reason doesn't make sense.

[EvilEvilKitten]

And it was after that that he began 'cutting back' on real sex with you?

[dlb]

Try drowning him in sexual attention. Then he won't have the energy, much less the desire for viewing pornography.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Nyah - just get a lover or two. After all, it isn't like HE's going to notice!

[2little]

thanks evilevilkitten.
i'm not sure if you were trying to but you kinda put a lighter note on things.

i basically told him i wanted a divorce, if he couldn't give me the attention that i want and he is going to give it to other women that he doesn't know, i am going to find someone who will fuck me.

and since then he has been wanting to fuck me everyday...

i am not letting him ofcourse. because i don't want him to think that he can fix it all just like that. but i think he got the idea now.

[lnt1103]

EEK, I'm going to take a page from you, hope you don't mind.

Just to prove a point 2little.....do Body Worship and The Program on him one night, then while the two of you are basking afterward, whisper in his ear

'now....wouldn't you rather have that more often instead of some ol' video?'

[EvilEvilKitten]

I do have a most lively but wicked sense of humor.
No, Int, I don't mind at all, hun, esp it is just what I told her several answers back.

[dlb]

Originally Posted by 2little

i basically told him i wanted a divorce, if he couldn't give me the attention that i want and he is going to give it to other women that he doesn't know, i am going to find someone who will fuck me.

and since then he has been wanting to fuck me everyday...

i am not letting him ofcourse. because i don't want him to think that he can fix it all just like that. but i think he got the idea now.

It looks to me as if you both have serious problems. If you are interested in your marriage you might want to see a professional counselor. Withholding has never solved anything.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Tell me dlb - how is it okay for him to withhold sex from her and yet not ok for her to withhold sex from him?

You were all understanding when it came to him spending his time with pornogrpahy INSTEAD of with her.

[dlb]

Withholding sex has never solved anything.

[lnt1103]

dlb, I agree with your current premise. Having said that, however, and not meaning to pile on but ... EEK's got a point. When he chose a video over her for four months straight, he simply needed more from her....but now, she's got issues. I don't get it.

It's also worth noting that, whatever the motive for not playing daily, it accomplishes the whole 'people are not machines' concept of not overworking themselves.