Help.!!

[dlb]

I suggest beginning with the advice I gave you in my first reply: "As for the submissive thing-you and he should discuss what submissive means to you as individuals and as a couple. It seems to mean something different for every person and every couple."

I am not a big fan of the dominant submissive thing. My personal observation has been that it works better for couples who keep it within a role play framework. There are couples who try to stay within their dominant/submissive personae 24/7-365 and they are the ones who seem to have the most problems with it. When people think it is really real it tends to mess with their heads and cause strife in the relationship. When couples realize it is a game that can be turned on or off depending on the situation and the moods of the players it works better. Again these are my personal observations of and comments from several couples I know who are very experienced in this.

Once the two of you decide what you consider submission or submissiveness to be you will be able to play. You can't play a game if you don't have an objective and rules.

You might decide you want to switch. That means you don't always play the same role; one time you might be the submissive one another time you might be the dominant one. Most of the couples I know who engage in this sort of play have found that this works better for them.

Since everyone has a different personal definition of domination and submission there are many who will disagree with some or all of what I have written.

My wife and I practice Bondage and Discipline and Sadism and Masochism. Many BDSMers, especially the S&M folk, think that everyone should should be dominant or submissive. I like many Bondage people do not agree. I prefer to be called a rigger, a bondager, a sadist, or a top. I allow people to call me dominant if it makes them feel more comfortable

[Mrsdeepthroat]

HAHAHA..Okay so what you said in your previous posts doesn't go with what I was saying. You know what let's just make this simple. I DON'T REALLY CARE WHAT YOU HAVE TO SAY. So you can leave your comments but I don't wanna see them so im just gonna block you. Simple. K!!

[Rouge]

Out of curiousity, is he your husband or boyfriend? I noticed that on your page it says husband, but here it says boyfriend. I'm confused.

[nuttychick]

Originally Posted by Rouge

Out of curiousity, is he your husband or boyfriend? I noticed that on your page it says husband, but here it says boyfriend. I'm confused.

More confusing then days of our lives

[CumShotCutie]

I have had these type of problems with a lot of men, when i started my job as an exotic dancer, it totaly eliminated any fears i had. ( im not saying to go out and find a dancer job lol!)
just be confident, think about waht you want, and remember to enjoy yourself, relax.

its all about pleasing the woman after all!

[jayj1289]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

You are being silly. Stop it. If you don't see your bf as being doninant enough to induce or release the submissive in you then perhaps you should get a bf who would suit you better.

Did it never occur to you that he may not want to become what you think you want him to be?

Stop thinking the world revolves around you , only you, and only around what you want.

Stop yelling at me. If you cannot express yourself clearly, that is not my fault, it is yours.

I think I understand what she is trying to say though. She loves him, but you cant change who a person is, so she has to decide which is more important to her. She is with him emotionally just not sexually... Which suckssss

[EvilEvilKitten]

I understand her completely but she's not willing to think this through. So, I'm blocked. Rather than face up, she's going to run away.