Want to rock her world

[EvilEvilKitten]

Yes, the possibility of there being issues is high.

Just remember how 'suddenly' you became 30.

[EvolvingM]

What 'exactly' is that supposed to mean?

[EvilEvilKitten]

Does graduating from high school seem all that long ago?

[Tokkan]

Go back to the basics. Carry out in your marriage what you promised to do before you got married.

Go back to romancing her, the real basics. Flowers, gifts, love letters, surprise weekends away, a romantic dinner and a walk along the beach looking at the moonlight flickering over the water etc. We all know how to do this.

I have been married 27 years. Today I romance my wife like I just met her. At least once per week I email her at work a love letter pouring out my soul to her and telling her my deepest and raw feelings toward her. Out of the blue I bring her flowers and small gifts. When she is uptight I will giver her a full body massage and not except anything in return.

I deliberately do all the romantic things and constantly look for new ways to surprise her and please her.

I focus on what I can give her and attempt not to do it in a way that shows a motive of getting something in return.

How is our marriage after all these years? Its fantastic. I am not ashamed to do all the "korny"things that many guys are afraid to do.

The results of doing this over the years has been so successful that I have sex on demand when ever I want it.

You have to get inside her head before you get into her panties. So many men completely miss the point of this. She wants to be romanced, she wants to feel this is about her as a woman and that its not just about sex. She wants to feel wanted not only on a physical level but more importantly on an emotional level.

For a man, I sincerely believe that writing love letters to your wife is one of the most effective tools. Many men do not want to share their deepest feelings. Its not manly they feel.

Throw that idea away and write to most meaningful, emotive and sincere love letter to her as though your life depends on it. Dont get into sexual issues too much except to say that after all these years she still arouses you in ways you never though possible.

Tell her you think about her all the time and that you cannot imagine life without it.

Listen.... write these letters like its the last letter you will ever write to her. Pour out your heart, pour out your soul, get past your male ego and get down to deep intimate, loving thoughts and feelings and sweep her away by openig up your heart to her.

If she was going to die tomorrow what would you say to her about how you feel bout her? Treat it like that and treat everyday like its the last day you have with her.

Dont write a letter like you are trying to con her. Tell her that you have some feelings that you need to get off your chest and that the matter is so important that you have written them down to ensure that you dont miss any point.

If it takes days or a week to compile such a letter then take the time to do it. Read it, re-read it, edit it and add to it.

I cannot tell you how much a profound effect this has on women. They are not used to men opening up and exposing their souls. She wants to hear this so give it to her!!

If you have to, admit that you feel that you (yourself) need to be more romantic or get back to being romantic and then follow through on being that way.

A relationship take work, but if you are motivated and creative in finding ways to have a hot and steaming relationship then its worth the effort.

In the past I have had to work on myself. The pressures of life and career led me to be inattentive and selfish. We started to grow apart so I started to do some soul searching and reached the honest conclusion that I as the male was falling short of being romantic and fulfilling my wifes emotional needs.

So I set about studying, yes studying what I could do. So I wrote a long and heartfelt letter to my wife and we later both came to tears over it (we were not splitting up or anything like that) and ever since then I have kept the cards, notes, letters, flowers, etc etc coming thick and fast and you know what, the marriage is fantastic on an emotional level and bedroom activities take care of themselves.

I now have a wife that aches my sexual advances and fulfils any and all of my sexual desires with her. But all of this has to start with her mind and how she sees you in the sense of "What does he think of me".

I cannot emphasize enough the need to go back to the romance. This is the first date of the rest of your life. Grasp the opportunity, put aside the male ego, expose your soul to her ride the tidal wave of love that she will return.

Try it, you wont be disappointed.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Well, Tok's half-way there I'd say.

Still the post speaks of him getting all of his desires met upon demand. It could just be his use of the language.
But there remains some doubt.