From Constant Sex to Interrupted

[blatant_narcisism]

So at the start of our relationship, my boyfriend and I used to have sex constantly, or at least wanted it at the same times.

It's been about 2 years since we started having sex and we hardly ever get in the mood at the same time, and it's hard to get the other person to want it (in the morning, he's kissed me and held me down for hours to get me to respond...).

How do we learn to "take it when we can get it"? It's an increasing issue for both of us that we really don't want it when we aren't in the mood and I'm unsure what to do, because sometimes we go days and it's very painful for me, and I'm sure for him.

Any help will be accepted.

Thanks
Em

[EvilEvilKitten]

"holding me down for hours" - is WRONG!

Sorry, and all that but tis true. Instead of continuing your little dealth spiral - do The Program - a sticky post found on this site when both of you have the time, the room, and at least the willingness to try.

Both of you have got to stop being SELFISH.
Stop thinking "Me, me me, me! I want it now!" when it comes to sex.

Sex is a cooperative venture that should result in a conflagration of souls reaffirming life - if it isn't, then you're doing it incorrectly.

Begin anew and this time, think "You, you, you!" instead.

[maupassant]

Whilst impromptu sex is great and one can just let it happen, maybe agreeing to allocate time or a space in a busy schedule for some good old rumpty-tumptywill produce some results. Anticipation is a great appetite enhancer.