What should I do?

[Brandye]

Do not rush.

[dancingdoc2]

for everyone reading this thread:

* Understand that giving an ultimatum rarely if ever works.

Instead of this, simply state your position, once, and then keep quiet, waiting for a reply. Harping on the matter over and over is not a good path to take, nor is repeating and repeating. This is another situation where "once is enough".

* Relationships are partnerships.

Relationships are managed. Disagreements are negotiated. A common requirement for both is communication and discussion, not a monologue, not a diatribe; certainly not silence.

[Cireg01]

Why would you give her an ultimatum like that??

That's kinda immature to be honest. . .only high school kids do the ultimatum thing.

Adults talk about what they want, if they think the other person can provide it.

Done and done. Talk to her.

[Infamous Ob]

Alright, new problem: We were watching a Porn video to get us in the mood for a few rounds before we went to bed... Anyway, I was about to go down on m Wife, keep in mind she's been working all day and night prior, but I suggested she go take a shower first. So anyway, the video played on, we rubbed and kissed etc. So I went down towards her vagina about to remove her panties and start the session, when I smelt a weird stench. So I stopped, and went down again to make sure that's where it was coming from, and then I went up to her ear and wispered: "Babe, go hop in the shower..." Instantly she was upset, "Get the fuck off me, etc, etc..." I'm totally lost like what the hell did I just do? So she's Very upset about the entire situation. Then she calmed down, and I ended up just giving her a back massage. We didn't have sex tonight. So my question was: "Babe, why are you mad? Im sorry, I appriciate you, I love you the same no matter how you smell, etc, etc..." She kept saying that she didn't care about to situation anymore, but I could tell she was pissed. She even put back on her shirt and sweat pants... My question to females especially, is: Why did she get mad? And why do females get mad when men tell them about their vagina?

[EvilEvilKitten]

YOU INSULTED HER

I do not know how you could have missed that one.

[Infamous Ob]

I didn't know she would get so mad over it... I tried to tell her as nice as I could. Anyway, we're passed it now. So for future advice if I ever need to do it again, what should I do? Say nothing or what?

[EvilEvilKitten]

Just make showering together beforehand part of your pre-bed routine.

[Infamous Ob]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

Just make showering together beforehand part of your pre-bed routine.

Sure thing.

[Infamous Ob]

I haven't had sex with my Wife in about 10 days and it's driving me crazy. She's pregnant and she's now on her 2ND Trimester which I thought she would be more into sex, guess I was wrong. We've been getting into a few arguments, but nothing major. She's been giving me oral every other day, but when ever I try to have sex or try to give her any type of pleasure or oral, she gets upset after a while and it really kills the vibe. She says she was getting discharges last week which could've been a UTI or Yeast coming up, but she didn't start hurting or avoiding me until we had sex awhile back and afterwards she said her vagina was burning a bit. Since then, I've been telling her to go get checked out so you'll be OK and we can have sex again. So now it's been about 12 days or so, I'm not even sure. She's scheduled to go see a doctor tomorrow, so I hope she's OK and that we can get back to our sex life, I'm going insane. I'm trying to be supportive and cater to her, but I'm worried if we keep going down this no sex route, then it can hurt our marriage in the intamacy/romance/sex department...

[nuttychick]

I had to re-read your first post to make clear what is going on.
And really All I can say is WOW you two are bringing a child into this?
2 months ago it was words of divorce and concelours (no mention of pregnancy)...1 month ago you insulted her because of her smelly vagina (still you didn't mention the pregnancy).. now this in the second trimester ....

Do you think it maybe a hormone sort of thing?