortunately has told men that woman don't like sex. It has left men to believe that woman only like romance. He is doing the things that he thinks you will see as romance. Men have a hard time being as romantic as woman would like us to because we are not as emotional. That why he is not as romatically sponataneous. There are so many things men do not truly undertand about women. In time as you grow together these things may come. Do you do anything to make him feel romatically spontaneous.? Well you can possibly increase your chances. Simple encouraging words are helping with some manly task may be seen as romantic to him.

[EvilEvilKitten]

You're acting like one of those idiot little pampered dogs that has to be carried around in a purse. You whine.

Stop it and grow up.

Of course he's not aggressive in bed! You told him to NOT be aggressive in bed because, for some reason, you have this huge issue with sex. So, like a good guy, he holds back so as not to cause you any anxiety! DUH! Of course he going to treat you like cut glass. What else did you expect?

Men are not less emotional, they are only less demonstrative with them. Instead of being all 'romantic' they do things for you. Hes' doing his part; now it is time for you to do yours & GROW UP!

[childgoddess]

Hey

i never told him to not be aggressive. Soo don't be assuming shit like that. That was soo uncalled for your reply.