Anal???

[sexylady1989]

My boyfriend of 5 years is constantly wanting to try Anal. He is persistent so he tries until I slap him. I just can't bring myself to do it. I know that it is supposed to be amazing but things go out not in that area. It grosses me out to think of sticking his penis in a place that is used for number 2's. Anyone else in the same boat? or got any suggestions?

[LustyLisa]

Let him know that in no uncertain terms that your anus is for your own excretory use only and that you don't intend to defend your position again ever unless it's with a rolling pin upside his head then impaled into his own anus! Also let him know, again in no uncertain terms, that his failure to respect your boundaries is damaging to your relationship and you won't continue to tolerate his disrespect. You teach people how to treat you and continueing to put up with him pressuring you about an unwanted sexual act teaches him that you will eventually cave in. He has to know, understand and respect that you have ownership over your body and his continued pressure only shows how selfish and childish he is.
Anal is one of those sex acts that carries a heck of allot of risks and dangers, especially to the one who'se being penetrated anally. So, the person being anally penetrated should at the very least be currious and desiring of the experience to begin with. Not that it lessens the risks, but then if you suffer sometimes unavoidable negative side effects at least it was your own idea, not because you were pressured by some thoughtless, callous and selfish jerk.

[Brandye]

Do a search and you find yards of threads on anal. Including many good reasons not to - starting with you do not wish for the experience. End of discussion.

[EvilEvilKitten]

"If you want to DIE."

comes to mind and no, it isn't amazing unless HE's the one RECEIVING anal because HE'S the one with the P-Spot - the damn fool got it backwards.

To shut him up you say and also wave a vibe specially made for this "You first!" The combination of fellatio while he's also being vibed on his P-Spot is INTENSE! so men tell me After that he's not gong to want to waste it by doing anal on you.

Stick to your guns, girl!

[Raine]

I'm scared as hell to try it. I mean, my fiance can play around there if he absolutely has too - i mean it doesn't feel bad - but it feels weird and my butt cheeks always tense up.
He knows I'm not interested in it - he doesn't push it. But it's still on his list of things to try. I just Do Not understand the thrill. Who knows what it is? cause I'd love to know!

[EvilEvilKitten]

It is a submissive thing - oh they won't tell you that, instead they will talk about being filled, good because it is naughty/dirty, some profess to orgasm during anal - this is all woman receiving, you understand, but it is "him big he-man can fuck me anyway he wants" in reality.

For guys they say tight and that power thing I just mentioned but they also like the naughty/dirty thrill - if they are giving. They can orgasm from it.

You do NOT have to do whatever you do not want to do and you should not have to repeat yourself.

Just beause it is possble does NOT mean you have to try it. Sex upiside down while hanging from the ceiling - you can pass on that.

IT IS YOUR BODY - OWN IT.

[sara.]

That's a bit rude of your boyfriend. You shouldn't have to slap him to stop, a simple no should do the trick. If you aren't into it then he needs to respect that.

[Emo Pop Princess]

i agree with sara. my husband trys once in a while but he over all knows that i really don't want it anal. no means no and if you have to slap him for him to get the point then you two might want to sit down and talk about why he doesn't take no for an answer. if he gives you grief than you might want to take about other ways he can pleasure you without going anal.

[dancingdoc2]

> He is persistent so he tries until I slap him.

It has been written (by me) that "No" means Stop! Your boy needs to learn this as well as some manners. Both of you must learn communication skills, discussed in yet another article listed in the Index.

>> you might want to take about other ways he can pleasure you without going anal.

Please read this article beginning with the note below the link.

"Playing Ball" and How To Tips for Prostate Massage
This is also an excellent tutorial for people interested in and concerned about the how-to of Anal stimulation as well as play.

"Play" is the key word. I agree with those who do not want a penis inserted; however, there is nothing wrong with engaging in stimulating a clean anus outside and/or just inside with the fingers as discussed in the above article. The anus is richly endowed with sensitive nerve endings that turn on and become very reactive when a person has become very aroused. Playing around there is no different than with any other part of the anatomy.

So, give consideration to fingering in place of inserting a penis. Dildos and toys are another matter.

[EvilEvilKitten]

You need to get a new boyfriend if you have to resort to force to get him to stop.