First threesome- wanting more

[jbecker]

My husband and I are about to have our first threesome. Its going to be with a guy he works with. My husband is very excited and so am I. We trust each other completely so that is not a problem. My husband is also bi, he likes to be dominated and I cant do it for him like he wants so we agreed it was ok for him to go outside of our marriage to take care of that need with a man. Im ok with this as well it doesnt bother me, I love him the way he is. But the problem is that he's very soft and gentle with me and thats not what i want and i have tried telling him this but he's a pretty skinny guy and cant do it like i want. And I also feel as though he doesnt want to because he wants to be the one submissive. So my question is do you think its ok to ask that I too be allowed to go outside of our marriage for this (specifically with the guy we are going to have the threesome with). I feel that he wont allow it because I would want to be with another man and not the same sex as me. (like he's doing) This is all strictly sex, we know how to separate love and sex so that is not a problem. How do I approach the subject without making him feel as though he is not man enough for me?

[maupassant]

Originally Posted by jbecker

My husband and I are about to have our first threesome. Its going to be with a guy he works with. My husband is very excited and so am I. We trust each other completely so that is not a problem. My husband is also bi, he likes to be dominated and I cant do it for him like he wants so we agreed it was ok for him to go outside of our marriage to take care of that need with a man. Im ok with this as well it doesnt bother me, I love him the way he is. But the problem is that he's very soft and gentle with me and thats not what i want and i have tried telling him this but he's a pretty skinny guy and cant do it like i want. And I also feel as though he doesnt want to because he wants to be the one submissive. So my question is do you think its ok to ask that I too be allowed to go outside of our marriage for this (specifically with the guy we are going to have the threesome with). I feel that he wont allow it because I would want to be with another man and not the same sex as me. (like he's doing) This is all strictly sex, we know how to separate love and sex so that is not a problem. How do I approach the subject without making him feel as though he is not man enough for me?

I think that if he is allowed an open situation and an extra-marital situation, then you too are entitled to the same facility.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Just TELL him since he's going outside for fun that you should also be able to and then ASK him how does he feel about it?

You then discuss how he feels about you going outside for fun.
There is NO need to tell him what sort of fun - just fun. Shrug. You'll see what you like when you get there.